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This isn't the coolest LR but Skills and Chase bullied me so I'm posting it.
Last year I had met this cute Indian girl in a class, gotten her Snapchat, then studied with her once but didn't do anything.
At the start of this semester, I asked her if she would help me with my stats class, and she agreed.
First time meeting up was to go to a dance concert (none of my friends agreed to go with me lol). It was fun and the conversation was good. The next time we hung out was to do the stats stuff.
Fast forward till about last week-- I had told her that I was done with the stat class but we should hang out more throughout the semester. Then, one day we were gonna study, but I accidentally left some beans cooking at my house (was not planned lmao), and I asked her if she wanted to come over so I could stir them and finish cooking them. She said yes.
Cooking Beans
We're at my place, sitting out the couch, arms/legs touching and I go in for a kiss. It wasn't super smooth though and she kiss-rejects me! (gotta get better at that)
She says that she is surprised, that she thought we were just gonna do homework. She also says she's not interested in just hooking up, and that I gave fuckboy vibes.
(My understanding is that my kiss didn't come off spontaneous enough, and maybe there wasn't enough attraction communicated previously, so even though there was tension when we were alone at my place, when I went in for the kiss it didn't feel super natural/passionate, so she resisted).
I address her concerns. I say a casual relationship can be short but there can be a real honest connection. I also told her that I hadn't planned the beans stuff (I actually didn't lmao) and that I just couldn't resist kissing her. I also act kinda laughingly offended at the fuckboy accusation and tell her that I am romantic, sometimes TOO romantic.
Well it works, we start holding hands and get physically closer eventually, and at some point I go in for another kiss and we smooch.
The escalation is slow and she's very resistant. She soon leaves because she had an event to go to.
We meet up again the next day and almost go all the way... but she says she doesn't want to go too quickly (fair enough, though I did persist a bit and turn her on quite a lot. And accidentally made her cum lol. She has very sensitive boobs!).
We part ways again just on the verge of having had sex...!
And then, about 5 days later (today), we meet up and we fucked. Hooray!
Things learned:
- I want to get a lot better at the sexual tension and flirting that happens BEFORE the seduction location. I used to be so much better at that-- turning girls on before we were alone together. I'm gonna get good at that again.
- One should always kiss "when the moment feels right" i.e. when THEY feel attracted/desiring of the girl. If you force it when the moment isn't there, it can backfire... sometimes... idfk...
- Erm.
Cool Stuff
That's about it but I just wanted to comment how good I feel in general.
It's been years since I've felt actually excited about seduction (or even felt like I "understood it"-- I somehow had blocked it out of my mind) and right now I feel like I'm at a clean slate.
I was watching some videos on sub communication/embodiment related to seduction a couple days ago and I was actually able to imagine myself in the situation and FEEL the tension. I've been so tension-averse and so many of my interactions with women have been drenched in apathy for the past few years-- like I became callous and lost the joy in the subtle feelings I could give a woman.
I'm glad I cleaned all that up.
There's still a lot of work to do but for the first time in so many years I've touched that feeling of WANTING to get super excellent at seduction.
That's so crazy to me! You gotta realize I had blocked all of this pickup/seduction stuff out of my soul for so many years.
I feel so much gratitude, for some reason
Anyway, hopefully soon I'll do some more cold approaching stuff (I've done a teeny bit), so we'll see what happens with that
Last year I had met this cute Indian girl in a class, gotten her Snapchat, then studied with her once but didn't do anything.
At the start of this semester, I asked her if she would help me with my stats class, and she agreed.
First time meeting up was to go to a dance concert (none of my friends agreed to go with me lol). It was fun and the conversation was good. The next time we hung out was to do the stats stuff.
Fast forward till about last week-- I had told her that I was done with the stat class but we should hang out more throughout the semester. Then, one day we were gonna study, but I accidentally left some beans cooking at my house (was not planned lmao), and I asked her if she wanted to come over so I could stir them and finish cooking them. She said yes.
Cooking Beans
We're at my place, sitting out the couch, arms/legs touching and I go in for a kiss. It wasn't super smooth though and she kiss-rejects me! (gotta get better at that)
She says that she is surprised, that she thought we were just gonna do homework. She also says she's not interested in just hooking up, and that I gave fuckboy vibes.
(My understanding is that my kiss didn't come off spontaneous enough, and maybe there wasn't enough attraction communicated previously, so even though there was tension when we were alone at my place, when I went in for the kiss it didn't feel super natural/passionate, so she resisted).
I address her concerns. I say a casual relationship can be short but there can be a real honest connection. I also told her that I hadn't planned the beans stuff (I actually didn't lmao) and that I just couldn't resist kissing her. I also act kinda laughingly offended at the fuckboy accusation and tell her that I am romantic, sometimes TOO romantic.
Well it works, we start holding hands and get physically closer eventually, and at some point I go in for another kiss and we smooch.
The escalation is slow and she's very resistant. She soon leaves because she had an event to go to.
We meet up again the next day and almost go all the way... but she says she doesn't want to go too quickly (fair enough, though I did persist a bit and turn her on quite a lot. And accidentally made her cum lol. She has very sensitive boobs!).
We part ways again just on the verge of having had sex...!
And then, about 5 days later (today), we meet up and we fucked. Hooray!
Things learned:
- I want to get a lot better at the sexual tension and flirting that happens BEFORE the seduction location. I used to be so much better at that-- turning girls on before we were alone together. I'm gonna get good at that again.
- One should always kiss "when the moment feels right" i.e. when THEY feel attracted/desiring of the girl. If you force it when the moment isn't there, it can backfire... sometimes... idfk...
- Erm.
Cool Stuff
That's about it but I just wanted to comment how good I feel in general.
It's been years since I've felt actually excited about seduction (or even felt like I "understood it"-- I somehow had blocked it out of my mind) and right now I feel like I'm at a clean slate.
I was watching some videos on sub communication/embodiment related to seduction a couple days ago and I was actually able to imagine myself in the situation and FEEL the tension. I've been so tension-averse and so many of my interactions with women have been drenched in apathy for the past few years-- like I became callous and lost the joy in the subtle feelings I could give a woman.
I'm glad I cleaned all that up.
There's still a lot of work to do but for the first time in so many years I've touched that feeling of WANTING to get super excellent at seduction.
That's so crazy to me! You gotta realize I had blocked all of this pickup/seduction stuff out of my soul for so many years.
I feel so much gratitude, for some reason
Anyway, hopefully soon I'll do some more cold approaching stuff (I've done a teeny bit), so we'll see what happens with that
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