Texting
This girl had a rough week (she was being dramatic).
But I used this as an opportunity to start the text game...
First, I told her the week didn’t have to end on a bad note—there was still time. (I took this from a LR by @foggy i guess)
Then, I checked if she was up for an adventure.
Next, I basically asked her out for drinks but told her nothing beyond it. (Subtly setting a light sexual frame.
(She acted a bit confused.)
I repeated this 2-3 times until she got it. (I was setting a frame that she is the one who is trying to tempt me.)
Then, I used words like spontaneous (for screening her) and indulgence to set a sexual frame over text.
Now, we were discussing logistics.
Note to self: If her response is confusing, always clarify.
She was working, so she asked whether to come comfy or dress up.
→ I checked her situation.
She could dress up, so I casually told her to go home and change—also told her not to wear anything tempting.
→ Again, I wanted her to be the temptress.
→ Get her invested. (Dressing up is a good investment)
She acted confused, said she’d come comfy, but ended up dressing up. (She is invested intl the outcome)
The Meet
The good thing I did was choosing the right venue.
I didn’t have much of a game plan, but I figured the venue was spacious enough—I’d make something work.
I guess all of my seduction has been on the fly.
Never planned, never had a process (which kinda sucks, tbh).
Meet
She seemed a bit nervous.
She asked about my day, I asked about hers, then I grabbed a smoke before we went in.
(The reason: we’d be sitting opposite each other, limiting physical contact. Touch is how I arouse, so smoking area was perfect.)
We made small talk—basic work stuff. She was nervous but engaged.
We sat, ordered, and I asked her to smoke and we talking more.
It was mostly friendly conversation.
Then, I moved her inside and to smoke again few times.
What I Think Contributed to the Lay
Similarity in party lifestyle.
Framed her as Barney Sinston
(Checked if she liked sitcoms, then ran with it.)
The I made her do a roleplay – her trying to pick me in a party through cold approach.
She mentioned she was twisted, so I amplified it later.
After moving in and out a few times, I did two takeaways (left her on her own briefly).
Built similarity on writing poems.
(Originally meant as a DHV, but ended up creating more similarity.)
At this point, similarity was high, but arousal was missing.
She was being compliant, so I took a last smoke break and started leaving my hands on her body—getting her closer and closer.
She mentioned a few guys nearby were saying creepy stuff in their group while I was away.
I teased her about it and made her repeat it, steering the convo toward something more sexual.
While I was touching her, she didn’t pull away.
She also started talking more and more about sex.
(Touch was arousing her.)
I planted multiple seeds for a pull.
She verbally said she’d be going home directly.
But she was aroused.
So, I bypassed this by saying, Let me show you the best sandwich place.
Then, I took her somewhere near my apartment.
As we walked toward the sandwich shop, I casually pointed towards my apartment.
At the shop, I said, Let’s get this parcaled and eat at my place.
Now, we were in my apartment.
I showed her around, made her comfortable, then asked her to sit close to me.
She was on her phone, so I asked her to show me some pictures of her.
While she was showing me pics, I held her chin.
We kissed.
Had an intense night.
At the beginning, I also talked a bit about work.
(I feel it’s important—girls like knowing you’re not just there for sex.)
TL;DR
Key frames I set over text:
The week can still end better.
Indulgence.
Not to tempt me (framing it as she is the one trying to tempt me early).
Before the meet:
I asked her to take a break and get invested.
(From experience, when girls come comfy, they’re not in the mood.)
During the date:
The roleplay further helped me
Also, I overcame the lack of arousal with touch because I could not think of sexual escalation through verbals and it felt off at the moment.
Lastly, I bypassed her coming home by never saying we will go to my home.
P.S
Met her again today.
Logictics were bad so no sex. Kissing her and teasing.
She can be converted idk if I should or I should continue to pick up.
My skills are improving. I can get 2-3 lays a month easily if I put efforts there is quality too.
I want to now turn yellows in green.
But I want a stable emotional connection too.
