Bushido

[Reave Krieger]

2 Girls Shisha Lounge

A few days ago I was in a shisha lounge with my brother. We went there mainly to watch the football match Germany vs. Ukraine (Euro Cup).

We sat down next to two girls. One was rather unattractive and the other quite beautiful. First we just sat there. After a while I pre-opened her (she was facing away) and asked about her flavor of the shisha.

She answered me and I tried it which I consider investment on her part. She then went to the bathroom and I talked shortly with her friend and introduced myself. When "my" girl came back I introduced myself to her as well. Then we did a bit of small talk (no deep diving).

We then went back watching the match and not talking to each other. At the end of the game I wanted to ask for her number but I failed due to too many thoughts in my head - I was stuck in there.

Lessons:
- deep dive
- get the number

 

[Reave Krieger]

Day Game Attempt & Girl in Gym

Today was the first time after about 1 month that I went out to do day game again (because of all the exams that came up lately).

So during my ride to the city I already became kind of excited. As if I was about to approach a woman, even though I wasn't there yet - anticipation.

Fifteen minutes after arriving there I saw the first proper "target". A girl sitting at the fringe of the marketplace on a bench. I though about approaching her but didn't. That was again the biggest mistake I could have made. Because the longer I wait, the more difficult it becomes to build social momentum. So I kept walking and smashed my forehead...

Walking along the streets there were a lot of opportunities to open which I didn't act upon. Finally I was in a store and pre-opened a pretty girl who hovered next to me at the shelf. It became a situationally relevant opener as I asked her for some nail polish. We just talked about that fucking nail polish and I wanted to give her a compliment about her looks but I fucked up. Then I thanked her and let her go.

Throughout my outing (about 2 hours) I twice almost gave a woman a compliment. But I was so stuck in my own head and couldn't do it.

I then went to the gym where I opened a girl who wanted to work out at the same machine as I did. That became a situationally relevant opener. We took turns at this machine and after she was finished I introduced myself (her name is Veronika). We did some small talk about her work out routines etc. but I didn't deep dive her.

At least I said "Nice to meet you!" and if I should see her again I can easily re-open her.

Before going out I had hoped that it would go better but it didn't. At least I did go out

Lessons:
- start talking to people ASAP for social momentum
- dare to open with genuine interest (easier said than done)
- keep women in a conversation for a longer time

 

[Reave Krieger]

Compliment & Hard Testing

Today I had the goal to make my first genuine interest opener. I fucked up and only delivered a compliment but without pacing her reality and without introducing myself after the delivery.

My compliment was:

Hey. Halt for a second! I just wanted to say that you have an incredible walk!

She thanked me and I kept going.

Later I was in the gym. On my way to the locker room I walked past two women who were sitting there, waiting for someone. I recognized one of the women looking at me. I then made eye contact and averted it first, then went into the locker room, changed my clothes and went out again to get some water at the fountain. I saw the same woman looking at my eyes (out of the corner of my eyes) and met her eyes once more. She and her acquaintance laughed. I looked away, laughing myself. Then I approached them, took a seat next to them and asked them why they were laughing.

They said they were making fun of me. I asked them why and they could not answer. I then talked about the gym and training in general. They were pretty rude and tried to make me feel bad and were testing/challenging me hardcore. I did the same in return. E.g.:

Me: "Why are you guys sitting here? Are you observing the people who come and leave?"
Woman: "No. We are waiting for our friends!"
Me: "Do you even have friends?"
Woman: "Otherwise we wouldn't be sitting here, right?"
Me: "Well, I assume you're just observing the people.."

Pretty dismissive and it may be that I came across too aloof or unattainable. After 2 minutes into the conversation they started to melt a bit and were nicer to me, but I then excused myself and left to go and work out. They kept laughing and I didn't feel too bad about it

Lessons:
- next time make your first genuine interest opener
- teasing is good and one can train it very well
- introduce yourself

 

[Reave Krieger]

One Girl & One Cool Guy

Today I absolutely didn't feel like going out. I did it anyways to do day game.

