Hi all,
I’ve been with this japanese girl for about 8 months now and we’ve never really argued. We get along well and I try to make her cum often. She takes good care of me. She’s also the clingy type. We’ve practically been living together for the last 6 months.
When I was a bit distant a couple months ago and I admit, I was also acting cold through text she, got lonely, asked her sister what to do and she advised her to travel cause she likes travelling.
Mind you, she doesn’t have anyone but me in this country so it was a dick move on my part to barely respond to her texts even if I was busy.
She then booked a one week trip to Paris. To be fair, she did ask me if it was ok for her to go on a short trip, just didn’t say where. We’re in central Europe so I thought she was going to go to a nearby city or something.
When I asked her where she was going and she told me, I told her no, I don’t like her going to another country alone, much less fucking Paris (I didn’t say fucking). Essentially I told her I don’t like her going on trips by herself and that I worry about her too much. This was a bit before her period, which makes her a bit more argumentative I found.
She asked me “but it’s fine if you go somewhere alone?” Basically insinuating that I mean to control her because I’m the man of the house, or at least that’s how I understood the question.
I said “no, I never travel alone” because I really don’t. I told her “I wish I had told her I was free that week so we could have made plans together.” She cried and told me she makes irrational decisions and gets emotional when her Period is near, and apologised for not asking me about my schedule and considering my feelings. In retrospect if I hadn’t been cold to her and hadn’t basically ghosted her none of this would have happened.
Long story short, I couldn’t bring myself to tell her to cancel the trip, cause she wouldn’t get a refund either and loves to travel, so I decided we should go together. We had a nice couple days in Paris, one night she told me she was glad she didn’t go alone because she would have gotten even lonelier. This mistake put quite a dent in my finances.
Anyway, this month she started her period again. We intend to travel to another country for 3 weeks. I gotta raise 5k in two months somehow so I’m busting my ass as we speak. I might sound whipped here, following her on every trip, but in truth I’m the one who proposed this in the first place and assured we would have enough money.
My brothers also want to spend some time with me and told me we should go together for two weeks once I’m back from our couple trip.
I told her that last night and she was immediately not pleased. Of course she had been feeling under the weather due to her period so here I go being a fucking retard again springing this shit to her at the worst time.
We were cooking together and she started being distant and cold, and argumentative saying stuff like “ah, so is that why you’ve been working so hard lately?” or “Oh no, it’s fine, it’s just you told me not yo go anywhere alone and now you’re going somewhere without me”.
It’s the first one that actually kind of hurt me, I’m not gonna lie. I’ve been working hard and applying to side hustles wherever possible and then she implies it was never about our time together. I actually got a bit sad. But on the outside I didn’t show it and just kept cooking. There were some other things like being visibly annoyed and telling me I used too much sauce and snatching the bottle away (it was actually the perfect amount)
After the meal she thanked me and apologised for saying stupid things. She told me it was because of her PMS. I just smiled and nodded. But I couldn’t bring myself to genuinely smile for the rest of the night and even now.
It just felt like shit getting chewed out like that no matter what the reason might have been.
She’s been acting sweeter and more concerned today and no doubt we’ll be back to normal again in a few days or even today.
But yesterday was the first time her actions actually put a damper on my emotions, because usually she’s the most understanding, mature and cheerful person around.
And I just wanted to ask on here, am I justified in feeling this way, should I tell her all of this? Or just bottle it up? Because if this is gonna happen every month from now on, with her shifting from loving girlfriend to judging, sarcastic, hurtful, why the fuck should I bother? One side is telling me to hold on to this wonderful girl (because she’s really wonderful) but the other side is telling me that beside companionship and cardio (best stamina I’ve ever had) I only have negatives in this relationship.
What do you guys say? How should I resolve this? Or should I just soldier on because I’m experiencing an episode of low test?
Cheers!
I’ve been with this japanese girl for about 8 months now and we’ve never really argued. We get along well and I try to make her cum often. She takes good care of me. She’s also the clingy type. We’ve practically been living together for the last 6 months.
When I was a bit distant a couple months ago and I admit, I was also acting cold through text she, got lonely, asked her sister what to do and she advised her to travel cause she likes travelling.
Mind you, she doesn’t have anyone but me in this country so it was a dick move on my part to barely respond to her texts even if I was busy.
She then booked a one week trip to Paris. To be fair, she did ask me if it was ok for her to go on a short trip, just didn’t say where. We’re in central Europe so I thought she was going to go to a nearby city or something.
When I asked her where she was going and she told me, I told her no, I don’t like her going to another country alone, much less fucking Paris (I didn’t say fucking). Essentially I told her I don’t like her going on trips by herself and that I worry about her too much. This was a bit before her period, which makes her a bit more argumentative I found.
She asked me “but it’s fine if you go somewhere alone?” Basically insinuating that I mean to control her because I’m the man of the house, or at least that’s how I understood the question.
I said “no, I never travel alone” because I really don’t. I told her “I wish I had told her I was free that week so we could have made plans together.” She cried and told me she makes irrational decisions and gets emotional when her Period is near, and apologised for not asking me about my schedule and considering my feelings. In retrospect if I hadn’t been cold to her and hadn’t basically ghosted her none of this would have happened.
Long story short, I couldn’t bring myself to tell her to cancel the trip, cause she wouldn’t get a refund either and loves to travel, so I decided we should go together. We had a nice couple days in Paris, one night she told me she was glad she didn’t go alone because she would have gotten even lonelier. This mistake put quite a dent in my finances.
Anyway, this month she started her period again. We intend to travel to another country for 3 weeks. I gotta raise 5k in two months somehow so I’m busting my ass as we speak. I might sound whipped here, following her on every trip, but in truth I’m the one who proposed this in the first place and assured we would have enough money.
My brothers also want to spend some time with me and told me we should go together for two weeks once I’m back from our couple trip.
I told her that last night and she was immediately not pleased. Of course she had been feeling under the weather due to her period so here I go being a fucking retard again springing this shit to her at the worst time.
We were cooking together and she started being distant and cold, and argumentative saying stuff like “ah, so is that why you’ve been working so hard lately?” or “Oh no, it’s fine, it’s just you told me not yo go anywhere alone and now you’re going somewhere without me”.
It’s the first one that actually kind of hurt me, I’m not gonna lie. I’ve been working hard and applying to side hustles wherever possible and then she implies it was never about our time together. I actually got a bit sad. But on the outside I didn’t show it and just kept cooking. There were some other things like being visibly annoyed and telling me I used too much sauce and snatching the bottle away (it was actually the perfect amount)
After the meal she thanked me and apologised for saying stupid things. She told me it was because of her PMS. I just smiled and nodded. But I couldn’t bring myself to genuinely smile for the rest of the night and even now.
It just felt like shit getting chewed out like that no matter what the reason might have been.
She’s been acting sweeter and more concerned today and no doubt we’ll be back to normal again in a few days or even today.
But yesterday was the first time her actions actually put a damper on my emotions, because usually she’s the most understanding, mature and cheerful person around.
And I just wanted to ask on here, am I justified in feeling this way, should I tell her all of this? Or just bottle it up? Because if this is gonna happen every month from now on, with her shifting from loving girlfriend to judging, sarcastic, hurtful, why the fuck should I bother? One side is telling me to hold on to this wonderful girl (because she’s really wonderful) but the other side is telling me that beside companionship and cardio (best stamina I’ve ever had) I only have negatives in this relationship.
What do you guys say? How should I resolve this? Or should I just soldier on because I’m experiencing an episode of low test?
Cheers!
