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I realized that this whole time I was looking at Instagram the wrong way.
I was thinking that it's kind of working against me so I avoided it. I would always aim to exchange numbers, assuming that if we start communicating on instagram instead of text, I will be at disadvantage over all these Insta looks-maxxing dudes.
And I still believe it's subpar method of communication, HOWEVER...
It can be great when going out solo and when you are too lazy to work on your social proof in the venue.
I can work on my social proof in a bar or some kind of social event, but it's TIRING. It usually takes me about an hour or two to open random sets, and build a strong social proof in the venue. AND IT'S WORTHY! All of a sudden you become the real deal, all approaches become at least warm, sometimes even hot. BUT... it's HIGH EFFORT - HIGH REWARD strategy.
If you play your Instagram card well though, you can get pretty decent social proof through instagram, so you don't need to work so hard in the venue.
I admit that this is only a hypothesis at this point, and I haven't tested it yet, but here me out.
INSTAGRAM AS SOCIAL PROOF TOOL
First and foremost, the goal is either to bring her home the same night or take her phone number, and communicate over text. The goal is NOT to take her Instagram and use it for texting.
I realized that near 90% of time I approach in a bar with poor social proof I get asked about Instagram.
Why? This is a super fast screening method for her. And NO, she is NOT going to check if you have a million followers (unless she is a status seeking type). For most of the girls, it's a basic screening tool for:
1) does he have friends? -> is he normal and safe?
2) what is his lifestyle -> it doesn't need to be Dan Bilzerian type of lifestyle, if she can see you doing normal cool stuff, sports, dancing, working out, chilling, that should be enough.
I believe that crafting an Insta profile with all the knowledge about female psychology, should be a no brainer.
a) few photos with attractive females (enough that she can see that you are in demand, but not in-the-face, don't make yourself be be seen as a player)
b) few photos doing sports - showing your attractive body, in a chilled, non-pervert way
c) few photos from your travels if you travel
d) few photos doing silly, normal things - goofing around with friends - social proof + safety
e) something spicy if you know how to communicate this shit through visual medium
The idea is exchange Instagram during the interaction, go to bathroom and give her time to lurk at your profile. And boom! The vibe should improve when you are back.
I mostly do bar game these days, so I'm gonna field test this next time round.
I was thinking that it's kind of working against me so I avoided it. I would always aim to exchange numbers, assuming that if we start communicating on instagram instead of text, I will be at disadvantage over all these Insta looks-maxxing dudes.
And I still believe it's subpar method of communication, HOWEVER...
It can be great when going out solo and when you are too lazy to work on your social proof in the venue.
I can work on my social proof in a bar or some kind of social event, but it's TIRING. It usually takes me about an hour or two to open random sets, and build a strong social proof in the venue. AND IT'S WORTHY! All of a sudden you become the real deal, all approaches become at least warm, sometimes even hot. BUT... it's HIGH EFFORT - HIGH REWARD strategy.
If you play your Instagram card well though, you can get pretty decent social proof through instagram, so you don't need to work so hard in the venue.
I admit that this is only a hypothesis at this point, and I haven't tested it yet, but here me out.
INSTAGRAM AS SOCIAL PROOF TOOL
First and foremost, the goal is either to bring her home the same night or take her phone number, and communicate over text. The goal is NOT to take her Instagram and use it for texting.
I realized that near 90% of time I approach in a bar with poor social proof I get asked about Instagram.
Why? This is a super fast screening method for her. And NO, she is NOT going to check if you have a million followers (unless she is a status seeking type). For most of the girls, it's a basic screening tool for:
1) does he have friends? -> is he normal and safe?
2) what is his lifestyle -> it doesn't need to be Dan Bilzerian type of lifestyle, if she can see you doing normal cool stuff, sports, dancing, working out, chilling, that should be enough.
I believe that crafting an Insta profile with all the knowledge about female psychology, should be a no brainer.
a) few photos with attractive females (enough that she can see that you are in demand, but not in-the-face, don't make yourself be be seen as a player)
b) few photos doing sports - showing your attractive body, in a chilled, non-pervert way
c) few photos from your travels if you travel
d) few photos doing silly, normal things - goofing around with friends - social proof + safety
e) something spicy if you know how to communicate this shit through visual medium
The idea is exchange Instagram during the interaction, go to bathroom and give her time to lurk at your profile. And boom! The vibe should improve when you are back.
I mostly do bar game these days, so I'm gonna field test this next time round.