First I started to wander around, talked to 2 people to build up a bit momentum but didn't open girls right away. I went to a fair and almost got into a brawl which made my adrenaline go up quite a bit. But still I didn't approach any new women. Then I lit a cigar and kept going.

On my way back to my car I saw a group of girls sitting on a bench near on the riverside. I looked at them while walking past and said "Hi!". They greeted back and before passed them completely one of the girl said something (I don't remember what it was). I then did a bit of small talk and soon concentrated on one of the girl who I liked best. I asked her if she was single and introduced myself (her name was Jessica). I started to deep dive, she asked me what I was doing as a profession and I answered intriguing. Then her friends said they wanted to leave to I knew I had to move fast. I said that I would tell her what I did when we meet and proposed to exchange numbers. She first denied and wanted to add me on facebook. I told her that I don't have facebook and took a step back, then persisted about her number. She then put her number into my phone and I called her. She said her phone had low battery and was off. So I couldn't check if it was the right number. I then said bye and kept going. After a few minutes I got a text message (not whatsapp) that said: "Who are you?". I didn't answer and when I got home and looked at her whatsapp profile there was a guy as the profile picture. Now I am not sure if that is she or the number of a guy. I will find out soon, when I text her. Hopefully it is the right number because she was really gorgeous...

As I kept going I passed another bench where an afghan man sat. I sat down next to him and got into a quite cool conversation with him. We changed numbers as well. He was a cool guy

Lessons:
- good job!
- talk to more girls next time
- make sure you get the right number

 

[Reave Krieger]

Fake Number

It turned out that the number I got yesterday was a fake/wrong number.

I wrote a bit back and forth with a guy whose number I got - which was quite amusing...

Lesson: Never trust girls even if they seem totally honest

 

[Reave Krieger]

Very First Genuine Interest Opener

Today I managed to do my very first genuine interest opener

It was a hard way though: First I walked around and talked to a guy I knew by sight (a martial artist: Tony). Then I messed up with the first girls I saw - two girls sitting on a blanket on the riverside. I walked past them and that was wrong and I knew it. Every time I mess up the first chance to approach I have a really hard time to build social momentum...

Later in a grocery store I saw an older woman with nice shoes. I pre-opened her and gave her a compliment about her shoes and outfit. She liked it

Then came a dry spell. I wandered around for about 2 hours, not talking to anybody. I then sat down on a bench (as I walked so much), enjoying the sun for about half an hour. Then I forced myself to get moving again as my goal for today (to do 1 genuine interest opener) wasn't reached yet. I got into a short conversation with an older couple sitting on a bench. After that I went to the fair again as yesterday but didn't open - though a lot of women noticed me because of my fundamentals and because nobody is there on his own like I was.

On my way back to the city center I walked behind a woman with tight fundamentals and a hot body. I had it in my mind to open her. She then had to slow down because there were people blocking the sidewalk. That was when I caught up and pre-opened her and fortunately delivered the genuine interest opener:

Hi. I saw you walking in front of me and I just had to come and tell you that you have a hot body and an amazing walk.

She then looked at me expectantly and I introduced myself. I immediately forgot her name because I was so nervous. (Later I asked again: her name was Caroline)

I did some small talk, then she told me she was on her way to get a snack. I proposed to accompany her as I was hungry as well. We kept walking and talking, got the food and sat down on a bench. I deep dived her a lot. She was 40 years old so she had a lot to tell. I didn't say directly what my job was.. intrigue

We then went back to her home (I always moved her) and I asked her if we should stay in touch or if I was too young for her. She was very polite and said she had a boyfriend and I said that's okay and that it was nice to meet her. I embraced her and bid her farewell.

Lessons:
- Older people are generally much better to practice on as they are more socially aware
- Touch more during the conversation
- Don't ask for the number: Propose or demand it!
- Don't ask if the girl has a boyfriend

 

[Reave Krieger]

3 Girls on Blanket

After the interaction with Caroline I went back to my car.

