Does Being in a Relationship Make You More or Less Productive?

[James D]

Also, did you tell her you are sleeping with girls because you want to be anywhere and anytime seducer?

I avoid the word seducer. It's got the same negative connotation as player.

It was a very short conversation. I said something like it's part of who I am, keeps me sharp and it's only a sport.

am curious so do you pull these girls to your apartment while she lives with you.

It was easier at the start cuz she was just sleeping over while staying at her sister's, who also lives in my city. I met her while she was visiting her sister btw.

Now she's practically moved in.

These days, if I know I might pull, I ask her if she wants to spend the afternoon at her sister's with a half smile.

She usually rolls her eyes and agrees.

Sometimes she jokes and says she wants to hide in the closet and watch.

The most challenging part is not getting her out.

Rather, it's s not letting the girls I bring home suspect there's another woman.

Women are super perceptive creatures, way more than men.

They notice everything, even a simple eye liner.

 

[Will_V]

Why this question arose to me was because I have a few friends who are in long-term relatioships and they are more worldly than me and achiving more life skills/life experiences apart from PU.

Really? It's usually the other way around - when you're alone you can grab your backpack and trek off to some corner of the world and see something new, try something different, expand the range of your experiences. Whereas in a relationship there's a bit more overhead to everything.

Relationships have their specific life skills that they train, but there's not a lot about life skills and worldliness in general that you need a woman for.

Be careful of fomo and imagining that everything exists where you are not.

So maybe I need to experiment more.

Here's an idea: if you feel like something is missing from your life, think about what is the most efficient and logical way to acquire it? Very few times the solution you end up with will involve shacking up with a woman.