I matched a girl on dating app.
Minimal texting over span of 9 days.
Texted light and fun lines and didn't tried to make connection over dating app... kept it fun and mysterious. Portrayed myself as a party guy.
I asked her how long she has been city. She said forever.
Then I sent this masterstroke while I was high.... What will you miss most in the city, if you had to leave suddenly.
She mentioned few places. I didn't recognised one of those. So, asked her about it.
She explained me about the place. I said I have never been there despite living in that area.
She said you should go.
Another masterstroke from my side ... You mean we should go. Who goes at this kind of place alone.
She replied yes we can go. ( She genuinely likes this place, note to me and others if a girl really likes an activity or wants to do it ... meeting become very easy because now its not dependent on the attraction to person, happened with me once with a movie)
She said tomorrow i said yes and we decided time.
After this I kept chat light and fun only. Gave her my number told her to iron out schedule. (This works best and weeds out dull leads, if she wants to meet she will text off the app herself)
She shot some messages and I didn't replied to her on the dating app.
Dang received the message on phone
*** Actual meet ***
***My state***
I was fucking tired coz i was going after work. Mostly in my head. Had a tough day at office and had listened to a lecture.
Wore office dress only
*** Park***
Made her wait 30 mins at the location. She was patient. ( Received investment and compliance)
After reaching there, we coordinated on phone and then scouted a spot to sit.
She does most of the talking I try to lead but i am not very energetic so i switch to listening mode only
While sitting close mostly she talked about her recent experience and asked a bit about me ... I tried making some conversation if it died but it was mostly her.
Her experiences were about her friend circle mostly and party life
Generally I don't have trouble initiating touch but with her I had trouble. I saw her hands being cut tried to grab it but she did not wanted to speak about it. Also my gf told me she didn't like how i touch her on first meet so i think i have become more cautious now.
We initially planned for sunset but she forgot about it while talking... I told her conversation was pretty good.
She said she smokes up. I had some stuff at my home and thought this will be the bait.
I told her you won't believe but i am smoking up from last five days blhah blha blha...
She then while talking about her friends says if I want we can go there and smoke up at theri place. I declined her and said there are a lot of people and it will be awkward for me because I don't know them.
Then she received a call from that friend group inviting her for smoking up... I said I also have the stuff ... Wanna come at my place she thinks then agrees to come with me.
On they way in cab she talks about smoking up and her work. She is very passionate about it.
(I am happy about it till now. I made this much progress even without being energetic, inviting is important, though I knew I won't be able to escalate more than this)
***My place***
She comes at my place... Meets my flatmate.
I show her my whole apartment and then my room.
She says she will hang out with my friends while i get ciggerate. She is dumb and stalling the seduction. Anyways i don't interact with my friends much and when i come back ask her to come to my room. She while getting up asks my flatmates whether they will join, they decline her, she says just sit to hang out if you don't want to smoke up (dumbfuck bitch, Stalling seduction feeling of getting frienzoned) anyways I ask them as a courtesy and then leave room. She follows me.
In room she asks again my friends are not coming i said they dont like the smoke. (Fuck that bitch)
Then we start rolling stuff she keeps taking and finally we start smoking up.
Again she talks about her friend group and some random stuff... I am unable to break the touch barrier here again.
We are sitting across different ends of the bed.
Randomly she herself mentions a conversation where she says she found porn gross etc. I can't figure out a way turn this conversation into a sexual talk without sounding creepy (I didn't wanted to sound creepy to her)
She had mentioned earlier she don't understand sexual jokes and is slow at them so maybe I brought her frame idk
We are smoking up but sitting apart, I couldn't find a netural way to break touch with her
She teaches me how roll a joint when I mentioned idk how to do it
At some point she says I can come over to her place ... After parents of her flatmate go away
Then I play a song, she like the singer, i ask her if she has watched the video of this song ... she says she didn't. So, i say we will watch it together (she was rolling joint so couldn't do it at the moment)
But again she became interested in talking about random stuff, otherwise I would have come close to her physically.
Then she needs to visit some relatives so she need to leave.
I said cool because i didn't saw a way to lay being stoned at that moment.
Also, I would have faced resistance anyways with time constraints
So I walk with her till station.
