I have not written my FRs and LRs. But I want to improve my game and put a structure into it.
Also, decided against writing online lr and fr.
But she is good looking and a virgin so I write.
Texting Phase
Matched and sent a standard message but forgot to change her name (copy-pasted from another chat).
Expected no response, but she corrected me:
Her: "Yeah, you matched, but my name is XYZ, not ABC."
Me: Should I say it was my strategy to learn your name or just be honest and say I was drunk?
Focused on banter, and screening.
There was good banter but she was hesitant about meeting.
To push things forward, I said:
"I might lose interest soon."
Her: "I've lost my interest." (But if she had, she would’ve just unmatched.)
Me: "Nah, you didn’t. At least not yet."
She schedules the date. Basic informational meet.
Date scheduled.
Pre-Date Mindset
Pumped myself into a sexual state by visualizing and listening to music (not much help).
Decided to act like she was already my girlfriend (helped me tease her naturally).
Knew logistics weren’t favorable for escalation, so I aimed to leave on a high point.
Planned for a brief, "informational" date, but it lasted 2.5 hours.
I will learn this later but she is a virgin. (i guess, kissless one)
The Date
Meetup
Met her at the station.
Told her to find me (even though I saw her) to get more compliance and investment.
Her: "I’m not good at this." (Understood she meant she was shy or inexperienced.)
To make her comfortable, I asked her to free her hands and put her phone in her pocket.
Instead, she handed me her phone.
I took it and held her hand briefly tried for handclasp
Walk to the Venue
She complained about walking and a tough day.
Me: "It’s just 500m."
Walked to the promenade, but it was too crowded for a secluded spot. So she picked a nearby spot.
Sat beside her, but she put her bag between us (defensive body language).
Conversation & Connection
She started telling embarrassing drunk stories (childish fun, not wild behavior).
She asked for mine, but I kept details minimal.
(Girls sharing these stories = cute. Guys sharing too much = irresponsible.)
She pointed out that she was sharing a lot, but I wasn’t.
Her: "I’m talking about myself a lot."
Me: "You need to ask." (Made her work for it.)
Played a guessing game about where I’m from.
She kept realizing she was investing more than me.
Eventually, I told a shoplifting story, and she shared her story of shoplifting.
Emotional Spike & Deep Dive
The "me losing interest" comment came up again.
Her (pissed): "How could you say that to me?"
Me (teasing): "But you lost interest too, right? Yet, you’re here."
Her: "I came for myself, not for you." (Defensive, but still invested.)
Asked her to explain—led to a deep dive about her past.
She opened up:
Strict family, overprotective brother, never had a chance to pursue romance.
Not sad about it—she saw it as self-exploration.
Me: "I like that mindset. Most girls would be resentful." (Qualified her.)
Then she asks me about my love life.
I ask her to guess my number of gf.
She says 5 computing logically.
I say its less. Just 2. (White lie, rest are ons)
Tell her my story of how I picked up a girl off street and she became my gf.
She probed why we broke up, I said it was mutual and asked her not to make me think of bitter sweet memories)
Then that comment comes again.
I asked her why she came then.
Her: "I invested a lot in you already." (Revealing attachment.)
Teased her about littering and mimicked her voice. (Probably overdid it)
Her: "Are you trying to copy me?"
Me (laughing): "Just teasing you."
Her: "You can’t do that. We’re not that close." (Setting a boundary.)
Me: "Are you a softy?"
Her: "No!"
Me: "If you were, I’d stop."
Her: "Okay, I am a softy."
Me: smart
Then change the conversation because it is unproductive.
She showed me her artwork (sign of investment, but unclear significance).
Losing Interest & Date Wrap-Up
I faced away from the sea while she looked at it.
Her: "Why are you facing the wrong way?"
Looked towards the sea but I was losing interest—lack of touch, bag in between, convo dragging.
Decided to end the date first.
Me: "We should leave now."
Her: "Yeah." (Didn’t resist.)
But takled a bit more and then she said lets leave
During the whole conversation, whenever I tried to seed the mext date, she was being blunt that she didn’t plan to meet again: (this was pissing me off)
Her: "Are we even going to meet next?" (Implying no.)
Me: "Yeah, or you can leave now if you don’t want to." (Framed it as her choice.)