Just before I got there I noticed three (3) girls sitting on a meadow on a blanket. I immediately approached them and opened situationally. Had a cool conversation and deep dived each a little bit (they were all doing the same shit and were all quite unambitious).

Then I wanted to finally go home and wanted the number of each of them. The two more beautiful told me they had boyfriends so the least attractive was left in the basket. I took her number anyways as not to come off as an asshole and drove home.

Lessons:
- Deep dive only one girl, not all of them
- If you only deep dive one girl it becomes clear in which girl you are interested most
- Then you're not placed in a dilemma whose number you should go for
- Don't ask if the girl has a boyfriend, just assume that they want your number anyways

 

[Reave Krieger]

First Number Offer

Today I talked to 3 girls at the same time who were doing a service at our sports festival on campus.

One of them was really cute, the other was too thin but nicely dressed and the third one was a plain Jane.

I flirted for a while and (unfortunately) the plain Jane later wrote her number on a piece of paper and gave it to one of my colleagues (because she didn't dare to give it to me personally).

Lessons:
- Move faster and get the number of the girl you want
- Good job in showing value

 

[Reave Krieger]

Identical Twins

Yesterday I went to a bar with some coworkers. We started out drinking a lot of beer and after a while I was lit.

Then two very hot women entered the bar and they were identical twins (as it turned out). All of my male coworkers looked at them and were mesmerized by their looks.

I couldn't believe it at first but I approached them situationally. Had a nice conversation and then they left to go to the bathroom. I didn't open them again inside the bar.

Instead I danced with another hot chick, very sexually. But no close...

When we finally left the bar I saw the twins walking on the sidewalk and re-opened them. They were on their way to McDonalds. I accompanied them and talked a bit more. I then already felt that they were unreceptive and asked them if they had the feeling that beautiful women didn't have to be smart because of their beauty (teasing). They started to qualify themselves and told me they would study etc.

Finally I left them as my logistics were pretty bad and I wasn't all that horny.

Even though I would consider them a 9 or a 10... My pretended abundance mentality kicked in

Their names were: Kinga and Karoline

Lessons:
- Talk to very hot girls!
- Make sure you have tight logistics
- Persist more
- Don't be too "I can have every girl I want" as an excuse to persist

 

[Reave Krieger]

Compliment while Guy around

One of the assignments on my to-do-today list was: Compliment one foreign woman.

I did it.

I saw a cute girl standing there and chatting with a guy. I approached them and said to the girl:

Hey, I just had to come here and tell you that you are very beautiful!

She thanked me and the guy said something stupid. I responded. It was kind of awkward but I am proud that I did it

Lessons:
- it doesn't matter if there is a guy
- don't take it as an excuse!

 

[Reave Krieger]

3 Girls In The Street

Today I went out to the city to do day game.

I recently didn't build up my social momentum when going out so that my approach anxiety was often too high to do even ONE approach.

That's why today I tried to focus on building it. My first interaction was with a guy and a girl going up some stairs (I followed them) who had this new app on their smartphone. I think it's called Pokémon Go or something like that. Yesterday was the first time I heard about that and suddenly almost every girl in that age group (16-19 I guess) walked around with this app.

So as they were talking about the app I could open situationally. Talked for one or two minutes and then kept going.

Next were two girls (one hot and one not so hot) coming towards me who used the same app. I again opened situationally and they were receptive from the very beginning. I deep dived a bit and introduced myself, when the hot girl's sister (who was hot as well) joined us. I again introduced myself to her and then the tension grew and it all became kind of awkward.

Instead of asking the hot girl for her number and saying that we should hang out some time I wished them a nice day and kept going :/

Fucked up! I thought to myself: "This was just for warm-up, so i don't care!" - but still I gave myself an imaginary facepalm...

Lessons:
- always go for the number, just like introducing yourself
- if a "warm-up" goes well: act upon it!

