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Sam

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Hello gentlemen,

Since the beginning of the new year I have been keeping my numbers in Excel. So far I approached 25 women on average per month. For every month up until now (January, February, March, April) I consistently get 1 woman to do with me something erotically significant (from kissing to fingering to sex). All of these women come from 2-minute approaches. (genuine interest, are-you-single question. If yes, date proposal. If not, I leave graciously).

Last week I met May's girl. 2-minute approach, date proposal, number close. Next day date. She came dressed up the way I like. We ended up having a romantic promenade and kissing on a bench. I had no logistics and I didn't mind playing for the boyfriend slot.

A few days later, second date: We meet daytime. After a quick coffee I ask her whether she would enjoy a beautiful view. She said yes. I put her in the car and start driving to my place, 20km away (yes my logistics suck, but this is how I did it all other times with no problem. Women followed). She was the only one to freak out 5 minutes before we arrive. I handle her frustration and we finally get to my place. I relax her. Balcony view, coffee, making out.

Things she was saying: "You are cold on the outside, but so erotic on the inside. I like it", "You are such a typical Scorpio!" (my zodiac sign) "We will do this/that together", "I am very sensitive, be careful not to hurt me".

On that point I made it clear that I would leave the country sometime in the midterm future. She sort of disliked that.

She resisted sex, we had limited time anyway and again I didn't mind it, so I didn't push it.

When we arrived at her place she said she really enjoyed her time with me.

After that, she didnt reply my call.

Did she auto-reject after I told her I would leave the country? Could it be salvaged or should I move on?

Thanks.
Sam
 

NarrowJ

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So here:
Last week I met May's girl. 2-minute approach, date proposal, number close. Next day date. She came dressed up the way I like. We ended up having a romantic promenade and kissing on a bench. I had no logistics and I didn't mind playing for the boyfriend slot.
You get this girl all warm and fuzzy and give off the boyfriend vibe.

And then here:
On that point I made it clear that I would leave the country sometime in the midterm future. She sort of disliked that.
I'm not sure what you're doing there. Trying to re-frame as short-term lover as opposed to potential BF?

Then you switch back to BF mode again here:
She resisted sex, we had limited time anyway and again I didn't mind it, so I didn't push it.


Bottom line here: as a dominant, sexual male you are supposed to bust through LMR and take her as your lover. Anything short of a direct, resounding "No" is not really a "No" answer. You didn't persist and give her what she wanted (sex).

Also- If you're going to try to re-frame as lover and not BF, you failed to go through with it here. I think you confused this girl. You're actions are incongruent, and girls pick up on this. First, you're giving off the boyfriend vibe. Then, you tell her you're leaving the country soon. Her hopes of having you long-term were shattered when you told her this. Then, you go back to the boyfriend vibe after. But guess what, she knows there's no chance of that happening so (in my mind, at least) she's getting out of this while she can, before she gets hurt. She's already invested some time in you, and now views it as all for naught.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Sam

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Narrow, thank you for your reply.

The reason I told her I will leave the country in the midterm (not soon, but rather half a year later) is that I sort of panicked when I saw her being so warm so soon.

Showering me with compliments and making plans on how we would spend our time made me do that.

My goal with her was a casual relationship. Not a one-night stand, but not something too restraining either. Some quality time with her and sex.

I wonder why some women can't just relax and enjoy the moment. Why do they assume they will necessarily get hurt? They could as well enjoy it.

Thank you
 
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