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Hey, what's up mossity? Yeah, I've got quite a bit of highschool date advice for you here since I'm in highschool myself, so let me share one of my own experiences which seemed to work for me pretty well then break it down a bit for the sake of simplicity:
I had met this girl sitting alone on the side of gym class who seemed fairly cute, so I just did the textbook approach then the usual (Conversation of common interest, introduction [shake hands for physical contact], deep dive, move her, then get her number since we're in school and all). I asked her out two days after rapport texting during the two days we'd known each other. All I said to ask her out during our conversation about how we both lived around a lot pizza places was "Yeah, I was thinking about going to check it (a pizza place I hadn't gone to yet) out but I thought it would be better if I took someone with me" then in a message immediately after "Any volunteers?" to which she replied "sure
". After a week of rapport texts, talking in the hallways briefly, and hanging out at lunch, we finally met up at the pizza place which we didn't stay at for too long. I already ate (and was plenty full), so she ordered her own slice of pizza (and paid for it). Obviously it was hot (the pizza). It was fall, so it was a little chilly out and there was a picnic area nearby. So I suggested we go there. And so we did, once she finished up we were "cold" so I suggested we go to the nearest place I could think of that was reasonably warm: my place. She agreed and followed my lead, however by the time we got there my parents hadn't cleared out as I expected. So I explained to her they didn't know I was out on a date and I preferred they didn't know. She went with it and we went to some nearby woods which were private enough and made out for a little before escalating sexually. Unfortunately, I hadn't read any articles on losing my virginity at the time and didn't know what to do from there so I just suggested it. She resisted, and I went with it. Looking back on it now, it kills me knowing all I would've had to say was something like "I know you want to" to make a home run. She broke things off that night, since there was so much anticipation for nothing. Never made that mistake again.
So let me break that down into something you don't have to analyze to get a straight up answer:
-Make it something simple close to someone's home, nothing fancy.
We had pizza places nearby which were simple and convenient things we could meet up at, leave whenever, and still have time for more after
-The fun should come from you, not the place
I didn't take her to a carnival or a movie mainly because the focus is not on us and thus makes it a little more difficult to escalate sexually (not to mention, that says that you need to go somewhere fun to have fun which will make her think you're not much of a fun guy. In this case, I think you want to be the fungi.)
-Just a bit of extra advice on the date
I once heard this in a podcast article on the main site a long time ago, you should have three planned out places on your dated. The first should be where you'll meet up (in my case, the pizza place). The second where you'll go next to deep dive and have "a moment" by doing so (the picnic area, I left out we had deep dived there). The last should be were you're going to do the deed (I had planned for my place but had to improvise to a nearby forest).
-Make sure the parents won't catch you red-handed!
I live in a small house with easy to hear through walls, so it was ideal to not have anyone home. Although I've also been in some houses that have thick enough walls and plenty rooms to lock ourselves in. Unless that's you, I recommend somewhere isolated with a bed if possible (it did actually get cold after a while, even with body heat)
-Lastly, go ready
I wasn't ready and so I blew it last second, no one deserves to live with that. Don't make the same mistake as me, read up on your stuff if you haven't already before the date. Not to mention, I wasn't carrying any protection (I doubt she was as well, unless she had them stored somewhere I wasn't). Make sure you go ready with that as well.
So to sum it up:
It should be something close to someone's home if possible, the date itself shouldn't be a big deal, the fun on said date should come from you or the two of you, the date should also take place somewhere that is at least close to somewhere you know you'll have enough privacy for the two of you in your more "intimate moments", and the date should also take place when you yourself are ready with protection and proper knowledge to help things along (just don't take too long, lest her attraction expire and all your weekends plans become open without your permission again).
Hope this answers your question, this is my first time answering any questions. Don't let that fool you though, I'm just new to the forums. I've actually been going at this for about three or four years now. And because of that I ended my first year of highschool with six additional girlfriends to add to my "exes" list. So I can say confidently this stuff will do you some good throughout your highschool years as well as they do mine.