She didn’t leave—gave a weak excuse instead. (Indicator of interest.)
Walk to station was normal she trying to know me more but I deflected the questions
Train Ride & Emotional Spike
She kept probing:
Her: "How did you like the meeting?"
Me: (Ignored and changed the subject.)
Her: "I want to know. This is my first time meeting someone."
Me: "I’ll tell you next time we meet."
Her: "There won’t be a next time." (She’s unsure but setting a wall.)
Some more back and forth—she said she wanted me to “work” for next time.
Her: "This time you got it easy. Next time, I want you to put in effort."
Me: "If it’s mutual, I’m up for it."
Her: (Denies it. i need to work)
Final Emotional Moment:
She asked again how I felt about the meeting.
I didn’t answer, just looked outside, feeling annoyed.
Because we were talking we spent a lot of time and it flew by but she said it was because she likes the sea.
Her: "Why are you making that face?"
Me: I said thinking out loud. Did I made the right choice.
Her reaction: Seemed on the verge of tears. (I teased her too hard?)
Me (breaking tension): Held her hand. Yes I made the right choice.
Her: "This is the first time someone has held my hand."
Me (teasing, emotionally charged): "Did you not like it?"
Her: "No, I didn’t mean that." (Defensive, but didn’t pull away.)
To Lightened the mood:
Me: "What if your brother tries to beat me?"
She laughed—tension defused.
She switched coaches last second and almost got hurt jumping onto the train.
Texted her to check if she was okay.
She: "Yes." Tells how she needs to change train etc.
I give her minimal reactions to it.
Me: "Let me know when you reach home."
(She complied. By texting me she reached )
So I sent her a text about how jumping made me feel concerned
(To shore up the attainability)
Next morning, she replied.
So for now I have ended my text with
"Don’t do it again. Your smile is more precious than 3 mins."
"I want to say more but I will hold back."
(To make her curious)
Questions for Experienced Players
What did I do right?
What could I have done differently?
How do I escalate this into a lay? (She seems to want a romantic whirlwind, but how do I execute?)
Did I overgamed her?
I want to play this to win but avoid oneitis. She looks good.
Also, decided against writing online lr and fr.
But she is good looking and a virgin so I write.
Texting Phase
Matched and sent a standard message but forgot to change her name (copy-pasted from another chat).
Expected no response, but she corrected me:
Her: "Yeah, you matched, but my name is XYZ, not ABC."
Me: Should I say it was my strategy to learn your name or just be honest and say I was drunk?
Focused on banter, and screening.
There was good banter but she was hesitant about meeting.
To push things forward, I said:
"I might lose interest soon."
Her: "I've lost my interest." (But if she had, she would’ve just unmatched.)
Me: "Nah, you didn’t. At least not yet."
She schedules the date. Basic informational meet.
Date scheduled.
Pre-Date Mindset
Pumped myself into a sexual state by visualizing and listening to music (not much help).
Decided to act like she was already my girlfriend (helped me tease her naturally).
Knew logistics weren’t favorable for escalation, so I aimed to leave on a high point.
Planned for a brief, "informational" date, but it lasted 2.5 hours.
I will learn this later but she is a virgin. (i guess, kissless one)
The Date
Meetup
Met her at the station.
Told her to find me (even though I saw her) to get more compliance and investment.
Her: "I’m not good at this." (Understood she meant she was shy or inexperienced.)
To make her comfortable, I asked her to free her hands and put her phone in her pocket.
Instead, she handed me her phone.
I took it and held her hand briefly tried for handclasp
Walk to the Venue
She complained about walking and a tough day.
Me: "It’s just 500m."
Walked to the promenade, but it was too crowded for a secluded spot. So she picked a nearby spot.
Sat beside her, but she put her bag between us (defensive body language).
Conversation & Connection
She started telling embarrassing drunk stories (childish fun, not wild behavior).
She asked for mine, but I kept details minimal.
(Girls sharing these stories = cute. Guys sharing too much = irresponsible.)
She pointed out that she was sharing a lot, but I wasn’t.
Her: "I’m talking about myself a lot."
Me: "You need to ask." (Made her work for it.)
Played a guessing game about where I’m from.
She kept realizing she was investing more than me.
