Does Being in a Relationship Make You More or Less Productive?

[empath]

I’ve read in few girlschase articles by @Chase that a man’s productivity peaks between 30-35, and some sources claim that single men are more productive.


But this confuses me - as per Maslow's hierarchy of needs sex is a lower level need and once it is satisfied, a person will move to upper level and similarly need of connection/love belonging come below need of fame, self-actualisation


Hence,

• A single man is constantly chasing women, spending energy on dating, approaching, and maintaining a rotation.
• A man in a relationship has his emotional and sexual needs taken care of, which should, in theory, free up his focus for career, fame, and self-actualization.

Which situation actually makes a man more productive—being single or in a relationship?

Also, I belive a relationship with high quality women, will help the men to become more civilised, develope more grace etc.

Would love to hear insights from guys who have experienced both sides, when you have been at the absolutely peak of productivity?

Also, what other factors contributes to it?

 

[Water]

Most guys become less productive in a relationship. Personally, I get more productive.

 

[Water]

Actually, in general, most people, men and women, become less productive overall when in relationships.

 

[empath]

Most guys become less productive in a relationship. Personally, I get more productive.

I think it might depend on the caliber of mate you are dating.

Higher caliber mate means need for more growth and more self-control.

Plus they push you too.

If you think about relationships and when you were single and achivement curious what pattern emerges?

 

[Skills]

It depends a guy post relationship be so depressed and unmotivated that can become less productive or
A guy after being dump want to self improve and become more
productive to prove ex wrong and get her back...

In a relationship can go both ways depending on the dude i think the biggest difference is kids... guys with kids will be more productive to take care of kid/kids...

Single Guys can be less productive chasing skirt...

But why do you care?? About statistics... worry about your own situation...

 

[Stark]

There’s a huge difference between being in a relationship and being in a cohabiting relationship.

The former can be nourishing and motivating as you mentioned.

Living in with a woman (married or not ) will make your sexual prospects drop like a rock even if you’re non-monogamous.

Women are wired to get sexually bored and thus withhold sex from the man they live with around the 2 year mark. This will leave you frustrated tanking your productivity and masculinity.

In summary , short term non cohabiting relationships boost your productivity, happiness and even freedom to some extent. Live in relationships start off with a huge happiness and productivity wave and rapidly declines to a level way below single men who get laid sporadically

 

[James D]

Being in a one sided open relationship makes me the most productive.

 

[OldGuy]

It depends on how the relationship is going. Your productivity will fall greatly if the relationship is failing.