Drama and disrespect from a coworker

[ramshead]

So me and 1 of my 3 coworkers that I’m fucking. Had our first major drama. I’ve had issues with the other 2 girls but this one never had one. We have been going out since may. No one in the office knows we’re going out but some people do suspect. On Friday the office wanted to go out drinking and I was the only guy that went with 5 female coworkers. The girl I’m talking to said she couldn’t make it but around midnight she called me to see were I was. She said she wanted to stop by and I told her not to because we were getting ready to leave. She said fine in an angry tone and we said bye. On Saturday in the afternoon she called me to see if I had plans and I said no. So she invited me to a bar with her friend and her friends sister and boyfriend. We drank beers in my car and had a good time. When we got into the bar she went to the bathroom and I found out she got a guys number I told her it wasn’t cool and i told her we’re leaving. Her friend said to drop her off first. On the way there I accidentally spilled a beer on her pants and she thought I did it on purpose so she spilled beer on me as I was driving. I didn’t get mad but went silent on her and said I didn’t do it on purpose. So I dropped off her friend and we went to my house so I can give her Christmas present it was a poster of a singer she likes a letter and teddy bear. We laid down and talked but didn’t have sex we were too drunk. In the morning she was giving me drama. She wanted to leave but we couldn’t because I had my parents visiting but they were leaving at 9:30 am to visit my uncle. So when they left I drove her home. She was happy for her present but I didn’t talk to her on the way to her house she looked at me and said i looked cute with my baseball hat. I didn’t say anything just dropped her off and left.

This really pissed me off I never screamed at her or anything but want to do the silent treatment but we work together. I know it’s impossible not to talk to someone at work but how can I do it to her and keep a work relationship because we do have to speak we are constantly together in the scanner or should I just end this relationship. She really disrespected me. Any suggestions on how to handle this situation

 

[trashKENNUT]

ramshead,

Don't hang out with her alone. Don't send her home. Dont give her more mix signals

Zac

 

[ramshead]

Cool should I still continue my silent treatment. We are at work and I can tell she knows she messed up. She hasn’t said anything to me.

 

[trashKENNUT]

ramshead,

Cool should I still continue my silent treatment.

That will be too obvious if your colleagues are around. So try to dial down the silent treatment when your group is around. IF she is on the lower hierarchy of your group, you can be more cold.

But if she is on the higher up of the hierarchy, try to dial down. Your position in the group is more important too.

For me, even if i am super chill, and cool with everyone, but if there is a guy or the old guy or the ego alpha who is not cool with me, (most often is work location), i try to not mess everyone up. Most People are chodes, followers, protect their rice bowl first, beta males

Chase noted that most people can't pinpoint why they feel like shit in a place. People are chodes, followers and not stand up to anything is quite similar sentence belong here.

I can start a verbal fight or fight but people will be neutral because i can be too powerful in their eyes, maybe.. and this is not always a good thing.

But unless your ricebowl/salary/etc is not involved, people often become beta, all out beta. which is not necessarily their fault or a bad thing and yet also the cause of much of the world's problems too.

Zac

 

[ramshead]

ZacAdam,

I have a higher position and department. Today she passed by my desk looking at me and texted me:
Her - you’re mad?

Which I didn’t replied to. On her break she came by and said you’re mad at me. I ignored her and she left. But she still passes by and looks at me and I’m continuing to ignore her.

 

[slazenger]

I have a higher position and department.

Sounds like a sexual harassment suit waiting to happen. Don't date people who work in the same company, much less the same office, as you. You're just asking for problems. It's a huge world out there with so many women... why take these kinds of risks? That's a rhetorical question.

 

[ramshead]

slazenger,

I get we’re youre coming from. I don’t talk to or touch the the 3 girls during work hours unless it’s for work or we run into each other and they text me if they want to say something. I do keep it professional.