Dating site recommendations

[Marty]

Hi all

For those who use dating sites/apps, which ones would you recommend and why?

I am familiar with all the material on daygame vs. online dating etc. I am more interested in the technical side. I would not use online dating for anything serious (apart from the quality which i am assuming is not great, imagine answering the question "where did you two meet?") but am thinking of it as a supplement for casual fling purposes.

I have never used it before. Bear with me friends, Generation Xer here.

• 1. A lot of them seem to need a Facebook, I don't have one, nor do I want to share my personal info publicly, would you suggest a sock puppet account?
  
  2. Which site/app is good from the perspective of results?
  
  3. Which is good in terms of ease-of-use?
  
  4. Do you bother with lots of biographical info? It seems irrelevant to me if you are there purely for gratification purposes.

Thanks for any advice you can give.

Marty

 

[Seppuku]

Hey Marty,

I use Badoo, Tinder, WeChat (the "people nearby" feature) and Instagram. All of these apps require a very simple profile (no lengthy descriptions of your personality, tastes, favorite hobbies etc..., just a few pictures necessary). I found a big variability of results between apps, depending on which country I was in. In the middle east country where I live, Badoo and WeChat gave me the most results by far. In South East Asia it was mostly Tinder. I am starting to get results in Instagram as well although I just started building my profile earlier this year.

I found the best is to have an established presence in many apps. It takes some time to get your profile optimized and start getting consistent results.

I don't do "proper" dating sites. I tried Plenty Of Fish and I found it awful - they restrict what you can do, and they have a "scientific" matching algorithm meaning that I'm shown to what they think are my best long term potential mates. LOL. Besides, setting up a profile is long and complicated. Bye.

In terms of quality of results. Like all of us, you will still go through a number of "Tinder surprises" - typically where the girl being fatter than what the pics told you. Nevertheless, I consider that about 1 in 3 girls with whom I went all the way to bed, was of "good" quality or better. So it is not that bad overall, as long as you get some flow, and as long as you can avoid getting roped in a relationship by the girl. With some time you end up accumulating (and hopefully retaining) a few quality girls.

Your questions:
1. Yes, make a puppet FB account. Plenty of girls do (those who lie on their age or name for instance, since Tinder takes these directly from FB);
2. Like I said here, depends on the country. Try what works, and keep a presence in several apps;
3. I avoid the sites requiring a lengthy and verbose profile, and I go for those which are picture based rather than profile based (those I mentioned)
4. Bio info, I don't bother much. Send your likes and messages, then when you match and setup a date, have a brief read before seeing her. And keep in mind that whatever she says may, or may not, reflect the person she really is. The most famous example is "Not into hookups". To be utterly ignored.

Cheers,
Seppuku