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loolapaluza

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Sup, guys i have i problem
From time to time i pickup chicks in bars\clubs.
Last two girls was really into me(touching,asking questions,investing in other words.)I tried to escalate-unsuccesfull (just lack of skill imho+bad logistics). So i go for contacts.

I tried to keep texting at minimum,and tried to apply methods from Chase article
So girl number uno just ghosted me, she didnt return none of my messages.
With girl #2 i tried to escalate once more next day,failed. And she went on vacation in other city,so i tried to keep in touch once a week.Her messages was short and dry.Today she blocked me.
So i need your thoughts\opinions(maybe articles) on the situation. Am i lacking something? Maybe poor texting,maybe something with my wibe or else.
Generally i have good reactions from girls when i talk to them, so i should get some success from time to time. But all i have is failure.
 

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Sup, guys i have i problem
From time to time i pickup chicks in bars\clubs.
Last two girls was really into me(touching,asking questions,investing in other words.)I tried to escalate-unsuccesfull (just lack of skill imho+bad logistics). So i go for contacts.

A failed escalation usually doesn't bode well for getting her number and trying to get a date.

I find the most effective ways to not get ghosted (all else being equal) are:
- Seed the date and have her agree to at least a rough idea of what the date will be before going for the number.
- At the end of the approach remind her of the unique reason you like her (not that she's hot).

The end of the approach is crucial, because it's where you close the first deal. Up until that point she hasn't had to give you anything, now she does. The way she feels when you ask for her number and she thinks "hmm should I?" is the way she will remember you when you text her.

If you try to escalate/pull and it fails, and you end up having to go for the number, you have to spend a little time resetting and bringing the frame slightly back from sexual intent to rapport/vibe building. The last thing you want is to give her the sense that you're grabbing the number as a way to save something of value as you run out of the burning house.

I tried to keep texting at minimum,and tried to apply methods from Chase article
So girl number uno just ghosted me, she didnt return none of my messages.
With girl #2 i tried to escalate once more next day,failed. And she went on vacation in other city,so i tried to keep in touch once a week.Her messages was short and dry.Today she blocked me.
So i need your thoughts\opinions(maybe articles) on the situation. Am i lacking something? Maybe poor texting,maybe something with my wibe or else.
Generally i have good reactions from girls when i talk to them, so i should get some success from time to time. But all i have is failure.

You'd have to write a field report and give more details to get anything more specific from me, but it seems likely to me that this has everything to do with what happened in person and having negative momentum at the end, rather than anything to do with texting.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake
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