Dance Floor Game - How do you "grind"?

[13829938]

I've been going to dance floors recently, because I genuinely like to dance.

Generally I have a good time and many girls tell me I have a "great vibe".

A lot of times I will have girls dancing around me seeming to want to grind on me. But I feel a little bit awkward about just rubbing against them. Often I will hesitate, which seems to make them uncomfortable, and then they don't really give another chance.

Is just straight up grinding on them the go-to move though? I do know a lot of guys do that and I see them rejected all the time. But they often will go in without getting the interest that I wait to see. I hate getting rejected on the dance floor so I often won't even take the chance, and wait more for a more obvert sign from a girl. It does happen. Sometimes girls will really dance with me obviously and it's easy to transition.

But that doesn't happen every time – so when I have a good vibe and girls seem to be interested in throwing it back on me, how do I "catch it"?

 

[Lucky]

read this
Alek's Dance floor Foundations

That series pretty much covers it all
and Skills has a guides on his personal website as well

Edit- Skills on grinding

 

[Skills]

I've been going to dance floors recently, because I genuinely like to dance.

Generally I have a good time and many girls tell me I have a "great vibe".

A lot of times I will have girls dancing around me seeming to want to grind on me. But I feel a little bit awkward about just rubbing against them. Often I will hesitate, which seems to make them uncomfortable, and then they don't really give another chance.

Is just straight up grinding on them the go-to move though? I do know a lot of guys do that and I see them rejected all the time. But they often will go in without getting the interest that I wait to see. I hate getting rejected on the dance floor so I often won't even take the chance, and wait more for a more obvert sign from a girl. It does happen. Sometimes girls will really dance with me obviously and it's easy to transition.

But that doesn't happen every time – so when I have a good vibe and girls seem to be interested in throwing it back on me, how do I "catch it"?

If she give you approach invites you need to go in if you hesitate it will turn her off...

 

[13829938]

If she give you approach invites you need to go in if you hesitate it will turn her off...

Yup, I've experienced this a lot and it seems to be very quick on the dance floor as well.

So basically, if I'm dancing near a girl, and she looks back at me and then starts shaking her ass and kinda moving towards me, in that situation you would just start grinding on her? I know you recommend not approaching from behind in that article but I also know a lot of times girls do know I'm there, I wouldn't just be going up randomly. It's just that on the dance floor, girls are kinda rarely directly facing me, so it's not an OBVERT "hey come dance with me", and it's very much more, she turns her body slightly towards me. She moves in my direction. Etc.

 

[Skills]

Yup, I've experienced this a lot and it seems to be very quick on the dance floor as well.

So basically, if I'm dancing near a girl, and she looks back at me and then starts shaking her ass and kinda moving towards me, in that situation you would just start grinding on her? I know you recommend not approaching from behind in that article but I also know a lot of times girls do know I'm there, I wouldn't just be going up randomly. It's just that on the dance floor, girls are kinda rarely directly facing me, so it's not an OBVERT "hey come dance with me", and it's very much more, she turns her body slightly towards me. She moves in my direction. Etc.

Even if she gives you approach invites is a higher risk move, but with certain music booty music, sexy red and some reggaeton it could work, is just riskier than coming from the front.... But if she is attracted won't reject you, I bang girls approaching from behind in the right situation just must risky and preferably right music and ais and even then if the friends don't like you or didn't know the dynamics sometimes will stop you with the hand or get themselves behind like grinding female to female..

 

[13829938]

Even if she gives you approach invites is a higher risk move, but with certain music booty music, sexy red and some reggaeton it could work, is just riskier than coming from the front.... But if she is attracted won't reject you, I bang girls approaching from behind in the right situation just must risky and preferably right music and ais and even then if the friends don't like you or didn't know the dynamics sometimes will stop you with the hand or get themselves behind like grinding female to female..

Thank you, that is very insightful. So what is your approach generally? Do you prefer to get on the dance floor, vibe, and then have a more direct interaction face to face? If a girl isn't into you, or her friends cockblock you, do you just go back to vibing and move to a new area? Dance floors are super dynamic so I'm curious how you keep it fresh in one venue.

 

[Skills]

Thank you, that is very insightful. So what is your approach generally? Do you prefer to get on the dance floor, vibe, and then have a more direct interaction face to face? If a girl isn't into you, or her friends cockblock you, do you just go back to vibing and move to a new area? Dance floors are super dynamic so I'm curious how you keep it fresh in one venue.

whole point is to force approach invites and open body language pre opening... i 98% of the time like to open from the front...

 

[MasterOfGame]

The situation you're describing is all about calibration. Understand the vibe and adjusting your behavior accordingly. Sounds like you've got the vibe part down, and you're waiting for the green light to escalate. That's not bad, but it's holding you back. Here's the deal: if a girl's dancing around you, it's an invitation to join the party. If you're feeling the vibe, you've got to trust it. Grinding isn't just some mechanical move; it's about rhythm and energy. You're there, she's there, the music's there – let the vibe flow.

But remember, it's not just about the physical. It's about the energy exchange. You're both dancing to the same beat, right? That's your in. When you feel that connection, that's your cue. Don't hesitate; let your body respond to the rhythm and hers. It's not about groping; it's about getting lost in the music together, feeling the beat, and letting things happen naturally. If you're both into it, you'll both know. And if she's not feeling it, she'll make it clear.

 

[Dragonetti]

I've been going to dance floors recently, because I genuinely like to dance.

This isn't a specific answer to your question, but the quoted sentiment is where it all needs to start and end with "dancefloor game."

Do you like dancing? Sure, dancefloors and clubs are good places to go. If you're doing what you love, you'll feel comfortable and exude positive energy that pulls women in.

If you only go dancing because you think it's a way to pickup women... you're gonna have a terrible time and not get laid though.

 

[Skills]

This isn't a specific answer to your question, but the quoted sentiment is where it all needs to start and end with "dancefloor game."

Do you like dancing? Sure, dancefloors and clubs are good places to go. If you're doing what you love, you'll feel comfortable and exude positive energy that pulls women in.

If you only go dancing because you think it's a way to pickup women... you're gonna have a terrible time and not get laid though.

total none sense...

 

[Dragonetti]

Lol, tell me more.

You think awkwardly dancing like a monkey for a woman will get her attention? Dance because you enjoy it, not because you think being a cringelord in a silk shirt in a club is how "game" works.

The best places for nightgame are chill, dimly lit bars and lounges that are amenable for easy conversation. Not places where music and dancing are the focus.

 

[Skills]

Lol, tell me more.

sure i bang hundreds of women in different generations, doing what you are saying can't happen (3 different generations x, millennial and zread my post on the fallacy of seduction success):

Socializing - The fallacy of seduction success....

So I always write a blog and/or a post, based on an observation, my life, the field or something going on... So the sequence is, i usually make a post then get feedback then usually turn it into a youtube video..... Recently i made a goal of try to do a youtube a week, but it has been 2 weeks...

www.skilledseducer.com

You think awkwardly dancing like a monkey for a woman will get her attention? Dance because you enjoy it, not because you think being a cringelord in a silk shirt in a club is how "game" works.

^ no that does not work, is seductive dancing vs dancing monkey the goal is to physically escalate and sexual arouse....

The best places for nightgame are chill, dimly lit bars and lounges that are amenable for easy conversation. Not places where music and dancing are the focus.

^ best places are the ones that allow you to get laid....