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Defining Identity, Congruence, and Improvement

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Space Monkey
space monkey
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Hey guys, just had a couple of thoughts and was wondering if anyone had any advice or similar experiences. I grew up a typical nice guy, found this site learned and just got out of a relationship where she left me out of boredom even though I thought I was applying seduction principles well. I realize now that I was deep in a bubble and it felt like I merged my identity with her. I am now trying to improve my fundamentals and figure out who I am. I started socializing again( exgf and I spent all time together we never socialized) and I realized how far behind I am. I am trying to dress better and going for either a rugged/masculine look or an edgy look, but I realize I dont have the personality to pull them off. So, I was wondering how do you change your personality from a reformed nice guy into a sexier personality while still being true to who you are and congruent. I dont want to do this to seek approval or just attract women based on an act. I want to improve who I am but still be sexy and not sure how? any thoughts or reflections of your own transformations?
 

Lucky

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Read some of Ricardus's article on how to be a sexy man that will help you out a bit as for staying who you are...
Just think of them as tweaks your not fully changing yourself but your adding little bits on. In order to achieve your goals. Well I guess Hector explains this better in his BMOC article but in the end your only making slight tweaks in other words you are still you.
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

Deg

Space Monkey
space monkey
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Thanks so much man I will reread both articles!
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
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What physical activity are you doing?

Afterward do you feel pumped, alive, maybe even a little aggressive?

When I channel my post workout beast, I get women coming up to me, and my confidence goes through the roof.

Find that activity and you will find that mindset.
 
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