Can you ask a girl for her friend's number?

[Starboy]

So there's this cute girl at work that is leaving in a couple of weeks and just put in her two weeks notice in. She's attracted to me and has given me pretty reliable indicators of interest and I was planning on doing the small ask which is basically suggesting that we grab a drink or a bite sometime and then getting her number. Today I kept getting nervous and postponed asking her because i'm not good at transitions in conversations or I feel like the small ask would come too random or out of nowhere. So I wanted to know if the worst case scenario happens which is letting this girl leave this job without getting her contact information within 2 weeks can I ask her coworker for her number? I know the coworker pretty well and I was gonna tell the coworker to tell the girl I liked that I asked for her number because I wanted to keep in touch. Is this a bad creepy or weird thing to do? Do girls find this unsexy/turnoff if you ask their friend for their number? Let me know please.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Sup dude!! A wouldnt do that!!

Creepy and weird unless she was super into you cause if ya wanted to keep in touch ya would have asked her yaself!! Saying ya want to keep in touch and then texting her *cold* hey lets go out is very random, not very sexy and does she want to waste time on that yah??

There's no transition required in this, step one get her talking yah? I assume ya actually talk to her and not just stare at her from across the room?? Mention that ya heard she's going, deep dive bout what she's doing a little bit and then say a would like to hear more yah? How about we go for a drink? When she says yeah get her number and then ya got yaself a reason to need it and a date already lined up nice and tight yah??

If ya successful ya can hang about a little bit so it doesn't look like ya got what ya wanted and ya left on that or quickly excuse yaself by having to get back to work or whatever it is ya doing but be smooth about it! and don't leave with a buy leave with a al talk to ya later yah?? Dont let approach anxiety beat ya, the worst that can happen is she says no an guess what?? Ya wont see her again anyway!! Who cares?!?! Be brave, assume attraction and go for it dude!!

 

[Starboy]

Hey dude thanks for the advice. I wasn't seriously taking that into consideration as I already had a feeling that was a bad idea. So today I saw the girl I was interested in her jacket talking to a bunch of her coworkers on the sales floor and I thought it was now or never so I went up to her and said hi and talked to her and she said she cleaned out her locker and stuff. Her last day was tommorow and she comes in to do inventory but I dont work that so I was doing something now. So after she speaks to her coworkers I say walk with me to get her away from other people and make some chitchat about her other job and just as the conversation winds down I make the small ask and say we should grab a drink or a bite sometime. And she said sure,but then she asks me if I have instagram and I said I don't. Then she says hmmm do you have snapchat so I say yeah I do so then she hands me her phone and I add myself on snapchat to her phone. I would rather have her number but I was afraid of saying just give me your number or by seeming too pushy so I just took the snapchat add. We said bye, see you later and I said I would hit her up and she was like yeah do that.
Was taking her snapchat a bad idea? Should I have been more persistent for her number? Can I still just use snapchat to text her out for a date or even use that app to transition into getting her real phone number? I figured yeah the number is best,but at least I actually spoke to this girl and made an effort. She was friendly and wasn't aloof or nonchalant to me so I figured I could make something happen with her.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Sup dude!

Firstly well done on having the courage to approach in the first place! Thats the first hurdle out the way yah?? Everyones opinion on this differs personally like you a prefer to use the number but not everyone does. At the end of the day its not perfect but its a way to contact her that she'll use so its a step towards what ya actually want yah? So whatever messaging app thing ya use its still basically text game cause they all have IM so they all work like text, the difference is with social media is that its a social status thing.

For ma last relationship a didnt even get her number or anything, didnt even ask for it cause a thought she was too drunk to fuck an thought a wouldnt hear from her again anyway an she tracked me down on facebook an a used that to set up ma first date with her. On that date a mentioned a dont really do facebook an she quickly asked for ma number. Kinda unrelated? A mention this to show that ya can progress from this an get what ya actually want.

Id have pushed for the number, it may seem pushy but what ya doing is being clear about getting what ya want where shes reframed it to a safer space. What they get from these apps is a background check which can work in ya favour yah? or can really mess ya up cause of ya marketing. Social media is now a business an that makes ya a product yah?? Thats something else to be discussed!!

