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I'm back y'all. This time with my first lay report that I've posted here. This one was notable in just how little resistance I faced--partly due to myself but also due to just high interest from her, which I recognized and capitalized on. Also because this is my first same day lay from daygame. Let's get into it.
This was two days ago. I had gone out the night before with a friend. I had planned to go back home that night but ended up sleeping in my car. The reason? Well, I had a movie that I was seeing at noon the next day at a theater that was around where we were at. I didn't want to go home just to then drive right back out there. I asked my friend if I could stay at his but I couldn't so the car it was. Nothing I haven't done before though.
The morning comes and I head to the Starbucks in the mall that opens at 10 am. However, there is an esports tournament happening as well so I'm able to stay entertained on Twitch as I wait for my movie time. I also walk the mall, people sparsely spattered about as I walk. I enjoy the minimal hustle and bustle but I'm envisioning after the movie when there will be more people. I envision the daygame session to ensue later.
Anyways, I watch the movie, and it was fantastic! I post to my Instagram expressing such. After the post is done, I focus on the game--and I am not talking about the esports tournament.
My first approach is with a woman that was quite good-looking. I compliment her style.
Okay. We're done here.
I continue walking around with my earbuds in transparency mode. As I'm walking I see a woman who I think could be a good approach. But there are people behind her who I am not sure if she is with or not. We're walking opposite directions so she passes me. I look behind and see that she is now noticeably ahead of the people I wasn't sure if she was with and neither party are showing any indication they are with each other. I know it's my time.
She's walking fairly fast and I need to pick up my natural pace to catch up with her. When I do--I won't lie to you guys--I initially second-guess myself and just continue walking past. However, I know she's heading to the Chipotle so I figure I'll talk to her when I'm in there. It'll be a worse place but that's my punishment for waiting. I attempt to open the door and...it's closed. She notices this and immediately stops to check her phone.
However, this gives me another chance at making a smoother approach and I take advantage. I walk past her again, but not too far, then promptly turn back to walk toward her, making it known that I would be coming. She had taken off her sunglasses to look at her phone:
Pretty good conversation here. And she's making strong eye contact. I realize I haven't screened for logistics. And I haven't even asked her why she's here in the first place.
Immediately I hear this and I'm thinking this has major potential. Flight attendant on a layover so she has a place to go to. Check. Second, all she mentioned was the need to go to the gym later. While the gym is important, it absolutely can be moved around. Third, she wants to get food right now. She just saw me try to go into the Chipotle. So asking for an insta date here is incredibly intuitive and doesn't seem forced at all. And that's what I do.
I notice she said no to the place not to me joining her. Though I didn't get an explicit yes I assume we're in this together.
I just start walking and she follows my lead.
As we walk there she begins to ask me what I'm doing here. I tell her I came to see the movie at this theater specifically because they were playing the movie in the format it was filmed in while my friends saw it earlier in a lesser format. I describe it as best as I could and then she says:
I bust out laughing. I think about it for a bit.
We continue walking and making chit-chat. I think about escalating physically but I decide against it. When transitioning from one location to another, I tend to play it safer. I got burned one time where a girl changed her mind because I made a clumsy physical escalation while we were walking to another place. However, I do express more interest, moving the seduction "forward" in a different way.
Remember my headphones that were in transparent mode? Well throughout this whole time they're still in. However, when she made the nerd comment and I laughed. I stopped and took them out. In a way I feel that this gave her a little validation that I was into her, and also showed nonverbal and nonphysical interest from myself.
We get to the restaurant and unfortunately it's a bit packed. We ask how long it'll be and it's 15 minutes. I think that's not ideal. But this girl saved the day by suggesting we go to the bar! I really dropped the ball here because had we waited for a seat, we likely would have been sitting across from each other, which would have limited my ability to escalate physically. This is something I will remember for myself as I can't expect the girl to bail me out like this again.
The bar is completely open and we sit right next to each other. And at this point is where I start subtly escalating physically. While we're looking at the menu I let my arm touch her arm. Innocent but noticeable.
I tell her what she recommends since I hadn't been to Cheesecake in forever. She recommends some steak she had before that she liked. I look at it and see what's in it and decide I'll get it. She chooses to get the same thing.
I continue to physically escalate. I notice some jewelry and I ask to see it. She gives me her hand. I ask if any of the rings have significance and one of them does because her mom gave it to her and they're close. I ask about their relationship, one hand holding her hand while the other is inspecting the jewelry. With my hand that's holding her hand I eventually initiate a hand clasp which she reciprocates, but I don't hold it for too long.