While waking i try to break touch barrier while crossing road by holding her hand and shoulder etc. can't hold hands like GF/Bf
She said she enjoyed we hug and then she hops on train
***Afterwards***
I think if she message me after this... there is still hope otherwise its a dead end
She calls me after reaching home I miss her call
So she texts me she has reached safely and enjoyed the company it was fun
I replied yes I also found it fun and to reward her I said I loved your recommendation we had ordered some shakes of her choice ( I think going with others preference first is always better in case of food, leaves a good impression on them and shows you value them)
She texts back she know a lot more places
I says sure
( I was busy with work and this seems like a cold reply)
My friends became very angry at me bringing a online date while having a girlfriend. I am trying to break up with her. Couldn't keep my frame and explain them and this bitch like a dumb fuck told her she is my online date
***Tldr***
***Positives ***
She texted me for meeting again
She invited me at her home
She mentioned this is her first time smoking up with a stranger ( i don't believe her but whatever )
She invested by teaching me how to roll ( but i guess its normal, people love to share knowledge)
*** Negatives ***
I think i have lost some Alpha / dominant frame i.e. might be getting into friendzone territory (optimist in me says she sees me az a chill person) or she might se me as weak idk
I didn't like her inviting my flatmates to smoke up i don't want to make it a social activity
Couldn't steer conversation towards discussing relationship (this is usually my first discussion in detail)
She over-all seemed uncomfortable with touch while giving me IOI like twirling her hair and all.
***Next steps***
I think i should text her within next 2 days if I don't receive any text from her ( don't want to trigger auto rejection)
I will ask simply how is her day going and when are we going on the next adventure.
For the next date i am thinking about going to her place directly from my office probably on a friday or Saturday so I don't need to worry about next morning - fuck work is eating my seductions and making me rusty
Break touch barrier asap even forcefully thorough plam reading or Touching her earlobes and asking why she don't wear earrings
Won't bring her to my home and if her place is not possible directly then some beach
Can't bring her to my place cause of my friends
I don't want to hear about her friends any more now.
***Other points***
Looks wise she similar to girls I have dated i.e. not a major upgrad. Only i would want to date her is her friend circle seem like people from what she has told me. Also, a typical party girl I guess.
Appreciate any feedback and strategies to lay her
Minimal texting over span of 9 days.
Texted light and fun lines and didn't tried to make connection over dating app... kept it fun and mysterious. Portrayed myself as a party guy.
I asked her how long she has been city. She said forever.
Then I sent this masterstroke while I was high.... What will you miss most in the city, if you had to leave suddenly.
She mentioned few places. I didn't recognised one of those. So, asked her about it.
She explained me about the place. I said I have never been there despite living in that area.
She said you should go.
Another masterstroke from my side ... You mean we should go. Who goes at this kind of place alone.
She replied yes we can go. ( She genuinely likes this place, note to me and others if a girl really likes an activity or wants to do it ... meeting become very easy because now its not dependent on the attraction to person, happened with me once with a movie)
She said tomorrow i said yes and we decided time.
After this I kept chat light and fun only. Gave her my number told her to iron out schedule. (This works best and weeds out dull leads, if she wants to meet she will text off the app herself)
She shot some messages and I didn't replied to her on the dating app.
Dang received the message on phone
*** Actual meet ***
***My state***
I was fucking tired coz i was going after work. Mostly in my head. Had a tough day at office and had listened to a lecture.
Wore office dress only
*** Park***
Made her wait 30 mins at the location. She was patient. ( Received investment and compliance)
After reaching there, we coordinated on phone and then scouted a spot to sit.
She does most of the talking I try to lead but i am not very energetic so i switch to listening mode only
While sitting close mostly she talked about her recent experience and asked a bit about me ... I tried making some conversation if it died but it was mostly her.
Her experiences were about her friend circle mostly and party life
Generally I don't have trouble initiating touch but with her I had trouble. I saw her hands being cut tried to grab it but she did not wanted to speak about it. Also my gf told me she didn't like how i touch her on first meet so i think i have become more cautious now.
We initially planned for sunset but she forgot about it while talking... I told her conversation was pretty good.
She said she smokes up. I had some stuff at my home and thought this will be the bait.
I told her you won't believe but i am smoking up from last five days blhah blha blha...
She then while talking about her friends says if I want we can go there and smoke up at theri place. I declined her and said there are a lot of people and it will be awkward for me because I don't know them.
