Hey guys, I have started reading the articles since July and they have really helped me. I am in a messed-up and confused situation and I would love to hear your insight and advice since you are surely more advanced than me. So by implementing some of the techniques I read in the articles I met a girl who helped me with a health issue. While talking I used strong emotional topics, some fractionation, we talked about big events in our lives (good and bad ones) so as to connect to each other and build rapport. I think it went well.
Then it was the summer vacation, we kept in touch through messages but not very often. I struggled to set a date with her but eventually she accepted. We went for lunch together and then had a desert at another place. I drove her home (I know I shouldn't, maybe I was needy here). I gave her a cheek kiss. She told me twice while being together that I am a very nice guy. Later on she said she considers me as a very good friend despite the fact we only knew each other for such little amount of time.
After that, I have met her once more when she visited me at home to help me with my health problem. So I asked her to give me a big hug to start physical intimacy. She didn't expect it but she gave me the hug. During the meeting I continued with physical touch when possible. She seemed to be ok with it. I escorted her to her next appointment, she was in a hurry, we gave a cheek-kiss and she left.
Last week, we met again and she asked me first if I had a girlfriend. I said yes and then asked her if she had a boyfriend. She said yes but she serves in the army so he is away for some time. I continued physical touch, grabbing her from the waist, touching her hand, hugging her while we seated, no resistance. We talked a little bit about her boyfriend. She said he is very jealous and possessive. And that she told him about me and that she had met me and hang out with me. In general she resisted only once when I tried to hold her hand in public (as couples do). She said it's not right. I think that is the point when she realized that I was seeing her as more than a friend. I think she is feeling bad about it.
Then while driving to my home I grabbed and caressed her hand while driving, she accepted it and she even tightened her grip. That confused me. Then while being at my home, I talked to her saying that she is more than a friend to me but don't consider her as a girlfriend. She said maybe we should not see each other so often. Then I asked her how she feels and she said strange, odd. And if she's happy with her life and she said yes. I got my hand around her waist, hugged her again. I kept eye contact most of the times. She seemed so serious at that point. I said "so what are we going to do now?" She said "what do you mean, we can't do anything" and seemed kind of judgmental at that point. I kissed her at the back of her neck and then comfort her a little bit, told her to smile. I drove her home, gave her a hug and told her I'll be thinking about her.
We have spoken a few times on telephone and exchanged some messages since then. For example I texted her the other day "thinking of coming around and say hi tonight, would you be at home?" And she said she was going out and that it was risky to go there at her home while sending a wink.
So I am so confused!! What's going on with that girl? She says she is happy with her boyfriend but she keeps accepting physical intimacy from me. She didn't say "don't come to see me" which implies that she does want to see me but not close at her home. Please help me guys! What should I do, should I go for the kiss? I feel that sometimes she wants to be with me but other times she backs off.
Then it was the summer vacation, we kept in touch through messages but not very often. I struggled to set a date with her but eventually she accepted. We went for lunch together and then had a desert at another place. I drove her home (I know I shouldn't, maybe I was needy here). I gave her a cheek kiss. She told me twice while being together that I am a very nice guy. Later on she said she considers me as a very good friend despite the fact we only knew each other for such little amount of time.
After that, I have met her once more when she visited me at home to help me with my health problem. So I asked her to give me a big hug to start physical intimacy. She didn't expect it but she gave me the hug. During the meeting I continued with physical touch when possible. She seemed to be ok with it. I escorted her to her next appointment, she was in a hurry, we gave a cheek-kiss and she left.
Last week, we met again and she asked me first if I had a girlfriend. I said yes and then asked her if she had a boyfriend. She said yes but she serves in the army so he is away for some time. I continued physical touch, grabbing her from the waist, touching her hand, hugging her while we seated, no resistance. We talked a little bit about her boyfriend. She said he is very jealous and possessive. And that she told him about me and that she had met me and hang out with me. In general she resisted only once when I tried to hold her hand in public (as couples do). She said it's not right. I think that is the point when she realized that I was seeing her as more than a friend. I think she is feeling bad about it.
Then while driving to my home I grabbed and caressed her hand while driving, she accepted it and she even tightened her grip. That confused me. Then while being at my home, I talked to her saying that she is more than a friend to me but don't consider her as a girlfriend. She said maybe we should not see each other so often. Then I asked her how she feels and she said strange, odd. And if she's happy with her life and she said yes. I got my hand around her waist, hugged her again. I kept eye contact most of the times. She seemed so serious at that point. I said "so what are we going to do now?" She said "what do you mean, we can't do anything" and seemed kind of judgmental at that point. I kissed her at the back of her neck and then comfort her a little bit, told her to smile. I drove her home, gave her a hug and told her I'll be thinking about her.
We have spoken a few times on telephone and exchanged some messages since then. For example I texted her the other day "thinking of coming around and say hi tonight, would you be at home?" And she said she was going out and that it was risky to go there at her home while sending a wink.
So I am so confused!! What's going on with that girl? She says she is happy with her boyfriend but she keeps accepting physical intimacy from me. She didn't say "don't come to see me" which implies that she does want to see me but not close at her home. Please help me guys! What should I do, should I go for the kiss? I feel that sometimes she wants to be with me but other times she backs off.