Eventually, I told a shoplifting story, and she shared her story of shoplifting.
Emotional Spike & Deep Dive
The "me losing interest" comment came up again.
Her (pissed): "How could you say that to me?"
Me (teasing): "But you lost interest too, right? Yet, you’re here."
Her: "I came for myself, not for you." (Defensive, but still invested.)
Asked her to explain—led to a deep dive about her past.
She opened up:
Strict family, overprotective brother, never had a chance to pursue romance.
Not sad about it—she saw it as self-exploration.
Me: "I like that mindset. Most girls would be resentful." (Qualified her.)
Then she asks me about my love life.
I ask her to guess my number of gf.
She says 5 computing logically.
I say its less. Just 2. (White lie, rest are ons)
Tell her my story of how I picked up a girl off street and she became my gf.
She probed why we broke up, I said it was mutual and asked her not to make me think of bitter sweet memories)
Then that comment comes again.
I asked her why she came then.
Her: "I invested a lot in you already." (Revealing attachment.)
Teased her about littering and mimicked her voice. (Probably overdid it)
Her: "Are you trying to copy me?"
Me (laughing): "Just teasing you."
Her: "You can’t do that. We’re not that close." (Setting a boundary.)
Me: "Are you a softy?"
Her: "No!"
Me: "If you were, I’d stop."
Her: "Okay, I am a softy."
Me: smart
Then change the conversation because it is unproductive.
She showed me her artwork (sign of investment, but unclear significance).
Losing Interest & Date Wrap-Up
I faced away from the sea while she looked at it.
Her: "Why are you facing the wrong way?"
Looked towards the sea but I was losing interest—lack of touch, bag in between, convo dragging.
Decided to end the date first.
Me: "We should leave now."
Her: "Yeah." (Didn’t resist.)
But takled a bit more and then she said lets leave
During the whole conversation, whenever I tried to seed the mext date, she was being blunt that she didn’t plan to meet again: (this was pissing me off)
Her: "Are we even going to meet next?" (Implying no.)
Me: "Yeah, or you can leave now if you don’t want to." (Framed it as her choice.)
She didn’t leave—gave a weak excuse instead. (Indicator of interest.)
Walk to station was normal she trying to know me more but I deflected the questions
Train Ride & Emotional Spike
She kept probing:
Her: "How did you like the meeting?"
Me: (Ignored and changed the subject.)
Her: "I want to know. This is my first time meeting someone."
Me: "I’ll tell you next time we meet."
Her: "There won’t be a next time." (She’s unsure but setting a wall.)
Some more back and forth—she said she wanted me to “work” for next time.
Her: "This time you got it easy. Next time, I want you to put in effort."
Me: "If it’s mutual, I’m up for it."
Her: (Denies it. i need to work)
Final Emotional Moment:
She asked again how I felt about the meeting.
I didn’t answer, just looked outside, feeling annoyed.
Because we were talking we spent a lot of time and it flew by but she said it was because she likes the sea.
Her: "Why are you making that face?"
Me: I said thinking out loud. Did I made the right choice.
Her reaction: Seemed on the verge of tears. (I teased her too hard?)
Me (breaking tension): Held her hand. Yes I made the right choice.
Her: "This is the first time someone has held my hand."
Me (teasing, emotionally charged): "Did you not like it?"
Her: "No, I didn’t mean that." (Defensive, but didn’t pull away.)
To Lightened the mood:
Me: "What if your brother tries to beat me?"
She laughed—tension defused.
She switched coaches last second and almost got hurt jumping onto the train.
Texted her to check if she was okay.
She: "Yes." Tells how she needs to change train etc.
I give her minimal reactions to it.
Me: "Let me know when you reach home."
(She complied. By texting me she reached )
So I sent her a text about how jumping made me feel concerned
(To shore up the attainability)
Next morning, she replied.
So for now I have ended my text with
"Don’t do it again. Your smile is more precious than 3 mins."
"I want to say more but I will hold back."
(To make her curious)
Questions for Experienced Players
What did I do right?
What could I have done differently?
How do I escalate this into a lay? (She seems to want a romantic whirlwind, but how do I execute?)
Did I overgamed her?
I want to play this to win but avoid oneitis. She looks good.