 

[Reave Krieger]

Daygame Failure

Today (Sunday) I went out to do day game.

My goal was to ask 10 women:

Are you single?

according to one of the posts on Girls Chase.

From past experience I knew that I had to build up social momentum first. That's why I started talking to a family straight after getting out of my car. Then with two other people who were using a drone with a camera for fun (all situationally relevant openers of course).

My first opportunity to really open a woman was in the park. There were two benches next to each other and on each bench sat two (2) girls. I noticed that they were observing the people who walked past them. As I walked past them I looked into their eyes in order to turn it around and make them feel under observation. I guess I intimidated them a bit and furthermore I didn't ask any one of the 4 girls if they were single. Fucked up.

Next was a girl who was walking towards me with a very sexy walk. The street in which that happened was empty and she was listening to music via headphones. I missed the escalation window and walked past her.

Then I went into a forest nearby and one woman came towards me with two little dogs. I smiled at her and said "Hello!" instead of "Hey. Are you single?"...

The last good opportunity was in the city again. It was a young girl (about 17 I guess) who walked towards me. I heard that she was talking something into her phone, a voice mail probably. I took that (primarily) as an excuse not to open her.

All in all I spent about 3 hours walking around and didn't do one proper approach.

I asked 0 out of 10 women if they were single. Bad cost-benefit ratio!

Lessons:
- get your approach anxiety handled
- approach in spite of your approach anxiety

 

[Reave Krieger]

Approach Anxiety

Approach Anxiety is almost always holding me back and preventing me from the thousands of opportunities to practice game.

I read all fucking posts about how to handle this
- I tried to fool my own mind
- I tried to ignore it
- I tried to take baby steps
- I tried to force myself to approach in spite of it
- I tried to apply Mystery's 3 second rule
- I did challenges with my wingman in order to be forced to approach
- I tried to build social momentum (which was the best thing that worked for me so far)

The most emotionally draining thing for me so far is: Going out for 2-3 hours to do (attempt) day game and not doing one single approach. Every time I do this (and I do it regularly) I have the chance to talk to at least 10 new women to come into question. I then end up being happy when I approach one (1) woman and only compliment her on something, then letting her go. It's insane and every time I feel worse.

The worst thing is that I started doing this half a year ago and in the beginning I sometimes dared to approach more than nowadays. I have no idea why though. I certainly must have improved over the past half year, but it doesn't feel like it (because my results speak another language).

I can imagine that it is because of the disapproval of others about what I do. Parents can't understand what I do. No one I know (besides my brother) does this. My so called "friends" (co-workers mostly) pull me down and hate on me because they can sense that I am better with girls than they are. Plus some are very negative towards me. That's why I cut out most of the few "friends" I have at the moment.
I really need to meet some new, ambitious, high value guys and befriend them. I really need some people to hang out with in whose presence I feel good, acknowledged and motivated. A real mentor would be cool as well but it is hard to find one and I guess it would be hard to convince him to spent time with me (I am still a beginner and couldn't deliver much value to him).

Recently a bartender at my favorite lounge called me out on approaching girls in the lounge (he observed me).
He said:

Could you please stop harassing the girls in this place?

I didn't harass them at all. I only asked them to come and sit with me and my brother and when they neglected I persisted two times. That was it. No touching or insulting or shit. It makes me insecure about pick up or seduction in general when I hear things like that from other guys or females in my environment. Even though I know that he was just jealous and wanted all the girls there for himself (he seems not so high value btw).

Feminism and politically extremely left people will try to stop you as well:

No means NO!

Fuck YOU means you can suck a DICK!

A lot of shit that could result in me stopping to improve my game. A lot of people trying to prevent me from gaming (friends, girlfriend, family, other guys, female cockblockers etc.). That's why I have to push even harder and keep going despite all the negativity that is thrown my way.

From the outside and from the inside everything is against me getting better at game it seems!