I had met this girl sitting alone on the side of gym class who seemed fairly cute, so I just did the textbook approach then the usual (Conversation of common interest, introduction [shake hands for physical contact], deep dive, move her, then get her number since we're in school and all). I asked her out two days after rapport texting during the two days we'd known each other. All I said to ask her out during our conversation about how we both lived around a lot pizza places was "Yeah, I was thinking about going to check it (a pizza place I hadn't gone to yet) out but I thought it would be better if I took someone with me" then in a message immediately after "Any volunteers?" to which she replied "sure
". After a week of rapport texts, talking in the hallways briefly, and hanging out at lunch, we finally met up at the pizza place which we didn't stay at for too long. I already ate (and was plenty full), so she ordered her own slice of pizza (and paid for it). Obviously it was hot (the pizza). It was fall, so it was a little chilly out and there was a picnic area nearby. So I suggested we go there. And so we did, once she finished up we were "cold" so I suggested we go to the nearest place I could think of that was reasonably warm: my place. She agreed and followed my lead, however by the time we got there my parents hadn't cleared out as I expected. So I explained to her they didn't know I was out on a date and I preferred they didn't know. She went with it and we went to some nearby woods which were private enough and made out for a little before escalating sexually. Unfortunately, I hadn't read any articles on losing my virginity at the time and didn't know what to do from there so I just suggested it. She resisted, and I went with it. Looking back on it now, it kills me knowing all I would've had to say was something like "I know you want to" to make a home run. She broke things off that night, since there was so much anticipation for nothing. Never made that mistake again.So let me break that down into something you don't have to analyze to get a straight up answer:
-Make it something simple close to someone's home, nothing fancy.
We had pizza places nearby which were simple and convenient things we could meet up at, leave whenever, and still have time for more after
-The fun should come from you, not the place
I didn't take her to a carnival or a movie mainly because the focus is not on us and thus makes it a little more difficult to escalate sexually (not to mention, that says that you need to go somewhere fun to have fun which will make her think you're not much of a fun guy. In this case, I think you want to be the fungi.)
-Just a bit of extra advice on the date
I once heard this in a podcast article on the main site a long time ago, you should have three planned out places on your dated. The first should be where you'll meet up (in my case, the pizza place). The second where you'll go next to deep dive and have "a moment" by doing so (the picnic area, I left out we had deep dived there). The last should be were you're going to do the deed (I had planned for my place but had to improvise to a nearby forest).
-Make sure the parents won't catch you red-handed!
I live in a small house with easy to hear through walls, so it was ideal to not have anyone home. Although I've also been in some houses that have thick enough walls and plenty rooms to lock ourselves in. Unless that's you, I recommend somewhere isolated with a bed if possible (it did actually get cold after a while, even with body heat)
-Lastly, go ready
I wasn't ready and so I blew it last second, no one deserves to live with that. Don't make the same mistake as me, read up on your stuff if you haven't already before the date. Not to mention, I wasn't carrying any protection (I doubt she was as well, unless she had them stored somewhere I wasn't). Make sure you go ready with that as well.
So to sum it up:
It should be something close to someone's home if possible, the date itself shouldn't be a big deal, the fun on said date should come from you or the two of you, the date should also take place somewhere that is at least close to somewhere you know you'll have enough privacy for the two of you in your more "intimate moments", and the date should also take place when you yourself are ready with protection and proper knowledge to help things along (just don't take too long, lest her attraction expire and all your weekends plans become open without your permission again).
Hope this answers your question, this is my first time answering any questions. Don't let that fool you though, I'm just new to the forums. I've actually been going at this for about three or four years now. And because of that I ended my first year of highschool with six additional girlfriends to add to my "exes" list. So I can say confidently this stuff will do you some good throughout your highschool years as well as they do mine.
