Compliments, a touchy subject (who knew?)

[Orgasmatron]

Wow, that's amazing.

I can feel my mind expanding, and I haven't felt like that for a while.

Also, I love the term 'slaying vaginas'

I'll need to do some reading to get up to speed so I can get the benefit of all of this.

I'm definitely starting to see things from a very different perspective than I was earlier when I felt that the hot girl held all the cards.

Thanks guys!

 

[MuST0BtA1NSkR1Lla]

I'm cringing reading this....

There are SO MANY other ways you could have framed this!

First, introduce yourself...

Second Find out what she is doing there and then.

Third let her know you are a cool, and reliable guy who isn't going to throw her in a white van after spiking her drink.


you are lucky she didn't pepper spray your rude ass.

Yeah I was on the way to the corner store defs could’ve done this better. My bad some days I’m sloppy.

Anyways I still leave my original question about begging around in case anybody has an opinion.

Cheers
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[Skills]

My take on compliments, again back to strategy:

- try not to compliment online and social media LOWER ODDS, bad strategy...

- I personally compliment into not physical attributes but internal ones, "you have an amazing personality" "You are always in a cheerful mood"


I personally don't compliment looks, but that is me, even with current rotation girls i totally nitpick looks/style to get them to max looks, but again that is me....

 

[Winston]

I have a friend who is a natural (I like to call him a supernatural) who is easily better than any pick up artist I've ever seen or heard about in my entire life, hands down.

This guy would go out 30 days and he'd pull girls 25+ days of those. And the girls were really hot. And this isn't hearsay, I watched him do this over and over again.

It was unreal how good this guy was... and he's short... like 5'7 or 5'8 or something.

Part of his whole thing was compliments, making someone (anyone) feel really good about themselves. If you talk to him, half the time he's talking (and this mf can talk), he's building your self esteem up... the other half he's building himself up, force framing, telling wild stories, and making you feel comfortable around him.

And he got laid like a fucking rock star... daygame, internet, night game, this guy could and did do any and all of it like a fucking champion.

I've never seen anything like it before or since. He's married now.

This is really interesting because this description fits almost perfectly with a friend of mine.

He too has unbelievably good game, before seen him infield I had no idea it was possible to do what he does. I also think he is better than any famous PUA coach. "Unreal" would also be the word I would use to describe his skills.

And he seems to have the same kind of behaviors as your friend:
- building self esteem of others
- building himself up with wild/sexual stories

When he approaches he often gives compliment to others, but this comes from a place of very high value.

For example I have seen him open a set of 6 (3 couples) that where leaving a restaurant to ask for a cool bar to go. And he owned the set and the conversation. At some point he told to the woman who was talking with him the most: "your pants suit you very well". All the set was listening and her boyfriend was starting to feel uncomfortable, but the way he did things was so calibrated that it was difficult for her boyfriend to say something. The woman enjoyed that, but she had to manage her boyfriend who was more and more uncomfortable by telling him "he is just being nice".
My friend wrapped things up with: "you too, mister, have nice pants".

He use many other things than compliments to make other feels good. As he is perceived as high value he is able to provide value to others.

 

[Winston]

Cool man, sounds like a good friend to model behaviors from. Assume high value and lift others up from that position... it works!

The problem I see with assuming high value is that a big part of value is not subjective. His high value stems from having oustanding game, and he is also ranking high in the looks department.
Without outstanding game/high SMV, which are factors intrinsically linked to him, compliments won't feel the same to others.

I think that even if I brainwash myself totally convincing myself that "I am high value", that won't make necessary think the people I am interacting with that I am high value, so they won't react the same way to my compliments/lifting up as to his.

 

[Kaida]

So, if you are less attainable you become more desirable?

Less attainability makes you more scarce, which can increase value but only up to a point.

For example, diamonds are rare, and a girl may be excited for a while because of the rare opportunity to find one. But if a girl keeps digging and digging but doesn’t find anything, she’ll auto reject. She may get mad and convince herself that diamonds really aren’t all that important. This is how low attainability men look to women.

Now, if every time that the girl digs into their backyard, they do find diamonds, it might excite them for a bit. But pretty soon, after they dig and find the diamonds over and over, they’ll probably question if the diamonds are really that rare. Soon boredom sets in. She may even forget about the diamonds, and just come back every once in a while if shes low on money and needs a quick buck. This is how low scarcity men look to women, always there, no chance of them leaving.

Now, if the girl digs and digs and digs and riiight when they’re about to give up, a diamond appears, she’ll be validated for all her hard work and may work even harder. This is the best place to be, not too scarce and not too common.

 

[Skjöldr]

Less attainability makes you more scarce, which can increase value but only up to a point.

For example, diamonds are rare, and a girl may be excited for a while because of the rare opportunity to find one. But if a girl keeps digging and digging but doesn’t find anything, she’ll auto reject. She may get mad and convince herself that diamonds really aren’t all that important. This is how low attainability men look to women.

Now, if every time that the girl digs into their backyard, they do find diamonds, it might excite them for a bit. But pretty soon, after they dig and find the diamonds over and over, they’ll probably question if the diamonds are really that rare. Soon boredom sets in. She may even forget about the diamonds, and just come back every once in a while if shes low on money and needs a quick buck. This is how low scarcity men look to women, always there, no chance of them leaving.

Now, if the girl digs and digs and digs and riiight when they’re about to give up, a diamond appears, she’ll be validated for all her hard work and may work even harder. This is the best place to be, not too scarce and not too common.

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