We are all from the same social circle and theres this girl I really like and this other guy obviously likes her too and is going after her.She showed some IOIs to me but I think stronger IOIs to other guy but Im not sure.Some of the examples:She was playing with her hair while I was talking to her,she often glances at me, she smiles when we make eye contact,she offered me a bite from her fork when we were eating (not sure if this means anything but mentioning it anyway).IOIs to other guy: She laughs at most of his jokes (she sometimes laughs at some of the stuff I say too but not as often and as loud).When we were eating she was sitting next to him and in front of me and when she was telling me a story she touched his shoulder while she was making a point.She touched his shoulder again when she was leaning for a fork that she dropped.she didnt really touch me but then again I didnt use as much kino as the other guy yet.They teased each other back and forth a little bit too.What should I do to have her more attracted to me than him?BTW its impossible to isolate her because there are alway people around and HE is always around.
Competing over a girl with another guy and possibly loosing.What do I do?
- Thread starter comperko
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"Don't give up, you gotta show her what kind of guy she's missing[by not being with you]" --Lisa Turtle to Zack Morris on Saved by The Bell
This is the quote I abided by when I was young. Horrible advice. She's either into you or she's not and that is her decision to make.
Years' ago, a guy and I were having this sort of conversation and he said whenever a love triangle develops and you are going head-to-head with another guy than cut all ties and leave because women are not meant to be "won over" and you will lose even if the other guy drops out. I tended to agree with him.
I recently lost a sweetheart when she announced her engagement to a guy in another state. Pretty cold but I believe her motives are suspect. This guy has an established career(engineer) and she is itching to move out and buy a house. I'm not sold this marriage works at all and I want to have nothing to do with it. To my horror she's been asking my mother how have I been from time-to-time confirming where her heart emotionally really is. I find solace in relation to the Golden State Warriors. I won her heart(73 wins), but did not win the ring(the NBA title). I have other suitors and am always on the look out for more so while I am pissed at the situation, it's not going to break me.
This is the quote I abided by when I was young. Horrible advice. She's either into you or she's not and that is her decision to make.
Years' ago, a guy and I were having this sort of conversation and he said whenever a love triangle develops and you are going head-to-head with another guy than cut all ties and leave because women are not meant to be "won over" and you will lose even if the other guy drops out. I tended to agree with him.
I recently lost a sweetheart when she announced her engagement to a guy in another state. Pretty cold but I believe her motives are suspect. This guy has an established career(engineer) and she is itching to move out and buy a house. I'm not sold this marriage works at all and I want to have nothing to do with it. To my horror she's been asking my mother how have I been from time-to-time confirming where her heart emotionally really is. I find solace in relation to the Golden State Warriors. I won her heart(73 wins), but did not win the ring(the NBA title). I have other suitors and am always on the look out for more so while I am pissed at the situation, it's not going to break me.
Do you have her numbers? Try to schedule a date with her. If you see that its never gonna happen then moving on is the best option. The main point is to try to move forward with her in your seduction process. This is the best way to reveal time-wasters. I've seen girls who had 2 guys chasing after her....but instead of feeling conflicted like she would in a perfect world, she instead used one guy to make the guy she actually liked jealous so he could game her harder.
Don't be that guy. Its pretty tiring.
Don't be that guy. Its pretty tiring.
Just went out all together again and she was giving more attention to the other guy.I was sitting next to her and her body language seemed kind of "closed".I think its best to meet some new girls but at the same time Im angry and jelous and I dont want to just "give up" especially since I will keep meeting them.I dont know how should I behave when we meet again...In a month we are all going to a cottage where we will drink and party.Its already reserved and paid.Im going, he is going,shes going and a bunch of people and im pretty sure he will try to fuck her.I curently just met a new girl and will probably set up a date with her.I dont like her as much as this girl though (even though shes cute) but just to at least take my mind off this situation because its just making me angry and stressed.
comperko said:
Yeah, I'm going through this too. Only I've abandoned all plans to run into her. I was supposed to go to a church conference in Portland, Oregon this summer. But because she and her fiance/husband will be there I've decided not to go. I thought about going swimming where she cannot follow me(she cannot swim) or play baseball in which they will probably be in the stands watching. Sometimes you have to concede defeat and walk. Seeing her will be very upsetting and I will have nothing to gain from this. I'm letting go of my ego in trying to prove it's not affecting me because it is. She knows why I've abandoned church and she shouldn't have the luxury of seeing me suffer because of her perceived retarded choices.
She probably doesn't care as much about you as you do her. Don't invest the energy in getting mad, you see those two together, they become a couple, etc. Be happy for them, move on and don't invest the emotions. She didn't get you, thats what matters 