This girl had a rough week (she was being dramatic).
But I used this as an opportunity to start the text game...
First, I told her the week didn’t have to end on a bad note—there was still time. (I took this from a LR by @foggy i guess)
Then, I checked if she was up for an adventure.
Next, I basically asked her out for drinks but told her nothing beyond it. (Subtly setting a light sexual frame.
(She acted a bit confused.)
I repeated this 2-3 times until she got it. (I was setting a frame that she is the one who is trying to tempt me.)
Then, I used words like spontaneous (for screening her) and indulgence to set a sexual frame over text.
Now, we were discussing logistics.
Note to self: If her response is confusing, always clarify.
She was working, so she asked whether to come comfy or dress up.
→ I checked her situation.
She could dress up, so I casually told her to go home and change—also told her not to wear anything tempting.
→ Again, I wanted her to be the temptress.
→ Get her invested. (Dressing up is a good investment)
She acted confused, said she’d come comfy, but ended up dressing up. (She is invested intl the outcome)
The Meet
The good thing I did was choosing the right venue.
I didn’t have much of a game plan, but I figured the venue was spacious enough—I’d make something work.
I guess all of my seduction has been on the fly.
Never planned, never had a process (which kinda sucks, tbh).
Meet
She seemed a bit nervous.
She asked about my day, I asked about hers, then I grabbed a smoke before we went in.
(The reason: we’d be sitting opposite each other, limiting physical contact. Touch is how I arouse, so smoking area was perfect.)
We made small talk—basic work stuff. She was nervous but engaged.
We sat, ordered, and I asked her to smoke and we talking more.
It was mostly friendly conversation.
Then, I moved her inside and to smoke again few times.
What I Think Contributed to the Lay
Similarity in party lifestyle.
Framed her as Barney Sinston
(Checked if she liked sitcoms, then ran with it.)
The I made her do a roleplay – her trying to pick me in a party through cold approach.
She mentioned she was twisted, so I amplified it later.
After moving in and out a few times, I did two takeaways (left her on her own briefly).
Built similarity on writing poems.
(Originally meant as a DHV, but ended up creating more similarity.)
At this point, similarity was high, but arousal was missing.
She was being compliant, so I took a last smoke break and started leaving my hands on her body—getting her closer and closer.
She mentioned a few guys nearby were saying creepy stuff in their group while I was away.
I teased her about it and made her repeat it, steering the convo toward something more sexual.
While I was touching her, she didn’t pull away.
She also started talking more and more about sex.
(Touch was arousing her.)
I planted multiple seeds for a pull.
She verbally said she’d be going home directly.
But she was aroused.
So, I bypassed this by saying, Let me show you the best sandwich place.
Then, I took her somewhere near my apartment.
As we walked toward the sandwich shop, I casually pointed towards my apartment.
At the shop, I said, Let’s get this parcaled and eat at my place.
Now, we were in my apartment.
I showed her around, made her comfortable, then asked her to sit close to me.
She was on her phone, so I asked her to show me some pictures of her.
While she was showing me pics, I held her chin.
We kissed.
Had an intense night.
At the beginning, I also talked a bit about work.
(I feel it’s important—girls like knowing you’re not just there for sex.)
TL;DR
Key frames I set over text:
The week can still end better.
Indulgence.
Not to tempt me (framing it as she is the one trying to tempt me early).
Before the meet:
I asked her to take a break and get invested.
(From experience, when girls come comfy, they’re not in the mood.)
During the date:
The roleplay further helped me
Also, I overcame the lack of arousal with touch because I could not think of sexual escalation through verbals and it felt off at the moment.
Lastly, I bypassed her coming home by never saying we will go to my home.
P.S
Met her again today.
Logictics were bad so no sex. Kissing her and teasing.
She can be converted idk if I should or I should continue to pick up.
My skills are improving. I can get 2-3 lays a month easily if I put efforts there is quality too.
I want to now turn yellows in green.
But I want a stable emotional connection too.