Conversation--honestly--wasn't too eventful. Pretty simple deep diving mixed with calibrated teasing. The one thing I could say I did was stay true to myself. This girl had a lot of interests that, simply put, I would never do. For instance, she grew up in a country town so she enjoys shit like hunting and I made it clear that is something I don't think I'd ever get into. Even with lifestyle choices. For example, she drinks fairly regularly (she ordered a gin and tonic) while I don't ever. Similarly, when I shared things I like she wasn't afraid to say that's not something she's into either. She even said at one point that she likes that we're different cause it makes things more interesting.
However, with that being said, I did set frames that would work in my favor. For instance, she mentioned that she quit a higher-paying job to become a flight attendant. Immediately I cold-read her:
She agreed.
Then, a little later, after she mentions some activity she did, I say:
She agrees again.
Then the biggest one by far. Perfectly set up by her:
Again, she agrees.
While talking, I'm continuing to physically escalate. She was wearing black Nike athletic shorts so while we were talking I would gently stroke my hand across them, easing its way onto her thigh. Not once did I encounter any type of resistance--verbal or otherwise. At this point, I feel like we're gonna fuck. I just have to pull smoothly.
Important to note, but I don't remember the context in which she did it. But she mentions that the hotel she's staying at is within walking distance.
I calmly shift the topic at one point to media consumption--mainly TV. I ask her what she likes and she says comedy and I ask if she's seen certain shows. A lot of these were popular shows and she hadn't seen them before. I joke and ask if she's been living under a rock but she says she prefers reading and I tell her "I know why" and she laughs.
During this convo, she had mentioned that she had all of the logins: Netflix, HBO, HULU, the like...(making it very easy for me to pull). During this convo I also had escalated the physical touch to us interlocking arms and holding hands. She then mentions that her friend had recommended Game of Thrones and she really liked it. Immediately I see a show I could ask to pull her with.
I'm not going to lie. I got a little nervous on the pull attempt and it showed. Because she asked me:
Immediately I recognize my mistake. She knows what I'm suggesting. She just wants me to be a man about it. And she's fucking right. Confidently, this time, I say:
We get the check. She pays. I get a bag for leftovers and we leave the restaurant. As we're leaving she reaches to hold my hand. She asks if we're walking or if I have a car. I tell her car and she tells me lead the way.
We get to my car and I tell her I need to clean it out a bit and she's understanding. We drive to her hotel and her key card doesn't work and I'd have to pay thirty dollars when I leave. When we walk in she tries to lead me to the elevator but I stop and ask the concierge about the parking and he says he'll get it sorted and put parking permits on the card. While doing that, my girl says "Can we get two cards then?"
Once we get the cards we head up to the room. I ask to go to the bathroom while she's setting up the TV. When in there, I remind myself of the 10 minute rule and head back out. HBO Max wasn't on the hotel TV so we decide on watching something on Netflix. However, she's struggling to find her login.
I'm on the edge of the bed and she's sitting on the couch. That distance needed to be closed.
She comes over and sits right next to me and is swearing that she has a login and she doesn't know why she can't find it. As she's saying this, she starts stroking my beard and I turn her head and we start to make out. I'm on top of her fully clothed. She then says:
I then get up while she's still on the bed. I start slowly unbuckling my belt and pants as she looks hungrily. My dick flops out. I tell her "I want you to taste me" and she does.
The rest is history.
After we finished, she went to work out, letting me stay in her hotel room. When she got back we went at it more and then grabbed breakfast the next morning. She offered to pay again but I get this one. (It was half the price of what she paid yesterday). It was only then where we did the song and dance of exchanging numbers lol.
When she left for the gym, I sat and thought about the younger me and I smiled. I don't think he'd imagine me pulling this off. This is the same kid that, in high school, scoffed in disbelief when a classmate said "Getting the number is easy. It's the part after that that's hard."
Takeaways
For this report, I don't think I did too much. I faced little resistance. The only thing I could say is I capitalized on opportunities and then I just went for it. However, I didn't need to be perfect. My first attempt at a close was a dud but I was able to correct it.
I think setting the frames I did were crucial. I framed her as adventurous and spontaneous. Then as a sexual person through the books that she reads. Perfect for what ended up happening after.
When I asked her after when she knew she wanted to sleep with me she said "At the restaurant" which goes to show that token resistance is just that. She wanted me to convince her, which is likely why she asked me to repeat myself.
When we were talking, she liked my sense of humor and how I didn't take things too personally. For instance, she liked how I was able to laugh off the "nerd" comment she made relatively early in the interaction, saying she hated when people were too sensitive.
And more importantly, as we lay in bed, she told me that she felt really comfortable with me and I felt that. After all, she left me in her hotel with all her things just there. She trusted me enough. Plus when we were in bed together she just wanted to touch me, stroking my beard, my chest, holding my hands, all of that. It was really nice.