 

[Reave Krieger]

Not done yet

During the past two months I didn't push myself as hard as I did before.

I keep studying game, i.e. I read a lot of articles and I watch a lot of videos. BUT I seldom go out just for practicing and improving my game. I just go through my day-to-day life with the intention in mind that every time I talk to a woman I try to apply all the stuff...

But this way I don't improve much. Because it happens maybe once or twice a week that I actually talk to a foreign woman for longer than 2 sentences. So my learning curve at the moment is rather shallow.

At the beginning of August I started my work (before it was studies) and now I meet a lot more new people than before. Therefor I also have more opportunities to train my social abilities in general, but I find it difficult to move things forward / number close with my clients. Still I will give my best to make something out of it.

The fact that I have more social contacts with people at work mustn't become an excuse for going out JUST for meeting new women. I bitch out a lot.

Need to handle this issue now...

 

[Reave Krieger]

Party again

Tonight I went out partying again after a long time.

I started talking to strangers immediately in order to build up social momentum. At the club were two friends of mine who also did "pick-up" without calling it pick-up

So I talked to and danced with a few women. Then there were two (2) women and one (1) man. The girls were rather pretty. One of them a little bit older, the other was more at my age. I opened the set situationally by asking Lisa if she was crying, because I saw tears in her eyes (it was very loud on the dance floor, so I only talked to Lisa). So we began talking and I teased her / flirted with her quite a bit. Then I asked her age and she let me estimate it. I told her I thought she was about 25 years old. She nodded. Then I went to her girlfriend (the older one) and asked her how old she is and if she was Lisa's mother....

This big tease was too much because after that they turned cold and I couldn't move forward in the set. Auto-rejection at work!

Lessons:
- as your fundamentals improve (--> higher value) you need to volume down the teasing in order to avoid auto-rejection
- talk to girls in the areas of the club without loud music. It is sometimes difficult to move girls from the dance floor to a talking location, so it would be better to turn it around and open at a quiet place, then move her to the louder location (dance floor in this case)

 

[Reave Krieger]

Best AA-Overcoming Technique

I personally found the best technique in order to overcome my approach anxiety (from Mystery).

This is very powerful!

All you need is:
- A wingman
- 100-200 dollars

Then you make a deal:

You give all the money to your wingman. For every approach / opener you do he gives you 20 dollars back. This way you will have to at least do 5 approaches to get your money back. If you cannot fulfill the task by midnight of the same day, your wingman keeps the money.

 

[Reave Krieger]

Six Interactions

So today I went out again to practice some day game.

By the time I am writing this post it is 01:42 AM already, so I will keep it short as I have to get up early tomorrow.

I had following interactions:

1. I asked a random older woman at a parking lot if she was from this town. She said yes and then I asked her if she knew where I could find a flower shop. She told me. I thanked her and said goodbye.

2. After having parked somewhere else I saw a bag at the foot of a long staircase. The bag was filled with several books but there was nobody to whom it may belong. So I asked the next best person who passed me if it was his bag. He neglected and told me that the bag was there for a while already. That's why I thought it must be an abandoned bag and took 2 books out of it for my own use. Those were books about occultism by the way.

3. I then went in a shop and walked around in the city without talking to anybody. It is often like this, that I rather talk to people in stationary places. But when I came back to my car I took a cigar and sat down on a bench. A few people passed by but nobody greeted me. That is usual in Germany. Then there was one guy who looked kinda social and I said "Servus" which is what we say here to greet someone. He returned "Gude" which is a similar greeting. That was it. No further small talk or conversation.

4. Then there were some workers who I asked a few short questions about what they were building at the market place. They weren't friendly at all and I kept walking.

5. Then I went to the fitness center. There were a handful beautiful girls. I talked to one of them who I opened situationally (she was't that hot though). I didn't go into deep rapport and didn't close.

6. Finally I talked to a very hot girl. She was there with her friend and I even deep dived a bit. She told me where her workplace is at the moment (s'Oliver store). That is great because now I can visit her there the next time and maybe then go for the close...

