Do reply times change with Tinder?

[Hue]

Sup guys.

So I know that with normal texting you should never reply too fast, and that it's good to wait around the same time it took her to reply for you to reply. And, as you get higher quality girls that are more experienced and wary of fuckboy tactics to provide some variation (sometimes quickly reply, sometimes take a few hours).

With Tinder, I've read before that you should instantly message your matches if you plan on moving things forward with them. I think the philosophy there is that in a sea of men she's matching with you want to move fast as hell. Any other tidbits like this on the optimal times it takes you to reply?


For example, I message a girl who doesn't reply till a day later, but her reply is somewhere in between a yellow and green light (moderately interested). With a full green light I'd just go ahead and message her. Anything below that and I want to take my time. But considering the philosophy of being in a sea of men and to move fast, I wonder how other dudes approach this.

Then again I may just be overcomplicating things and just go ahead and message her lol

Thoughts?


Hue

 

[mindful]

it honestly depends on what you are looking for and the time frame you are messaging her.

If you are looking for a quick lay at night, you will probably be texting back and forth and escalating really quickly to meet (i've done this with college girls).

But usually, I reply in a timely fashion or try to mirror the girls response rate. Maybe wait a few hours if she takes a day or more but otherwise keep it under an hour or whenever you open the app if you are a busy guy and don't check it often. I usually try and exchange 6-8 messages total and grab her number to transition to the date / meetup.

so if a girl seems responsive and replies quickly - mirror that and go for the kill (if you have the time to do so)
if she takes a few hours in between or longer - reply whenever you open the app - could be 20 mins, 1hr, 2 hrs. But try to be timely regardless and not take too long.
if longer than 24 hrs - just wait a few hrs and hit her back.

You don't wanna wait too long even if she does because sometimes she really just doesn't check it that much and you don't want to miss out when she does and you haven't replied back yet as a tactic. Once you get her number then you can transition to a more standard text game to get the date.

 

[Sandman]

I agree with mindful, if there is a long time between replies on tinder, both parties are like "meh, not worth the bother". In fact if you don't meet up with her within the few days you exchange messages, 80% of the time, it doesn't go anywhere.

 

[Bboy100]

Doesn't really matter that much. I'm a pretty genuinely busy guy right now, but I have windows of free time throughout my day (e.g. I'm busy for 5 hours straight, then I have two hours of free time, then I'm busy again etc.). As a result, my reply times always vary. If I'm free when I get her message, I'll reply almost instantly. If not, she could wait for as little as a few hours, or for as long as a full day. My reply times on Tinder do not change depending on how long it takes HER to reply. Regardless, my success is about the same.

The only exception to this is if you take like 2+ days to respond. I've accidently done that before, and the girl usually doesn't get back to me.