Again momentum is a big thing. I had been going out recently and just felt that things were clicking better than usual--not necessarily just in results but in how I felt about it. A part of me just felt it was only a matter of time till something big happened. And then it did.
Until next time.
This was two days ago. I had gone out the night before with a friend. I had planned to go back home that night but ended up sleeping in my car. The reason? Well, I had a movie that I was seeing at noon the next day at a theater that was around where we were at. I didn't want to go home just to then drive right back out there. I asked my friend if I could stay at his but I couldn't so the car it was. Nothing I haven't done before though.
The morning comes and I head to the Starbucks in the mall that opens at 10 am. However, there is an esports tournament happening as well so I'm able to stay entertained on Twitch as I wait for my movie time. I also walk the mall, people sparsely spattered about as I walk. I enjoy the minimal hustle and bustle but I'm envisioning after the movie when there will be more people. I envision the daygame session to ensue later.
Anyways, I watch the movie, and it was fantastic! I post to my Instagram expressing such. After the post is done, I focus on the game--and I am not talking about the esports tournament.
My first approach is with a woman that was quite good-looking. I compliment her style.
Okay. We're done here.
I continue walking around with my earbuds in transparency mode. As I'm walking I see a woman who I think could be a good approach. But there are people behind her who I am not sure if she is with or not. We're walking opposite directions so she passes me. I look behind and see that she is now noticeably ahead of the people I wasn't sure if she was with and neither party are showing any indication they are with each other. I know it's my time.
She's walking fairly fast and I need to pick up my natural pace to catch up with her. When I do--I won't lie to you guys--I initially second-guess myself and just continue walking past. However, I know she's heading to the Chipotle so I figure I'll talk to her when I'm in there. It'll be a worse place but that's my punishment for waiting. I attempt to open the door and...it's closed. She notices this and immediately stops to check her phone.
However, this gives me another chance at making a smoother approach and I take advantage. I walk past her again, but not too far, then promptly turn back to walk toward her, making it known that I would be coming. She had taken off her sunglasses to look at her phone:
Pretty good conversation here. And she's making strong eye contact. I realize I haven't screened for logistics. And I haven't even asked her why she's here in the first place.
Immediately I hear this and I'm thinking this has major potential. Flight attendant on a layover so she has a place to go to. Check. Second, all she mentioned was the need to go to the gym later. While the gym is important, it absolutely can be moved around. Third, she wants to get food right now. She just saw me try to go into the Chipotle. So asking for an insta date here is incredibly intuitive and doesn't seem forced at all. And that's what I do.
I notice she said no to the place not to me joining her. Though I didn't get an explicit yes I assume we're in this together.
I just start walking and she follows my lead.
As we walk there she begins to ask me what I'm doing here. I tell her I came to see the movie at this theater specifically because they were playing the movie in the format it was filmed in while my friends saw it earlier in a lesser format. I describe it as best as I could and then she says:
I bust out laughing. I think about it for a bit.
We continue walking and making chit-chat. I think about escalating physically but I decide against it. When transitioning from one location to another, I tend to play it safer. I got burned one time where a girl changed her mind because I made a clumsy physical escalation while we were walking to another place. However, I do express more interest, moving the seduction "forward" in a different way.
Remember my headphones that were in transparent mode? Well throughout this whole time they're still in. However, when she made the nerd comment and I laughed. I stopped and took them out. In a way I feel that this gave her a little validation that I was into her, and also showed nonverbal and nonphysical interest from myself.
We get to the restaurant and unfortunately it's a bit packed. We ask how long it'll be and it's 15 minutes. I think that's not ideal. But this girl saved the day by suggesting we go to the bar! I really dropped the ball here because had we waited for a seat, we likely would have been sitting across from each other, which would have limited my ability to escalate physically. This is something I will remember for myself as I can't expect the girl to bail me out like this again.
The bar is completely open and we sit right next to each other. And at this point is where I start subtly escalating physically. While we're looking at the menu I let my arm touch her arm. Innocent but noticeable.
I tell her what she recommends since I hadn't been to Cheesecake in forever. She recommends some steak she had before that she liked. I look at it and see what's in it and decide I'll get it. She chooses to get the same thing.
I continue to physically escalate. I notice some jewelry and I ask to see it. She gives me her hand. I ask if any of the rings have significance and one of them does because her mom gave it to her and they're close. I ask about their relationship, one hand holding her hand while the other is inspecting the jewelry. With my hand that's holding her hand I eventually initiate a hand clasp which she reciprocates, but I don't hold it for too long.
Conversation--honestly--wasn't too eventful. Pretty simple deep diving mixed with calibrated teasing. The one thing I could say I did was stay true to myself. This girl had a lot of interests that, simply put, I would never do. For instance, she grew up in a country town so she enjoys shit like hunting and I made it clear that is something I don't think I'd ever get into. Even with lifestyle choices. For example, she drinks fairly regularly (she ordered a gin and tonic) while I don't ever. Similarly, when I shared things I like she wasn't afraid to say that's not something she's into either. She even said at one point that she likes that we're different cause it makes things more interesting.