So all in all 6 interactions with foreign people today. Better than nothing I guess.

Lessons:
- Build social momentum even with men (and not only momentum for this particular day but also general momentum)
- Try to talk a bit longer to the girls so that you can go for the number

 

[Reave Krieger]

No More Complaints

I just read Denton Fisher's article about doing one thing at a time:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-target-one-thing-time-get-good-women

At the end of his article, after recommending to write field reports (as I do), he says:

But at the same time, do not mentally reiterate how you are messing up when you are out, because it stops the flow and keeps you from getting in the right mood to make approaches. This just makes you obsess about how much you suck – the same way good poker players can become suddenly horrid if they allow themselves to dwell on a bad hand during a game. You will only suffer.

So from this moment forward I will no longer complain about messing things up during my nights/days out.

 

[Reave Krieger]

With Liquor?

On Friday I went to a bar mile in my town. Before going out I thought to myself that it would be better if I begin approaching directly with a little bit of alcohol so that it will be easier for me.

I believed this will work because it worked the same way with dancing in a club. At first I couldn't dance at all because I didn't dare to do so. I was too unskilled and have never danced in public before. So I began drinking a lot of alcohol and still could't get me dancing. After 3 or 4 nights out I began dancing whilst drunk. Then, gradually, I reduced the amount of alcohol I drank. And every time I became better at dancing without being embarrassed about it - with less and less alcohol. One day I could dance without even having one drink. I felt like a king that day forward when going to a club.

Now I feel like this method could work as well with pickup.

I will start out easy: With alcohol and during the nighttime. Then, gradually going down to approaching without alcohol, but still in the nighttime, then (maybe with a little bit of alcohol) during the day and finally without alcohol in the daytime. I will give it a try, because a lot of different methods didn't work so far.

On Friday I tried to do this, but it didn't work. I exaggerated, unfortunately :/

Lessons:
- only drink 2-3 drinks (never more)
- gradually reduce the alcohol consumption

 

[Reave Krieger]

Are you Single?

I try to write my to-do-today list every day. Often I forget about it and write it after the day is already over. So I must get this together now.

When I do write a list, there's always something social included like:

- talk to one new girl
- make one foreign girl a compliment
- ask one foreign girl if she is single
- ...

Those tasks are the ones I most often won't fulfill. That's because they are way too hard to accomplish. But this way I don't profit from the winner's effect. Sometimes I do accomplish all tasks and those are the days I feel like a fucking king!!!

Regarding today, I didn't manage to fulfill the social tasks to compliment one girl and ask one girl if she was single. I went to the fitness center and there were hordes of beautiful women. I shortly talked with one guy as I walked towards the gym. He wasn't very receptive. Then at the gym I talked to a Russian dude. Then with a girl. She worked out at a machine I wanted to work out at. I asked her how long it takes for her to be done. She said one 2 more sets and she would be hurrying up. So I waited next to her and thought of a compliment I could make her. None came to my mind as there was nothing special about her though she had a nice body. After she was done I smiled at her and thanked her for hurrying up. She then went do another machine and after 1 set of mine I noticed her checking me out with the eyes. I didn't approach her again though

What came to my mind later was: I could have asked her to take turns at the machine so that we could talk a bit... Unfortunately this thought came too late to my mind. Next time I will test this one out.

So.... no compliment and no question "Are you single?"

PS.: Last week I went to a club and asked two girls if they were single. They both replied with NO. I persisted and asked them if they wanted to dance with me anyways. They agreed and I sure could have done more with them, I just didn't dare to because they said they were not single. I kind of freak out and my morality kicks in which says to me: "Don't even touch her - she has a boyfriend!" -- Hopefully this issue will resolve in the nearest future.

Lessons:
- Ask girls to alternate the machines at the gym in order to talk to them
- Practice the question: "Are you single?" in clubs until you dare to ask it during the daytime / on the street