Can a life mission be forced onto you?

[Meezy]

GC Team.
Chase has never ceased to stress over and over again about how important it is to find our life missions so that they may grow us into powerful men who know how to get things out of life.
My question today to all those who have found or are actively searching for their missions is , where do we draw the line in terms of what we are willing to sacrifice for our missions/utmost desires? I know there’s no question when it comes to giving a woman the boot, but what about family?
I’m 17, come from a ‘broken’ family, and the execs of this community are the closest thing I’ve had to role models, however my devout religious family’s values and yours are complete opposites, so much so that its hurting them to see me becoming more and more like you guys. (The women, my agnostic approach to religion etc.)
Now I’ve been given the opportunity to go stay with a relative in a place where I’ll get considerably more freedom in becoming the man I want to be. But doing so means leaving my mother and two little sisters behind. They’ve forced the role of ‘man of the house’ onto my shoulders , but it’s something I can’t carry as I’m not the man they want me to be.
If you had family that needed you, would you abandon your dreams to be a role model/leader for them? Or is this something else to be sacrificed in the grand scheme of things?

I know we are meant to be men of purpose but Chase says we need to do our best not to be a force of harm in other’s lives… what do you think?

PS- I hope you can see that this is not something I can ‘wait’ through. I’ve also tried the secrecy route, to no avail.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Meezy,

If you had family that needed you, would you abandon your dreams to be a role model/leader for them? Or is this something else to be sacrificed in the grand scheme of things?

Need you to be utility of course. They will use religion and morals while they go out and get what they want and probably get rail while not letting you know about it.

Just give some money or bear some responsibility like cleaning the house once per two weeks, to make yourself feel better. This are examples.

Zac

 

[Richard]

GC Team.
Chase has never ceased to stress over and over again about how important it is to find our life missions so that they may grow us into powerful men who know how to get things out of life.
My question today to all those who have found or are actively searching for their missions is , where do we draw the line in terms of what we are willing to sacrifice for our missions/utmost desires? I know there’s no question when it comes to giving a woman the boot, but what about family?
I’m 17, come from a ‘broken’ family, and the execs of this community are the closest thing I’ve had to role models, however my devout religious family’s values and yours are complete opposites, so much so that its hurting them to see me becoming more and more like you guys. (The women, my agnostic approach to religion etc.)
Now I’ve been given the opportunity to go stay with a relative in a place where I’ll get considerably more freedom in becoming the man I want to be. But doing so means leaving my mother and two little sisters behind. They’ve forced the role of ‘man of the house’ onto my shoulders , but it’s something I can’t carry as I’m not the man they want me to be.
If you had family that needed you, would you abandon your dreams to be a role model/leader for them? Or is this something else to be sacrificed in the grand scheme of things?

I know we are meant to be men of purpose but Chase says we need to do our best not to be a force of harm in other’s lives… what do you think?

PS- I hope you can see that this is not something I can ‘wait’ through. I’ve also tried the secrecy route, to no avail.

Take everything I say with a grain of salt as it's only my opinion.

My background is that of a psychology major who, for the past 3 years, has gotten more into spirituality, life coaching, intuitional leadership and an entire slew of other things that have helped me to become somebody capable of helping others. On top of that I've had some of the best mentors in the world give me hands on training in everything I've just previously listed.

The honest truth of the matter is that you are going to become who you are meant to be regardless of what other people think and feel and you need to look out for yourself first because if you are not living for yourself how can you ever become a man of purpose? Based on what you've said you're actively trying to become the man you want to be but your family is interfering, so now you're second guessing that decision; in other words you're taking their opinion of you into account far too much. WHAT IS IT THAT YOU WANT? That's the first question you need to answer. After you have that answer you go for it regardless of who is supporting you or rooting against you.

If they're really your family then they will support you however they can - even if that means letting you go.

So, in the grand scheme of things I would, personally, pursue what I want at whatever cost that comes at. I've already left family behind because they didn't support me, or flat out rooted against me and that just means that they're not really family and they've since been replaced by people who care for me. I've had to let go of friendships with people who were toxic despite them being in my life for upwards of 10 years.

The point is; you can't truly care about somebody else until you're taken care of first. If you're in a village and you're the only one capable of getting water then who needs to drink first? If you give all your water to everybody else without thinking about yourself then after a short while you won't be able to get any more water and then everybody dies. You need to take care of yourself and your wants first; the people who are going to support you will do so regardless of what you decide to do, the people who won't didn't intend to from the start, and other people simply won't care.

One last piece of advice, things only make sense when you look backwards. The little things that will eventually add up to who you become only make sense when you look backwards. Maybe this opportunity to live with another relative and have more freedom is one of those moments? Only you can decide on that though.

Keep us posted and let us know what road you decide to take. I'll support it and help you out with this however I can!

-Richard

 

[Meezy]

Thank you so much gents.
Obviously I did want to go out and live how I wished, but I was just concerned about my mother and my sisters, about how they'd think and feel.

But I think what Richard has said really hit home.

If they're really your family then they will support you however they can - even if that means letting you go.

Perhaps I do need to take care of myself first before I can do the same for others.

Thanks so much again guys, with this I can make my decision and move forward without any guilt.