Ya can definitely turn this round, ya use snapchat to text her but dont push for a number. She gave ya what she wanted an shes happy with that if ya start asking for her number through it it looks like an indirect attempt. Shes set ya angle ya only have to make the shot!! The number will either come with some report or it will come in person when ya get her out. In a perfect world ya would have got her availability with the snapchat an then ya message to handle the logistics if they not already set yahh?

Theres a few really good reads on GC on texting an basically a would run that. Try an set a date up within 5 messages, if ya need more report or ya find that to challenging do it in 10 - 15 but ideally 5 or less gets the best results!! An if she declines dont take that at face value at first ya can turn it around if ya unaffected by it yahh?? I know this is borderline needy and chasing but sometimes ya have to do that initial investment for them to warm up!!! Have nexted girls really quickly where when a decided to message again or play the no down a managed to get a lot more meet ups yah!!

Ya can make this work dude an if not next her there will be others!! but in for a penny in for a pound!! get yaself in an start messaging!! let us know how ya get on dude!

 

[psheer]

Seems like she wants you as an orbiter (ego boost), but honestly you never know! One time I was at the library sitting next to this cute girl and she asked me to watch her computer. Joked around with her and eventually asked for her number as she was leaving for dance class. She gave me her facebook. Friended her and she never accepted me back. Then, one afternoon we're on the bus together and I'm playing it cool like I don't recognize her. She's practically throwing herself at me...

 

[Starboy]

Update: So I hit this girl up yesterday on snapchat and it happens to be her birthday that same day so I say hi to her,ask her how she is and wish her happy birthday. Then she responds and says thanks and I try to make some conversation by asking her if she did anything for her bday which she says not really. Then I ask her how she is liking the new job she started this week and she says she's enjoying it and is very busy. Then I say
"I'm glad to hear that you're liking it I would love to talk to you more sometime. Do you think you would be free later this week to grab some food?"
"We can be friends! I'm actually gay."
"Oh ok I had no idea. That's totally cool yeah".
I know if a girl says let's be friends she doesnt want anything beyond that and probably even more so if she's gay lol. I never thought she was a dyke cuz she didnt look like one to me , and idk if gay girls can feel attraction towards men cuz she has given me signs but eh its whatever. I tried to make something happen but it didnt work out. I don't feel defeated at all.
I actually feel relief. There probably wasn't a lot I could have done. She could've lied to me about being gay just so I wouldn't pursue her anymore,but I can't know for sure. If this counts as a rejection I kind of like it in a weird way because I feel like more of man for getting rejected and taking it.
I already knew deep down that eventually I have to go out and cold approach girls anyways and there is no way around that. I'm not gonna be able to pull girls from work and I just finished school so no meeting girls in class anymore. Approaching random girls sucks and it's gonna be hard for someone like me,but if I want to learn how to meet girls and then build relationships with girls I have to go out and do it the hard way.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Sup dude!

A totally get where ya coming from feeling fine with a rejection, it means ya tried and ya know where ya stand. Being able to take and handle rejection is great and sometimes girls that reject ya will come back later cause there attraction goes up if ya handle it well.

She might not be gay but it seems pretty genuine, and having female friends can help a lot especially if she's gay because ya not exactly placed in the friendzone. Ya mutually put each other in the friendzone cause its good for ya. Weve all friendzoned girls that were not interested in if its good for ya, ya do it with social circle girls all tha time. Sometimes it helps if ya hanging out with her cause other girls see a hot girl talking to ya, they don't know the circumstance but it helps with social proof....not always but it can

Some gay girls can feel attraction for guys it all depends on them really, have had a few experiences with gay girls. I was seeing a girl before who had a lesbian friend who was attracted to me. She actually said once that "I'm gay but I'd get with ya" and was pointing out how good ma body was to the girl a was seeing.

Approaching random girls is great dude once ya get started, a know it can be intimidating and fear of rejection kicks in but its great when ya just go an do it so keep at it dude!!