I often noticed many women don't initiate much after the first date even though it went good from my feelings and observations (judging from her reaction like when I touch her, etc.). They usually respond when we are exchanging a few messages afterwards before I decide to go for the next date (sometimes I do this at the end of the first date or during our conversation). I don't know if it's because they like me and are shy or the complete opposite. Is this a normal and common behaviour from women and I just need to push it forwards? Like they want to get courted and want to see and feel my interest in her?
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Hey FS80,
Don't overthink it man. Some girls girls are super dynamic and will blow up your phone quickly, while others are more passive and will wait for you to initiate things. In either case, the process is the same, invite her out again. If she's interested, she'll be eager to see you again. If she's not interested, she'll make excuses or simply ignore your attempts to meet up.
Don't overthink it man. Some girls girls are super dynamic and will blow up your phone quickly, while others are more passive and will wait for you to initiate things. In either case, the process is the same, invite her out again. If she's interested, she'll be eager to see you again. If she's not interested, she'll make excuses or simply ignore your attempts to meet up.
I hear you. It's just that some girls seem very excited before the first date and sometimes it kind of feels different afterwards. But like you said, the only way to find out is to suggest another date.
Do you think it's good to suggest another date during the first (or whatever it is) date? Sometimes I feel the urge to do so if I really like her.
Do you think it's good to suggest another date during the first (or whatever it is) date? Sometimes I feel the urge to do so if I really like her.
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FS80 said:
Haha naw, give her a bit of breathing room. At the end of the date, tell her to text you when she gets home. When she does, tell her: "It was nice to meet you Jen". If she's game, she'll reply in kind. If not, you won't hear from her, so you can forget about her.
If she replied, text her the next day or so, to set up another meet.
Yes, I always write her after the date like "Did you came home safely? It was a nice evening.". Something like that. The last one replied "Yes, it was nice." Usually I get a reply similar to that one.
Sometimes I told her to text me when she came home. Usually I get a message too.
Sometimes I told her to text me when she came home. Usually I get a message too.
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Hey FS,
Something I like to do is to mention about the nice city view from my apartment, or to mention about my cooking, or to mention about this or this music I like. I'm not actually asking her to come at my place, but I mention something that will make her curious about coming along at my home.
Seed planted, let it grow. The next time I see her, it will be easier to bring her home. Sometimes I even have the girl suggest it by herself, using this strategy.
Cheers,
Seppuku
If I see that I won't have the time or logistic to bring her home right away, I usually plant the seeds for a second date - without actually asking for one.FS80 said:
Something I like to do is to mention about the nice city view from my apartment, or to mention about my cooking, or to mention about this or this music I like. I'm not actually asking her to come at my place, but I mention something that will make her curious about coming along at my home.
Seed planted, let it grow. The next time I see her, it will be easier to bring her home. Sometimes I even have the girl suggest it by herself, using this strategy.
Cheers,
Seppuku
So, yesterday I had another first day with a woman I really like. I thought it went pretty well. She was sitting on the edge of the couch turning towards me and sometimes asking personal questions. We were laughing, she was smiling and so on. At the end she was telling me about something she would like to go and see (maybe an invitation for a second date?). We only had two hours and I knew this before. Usually, I don't like dates which are not open-end. However, after the date, I was sending her a short message that it was nice meeting her and that we should repeat. So far no answer from her which surprises me a bit. Is she shy or not interested? She's from Japan, but not that conservative.
ProblemSolving said:
I did this with my date I had today. She wrote after she came home and also replied to my follow-up message of "It was nice to meet you." This time it doesn't surprise me because she was showing strong signals towards the end of the date like playing nervously with her ear and checking out my body several times.
