Dating Frequency

[Rico]

So me and this girl have been going out for 3 months. We meet at school. We were in the library and she sat next to me and we started talking. Their was a fire alarm and we had to leave as we were walking she said she couldnt go home because she had an exam in 3 hours. I told her my apartmet is a block away from campus and she could stay their if she wanted. She said yes. As soon as we got there we started making out and had sex.

We go out every weekend but its starting to feel like we go out to much. I want to break it up a bit but not make her feel like im ignoring her. I feel like shes starting to feel the same she has canceled on me last minute a few times. And yesterday she canceled and rescheduled for today and canceled again. its the first time it happens, I just texted her it was cool .

Another Girl, I meet at a coffee shop 5 months ago pretty much is mad at me because we know go out every 2 weeks. This girl pretty much stood me up at her house I got their and she never came out and said sorry an hour later that she fell asleep last week.

What do you guys think is the best dating frequency to show interest but not that much or to little. like every other week. once a week every 8 or 10 days.

 

[Virgin101]

So me and this girl have been going out for 3 months. We meet at school. We were in the library and she sat next to me and we started talking. Their was a fire alarm and we had to leave as we were walking she said she couldnt go home because she had an exam in 3 hours. I told her my apartmet is a block away from campus and she could stay their if she wanted. She said yes. As soon as we got there we started making out and had sex.

I'll resist putting that on my bucket list! So did she make the exam on time?

 

[Regal Tiger]

GC, as a whole advocates 2-3 times a week for someone you want to be serious with and every 10 days for someone you don't want to be serious with.

BlackDragon is a fan of once a week for everybody (but he considers if you stay over at the house with someone you're serious with the second day and stay with them the majority of the day it still only counts as 1/week).

A guy named Coach Corey Wayne goes off of the principle that he will see a woman as many times as they both feel like (I haven't listened to any of his stuff in a long time so he may have talked about a specific number but I don't remember. I'm going to assume that he 'feels' like it 2-3 times a week) so long as she is texting him first. If she doesn't text him first then it's once a week.
--Corey's rule is that you wait for her to text you first and then you just assume that she wants to see you and set up the date right then and there "Hey! Great to hear from you, when are you free?" more or less.


Me, personally, I'm happy to give someone 2/week if I want to keep them around longer than 3 months. If I don't see it going anywhere past FB stage then it's once a week. Maybe not the same day every week, but still 1/week. However, I also like Corey Wayne's rule that if she's not texting me first then it drops to once a week for anybody, no matter what stage I want the relationship to go to. While I don't follow his rule on texting as religiously as he advocates, I'm still pretty close with initiating text only once a week.

Those are the three models that I've kinda hybridized for myself.

 

[NealIRC]

We go out every weekend but its starting to feel like we go out to much. I want to break it up a bit but not make her feel like im ignoring her. I feel like shes starting to feel the same she has canceled on me last minute a few times. And yesterday she canceled and rescheduled for today and canceled again. its the first time it happens, I just texted her it was cool .

Another Girl, I meet at a coffee shop 5 months ago pretty much is mad at me because we know go out every 2 weeks. This girl pretty much stood me up at her house I got their and she never came out and said sorry an hour later that she fell asleep last week.

So the 1st girl is opting out because dates are too frequent?

And the 2nd girl because the dates are too far apart (2 weeks)?

Do women ever ask for 2nd, 3rd, or 4th dates or does it always have to be the guy? Maybe that's where you messed up?

Edit: the problem is, you think it's about frequency/infrequency, but how do you know it wasn't she just lost attraction and sht. Just like how Chase accuses me of one-itis.

 

[Rico]

Well the first girl I dont no whats going on we do see each other at school. we have 2 classes together. Maybe she lost attraction maybe something else who knows. I feel like seeing each other in class, makes it hard to build the suspence before going out. Yes she does ask me out. If I dont ask her out she would. The last couple of weeks i had to ignore her i had a big essay due and had no time for her. She even asked me in one class if i was mad or upset.

The second girl her work shedule conflicts with my free time we only have fridays as a day off so its hard to see each other.

I really dont care if i lose both. right know school is to bussy. But having a girl makes the stress go away during the week. Its easy to have a one night stand with frat parties, but those girls are big time sluts and STDs are a concern with party girls.

PS the first girl did make it to her exam and got a B, lol

 

[Zoro]

FB relationships are pretty unstable. They can go as quickly as they came. Man, I love puns.

I remember I was sticking to the rules for casual relationships with a girl once, happily sexed and enjoying my time with her, only to lose her when valentines day came. I actually really liked her, and would have dated her more seriously, but I foolishly kept her at an arm's length and stuck to the causal routine. She was hurt that I didn't do anything for valentines (I actually broke quite a few casual relationship rules as well, basically one leg in fuck buddy zone and the other in sweet romance. I do not recommend.)

Lesson to the story? If you like her, consider dating her. If you don't, realize casual things end eventually. If you want them to stick around longer, give them a reason to. Be great at sex, easy going and low risk to her and her reputation, and be willing to let her go. Sometimes they come back! And sometimes they don't.

Wakatta?