Direct street game is emotionally traumatising

[StrayDog]

@lutgardis this one's for you, when the social media voices get too loud in your head

 

[ElChe]

I am a very logical person. I think the reason I feel so anxious is because I don't want to be labelled as a creep or a harasser. I have instagram since some girls connect with me via instagram, including the ones who came on a date with me. Unfortunately, instagram also recommends me reels of Indian guys cold approaching and when you see the comments, it is always negative. ALWAYS. The interaction with the girl could have gone good but the people who comment always call the guy harasser, creep, etc and even send them death threats. If a white guy does it, there aren't that many negative comments. Well, I am Indian. However, I am not ugly and most say (including white guys and girls) that I look above average. I am 5'10, pale and have an ok physique (not fat).

Lol man it's funny cause I can relate to this. I was struggling with those same feelings big time especially a few months ago due to a stupid thing I did.

Don't ask "why" you are feeling those things, don't create a story about it. That just gives validation to the feeling. It seems to me like you have a strong want for approval (I did/do as well)-- and that's what is creating the anxiety.

Ask yourself if you could let go of that need for approval. What if you could cultivate the feeling of approval/validation by yourself?

Ultimately when you can operate without needing the approval of others, you'll be at a much better place. But to get there you have to face this anxiety, see what's beneath it, and it might bring up buried emotions. But you just burst through those and you'll acquire even more internal freedom.

(I need to do this myself )

Also--
I imagine once you've got that inner approval in this situation, if someone labels you a creep, you'd just laugh at it. You might make fun of the other person, but you'd completely remove all your energy and respect from that person. Same way if someone labeled you a nice guy, or called you stupid or something, you'd just be like "wtf? Who even is this person?"