Then she received a call from that friend group inviting her for smoking up... I said I also have the stuff ... Wanna come at my place she thinks then agrees to come with me.
On they way in cab she talks about smoking up and her work. She is very passionate about it.
(I am happy about it till now. I made this much progress even without being energetic, inviting is important, though I knew I won't be able to escalate more than this)
***My place***
She comes at my place... Meets my flatmate.
I show her my whole apartment and then my room.
She says she will hang out with my friends while i get ciggerate. She is dumb and stalling the seduction. Anyways i don't interact with my friends much and when i come back ask her to come to my room. She while getting up asks my flatmates whether they will join, they decline her, she says just sit to hang out if you don't want to smoke up (dumbfuck bitch, Stalling seduction feeling of getting frienzoned) anyways I ask them as a courtesy and then leave room. She follows me.
In room she asks again my friends are not coming i said they dont like the smoke. (Fuck that bitch)
Then we start rolling stuff she keeps taking and finally we start smoking up.
Again she talks about her friend group and some random stuff... I am unable to break the touch barrier here again.
We are sitting across different ends of the bed.
Randomly she herself mentions a conversation where she says she found porn gross etc. I can't figure out a way turn this conversation into a sexual talk without sounding creepy (I didn't wanted to sound creepy to her)
She had mentioned earlier she don't understand sexual jokes and is slow at them so maybe I brought her frame idk
We are smoking up but sitting apart, I couldn't find a netural way to break touch with her
She teaches me how roll a joint when I mentioned idk how to do it
At some point she says I can come over to her place ... After parents of her flatmate go away
Then I play a song, she like the singer, i ask her if she has watched the video of this song ... she says she didn't. So, i say we will watch it together (she was rolling joint so couldn't do it at the moment)
But again she became interested in talking about random stuff, otherwise I would have come close to her physically.
Then she needs to visit some relatives so she need to leave.
I said cool because i didn't saw a way to lay being stoned at that moment.
Also, I would have faced resistance anyways with time constraints
So I walk with her till station.
While waking i try to break touch barrier while crossing road by holding her hand and shoulder etc. can't hold hands like GF/Bf
She said she enjoyed we hug and then she hops on train
***Afterwards***
I think if she message me after this... there is still hope otherwise its a dead end
She calls me after reaching home I miss her call
So she texts me she has reached safely and enjoyed the company it was fun
I replied yes I also found it fun and to reward her I said I loved your recommendation we had ordered some shakes of her choice ( I think going with others preference first is always better in case of food, leaves a good impression on them and shows you value them)
She texts back she know a lot more places
I says sure
My friends became very angry at me bringing a online date while having a girlfriend. I am trying to break up with her. Couldn't keep my frame and explain them and this bitch like a dumb fuck told her she is my online date
***Tldr***
***Positives ***
She texted me for meeting again
She invited me at her home
She mentioned this is her first time smoking up with a stranger ( i don't believe her but whatever )
She invested by teaching me how to roll ( but i guess its normal, people love to share knowledge)
*** Negatives ***
I think i have lost some Alpha / dominant frame i.e. might be getting into friendzone territory (optimist in me says she sees me az a chill person) or she might se me as weak idk
I didn't like her inviting my flatmates to smoke up i don't want to make it a social activity
Couldn't steer conversation towards discussing relationship (this is usually my first discussion in detail)
She over-all seemed uncomfortable with touch while giving me IOI like twirling her hair and all.
***Next steps***
I think i should text her within next 2 days if I don't receive any text from her ( don't want to trigger auto rejection)
I will ask simply how is her day going and when are we going on the next adventure.
For the next date i am thinking about going to her place directly from my office probably on a friday or Saturday so I don't need to worry about next morning - fuck work is eating my seductions and making me rusty
Break touch barrier asap even forcefully thorough plam reading or Touching her earlobes and asking why she don't wear earrings
Won't bring her to my home and if her place is not possible directly then some beach
Can't bring her to my place cause of my friends
I don't want to hear about her friends any more now.
***Other points***
Looks wise she similar to girls I have dated i.e. not a major upgrad. Only i would want to date her is her friend circle seem like people from what she has told me. Also, a typical party girl I guess.
Appreciate any feedback and strategies to lay her