I have this frequent problem with mates and friends who're either cb'ing me or other of their peers by disrupting in different ways. I have read the "dealing with disruptive men" article but it's different when it's ppl you got a connection with and I'm not entirely sure how to handle this.
So I was at this gathering. Eating lunch and dinner by my pua mate who had invited two girls he knew and who I've met briefly before. My pua mate is addicted to validation and so focuses a lot on social framing and how to come on top without making it seem he has that sort of influence.
Ex. We talk and I start to give my oppinion and relate to what one of the girls said and she seems very into it. While I'm talking my pua mate would start talking over my head either directly to me or come with his own oppinion directed to the girl, and I'd forget what to say next as I'm not that much used to this. I can't even retaliate by saying "hold on, I'm not finished, I was about to say.." Also I find it a bit weird to say that as it's in his flat.
Another example would be with a friend of mine who doesn't like hearing my routines everytime or a theme like politics.
Ex.
Her: What are you studying then?
Me: Something about health, now you got your hint
Her: Medicine?
Friend: It's public health!
Later in the talk we may start talking about politics and he dislikes it, hardly knows much about it and he'd almost roar it up. "Come on, we don't talk politics here!" staring at me reproachfully. -> I should mention this friend (Rfriend) was the one who lended me The Game and when I started going out with him I was very inexperienced while he kept talking about how good he is when first later I realized he isn't that great and the more I got better the more frustrated he got at some points.
From the ex. above I told him when we went home that he shouldn't do that again as it ruins game in all sorts of ways. And again I feel like my pua mate that it's some sort of rivalry, jealousy and lack of validation that it's done.
Are there any good ways of handling this? What are ppl's experience with this?
So I was at this gathering. Eating lunch and dinner by my pua mate who had invited two girls he knew and who I've met briefly before. My pua mate is addicted to validation and so focuses a lot on social framing and how to come on top without making it seem he has that sort of influence.
Ex. We talk and I start to give my oppinion and relate to what one of the girls said and she seems very into it. While I'm talking my pua mate would start talking over my head either directly to me or come with his own oppinion directed to the girl, and I'd forget what to say next as I'm not that much used to this. I can't even retaliate by saying "hold on, I'm not finished, I was about to say.." Also I find it a bit weird to say that as it's in his flat.
Another example would be with a friend of mine who doesn't like hearing my routines everytime or a theme like politics.
Ex.
Her: What are you studying then?
Me: Something about health, now you got your hint
Her: Medicine?
Friend: It's public health!
Later in the talk we may start talking about politics and he dislikes it, hardly knows much about it and he'd almost roar it up. "Come on, we don't talk politics here!" staring at me reproachfully. -> I should mention this friend (Rfriend) was the one who lended me The Game and when I started going out with him I was very inexperienced while he kept talking about how good he is when first later I realized he isn't that great and the more I got better the more frustrated he got at some points.
From the ex. above I told him when we went home that he shouldn't do that again as it ruins game in all sorts of ways. And again I feel like my pua mate that it's some sort of rivalry, jealousy and lack of validation that it's done.
Are there any good ways of handling this? What are ppl's experience with this?