However, with that being said, I did set frames that would work in my favor. For instance, she mentioned that she quit a higher-paying job to become a flight attendant. Immediately I cold-read her:
She agreed.
Then, a little later, after she mentions some activity she did, I say:
She agrees again.
Then the biggest one by far. Perfectly set up by her:
Again, she agrees.
While talking, I'm continuing to physically escalate. She was wearing black Nike athletic shorts so while we were talking I would gently stroke my hand across them, easing its way onto her thigh. Not once did I encounter any type of resistance--verbal or otherwise. At this point, I feel like we're gonna fuck. I just have to pull smoothly.
Important to note, but I don't remember the context in which she did it. But she mentions that the hotel she's staying at is within walking distance.
I calmly shift the topic at one point to media consumption--mainly TV. I ask her what she likes and she says comedy and I ask if she's seen certain shows. A lot of these were popular shows and she hadn't seen them before. I joke and ask if she's been living under a rock but she says she prefers reading and I tell her "I know why" and she laughs.
During this convo, she had mentioned that she had all of the logins: Netflix, HBO, HULU, the like...(making it very easy for me to pull). During this convo I also had escalated the physical touch to us interlocking arms and holding hands. She then mentions that her friend had recommended Game of Thrones and she really liked it. Immediately I see a show I could ask to pull her with.
I'm not going to lie. I got a little nervous on the pull attempt and it showed. Because she asked me:
Immediately I recognize my mistake. She knows what I'm suggesting. She just wants me to be a man about it. And she's fucking right. Confidently, this time, I say:
We get the check. She pays. I get a bag for leftovers and we leave the restaurant. As we're leaving she reaches to hold my hand. She asks if we're walking or if I have a car. I tell her car and she tells me lead the way.
We get to my car and I tell her I need to clean it out a bit and she's understanding. We drive to her hotel and her key card doesn't work and I'd have to pay thirty dollars when I leave. When we walk in she tries to lead me to the elevator but I stop and ask the concierge about the parking and he says he'll get it sorted and put parking permits on the card. While doing that, my girl says "Can we get two cards then?"
Once we get the cards we head up to the room. I ask to go to the bathroom while she's setting up the TV. When in there, I remind myself of the 10 minute rule and head back out. HBO Max wasn't on the hotel TV so we decide on watching something on Netflix. However, she's struggling to find her login.
I'm on the edge of the bed and she's sitting on the couch. That distance needed to be closed.
She comes over and sits right next to me and is swearing that she has a login and she doesn't know why she can't find it. As she's saying this, she starts stroking my beard and I turn her head and we start to make out. I'm on top of her fully clothed. She then says:
I then get up while she's still on the bed. I start slowly unbuckling my belt and pants as she looks hungrily. My dick flops out. I tell her "I want you to taste me" and she does.
The rest is history.
After we finished, she went to work out, letting me stay in her hotel room. When she got back we went at it more and then grabbed breakfast the next morning. She offered to pay again but I get this one. (It was half the price of what she paid yesterday). It was only then where we did the song and dance of exchanging numbers lol.
When she left for the gym, I sat and thought about the younger me and I smiled. I don't think he'd imagine me pulling this off. This is the same kid that, in high school, scoffed in disbelief when a classmate said "Getting the number is easy. It's the part after that that's hard."
Takeaways
For this report, I don't think I did too much. I faced little resistance. The only thing I could say is I capitalized on opportunities and then I just went for it. However, I didn't need to be perfect. My first attempt at a close was a dud but I was able to correct it.
I think setting the frames I did were crucial. I framed her as adventurous and spontaneous. Then as a sexual person through the books that she reads. Perfect for what ended up happening after.
When I asked her after when she knew she wanted to sleep with me she said "At the restaurant" which goes to show that token resistance is just that. She wanted me to convince her, which is likely why she asked me to repeat myself.
When we were talking, she liked my sense of humor and how I didn't take things too personally. For instance, she liked how I was able to laugh off the "nerd" comment she made relatively early in the interaction, saying she hated when people were too sensitive.
And more importantly, as we lay in bed, she told me that she felt really comfortable with me and I felt that. After all, she left me in her hotel with all her things just there. She trusted me enough. Plus when we were in bed together she just wanted to touch me, stroking my beard, my chest, holding my hands, all of that. It was really nice.
Again momentum is a big thing. I had been going out recently and just felt that things were clicking better than usual--not necessarily just in results but in how I felt about it. A part of me just felt it was only a matter of time till something big happened. And then it did.
Until next time.
