There is no conflict. Women will follow you to bed if you are sexy and bold, and thoroughly lead the date to sex. That works in your 20s, your 30s, your 40s, and your 50s (that's me). I have no experience to talk about your 60s, but I think you could still make it work if you have taken a reasonable care of yourself.
However, girls will
always also screen you for relationship potential. That's where your ability to provide comes in. And this is where things differ depending on your age.
- If you're broke in your 20s, that's somewhat expected. You still have a future. You still could become a good LTR. You still have a potential. It now comes down to your other qualities, and your girl will look for these qualities.
- If you're broke in your 40s, well, chances are that you will always will broke. If you haven't made it in your 40s, the game is mostly already played. Your potential for LTR looks grim. In your 40s, you are actually expected to have made it.
Although the girl can follow you in bed if you exhibit these sexy masculine qualities, through your game and leadership, if you don't have a potential for LTR, they won't stick around. True, no matter your age. It's OK, if you are happy keeping rotating girls. Girls in, girls out. You just need to keep new girls coming all the time.
However, of all these girls, you will eventually find some that you like more than the usual, and would like to keep around for longer. If you don't have other good things going for you in your life, making you at least an acceptable LTR partner, you will have to watch them leave you.
Most men don't know any better than competing on the sexual market on the basis of their provider skills. "Look how I invite you to this classy restaurant. Look how I have a nice car. Look how nice achievements I have in my career. Look what a nice LTR I would make". That's actually counterproductive, and the other "lover" approach, capitalizing in her sexual instincts, is much more efficient.
So a sensible Seduction advice is to tone down the Provider side, and work on the Lover side.
But once you have seen a few nice girls leaving you, you start understanding the value of the Provider side as well. Be a Lover, but also make yourself a
potential relationship material. In the end, it is about showing the right mix of both sides.
For this, you need to have other good things going for you in your life, no matter your age.
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