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Flirting and "The Mechanic/Hedonist"

OldSelf

Space Monkey
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As you saw in the title, I'm a hedonist/mechanic.

When my logical mind tries to wrap it's head around flirting - it's like a dog chasing it's own tail for hours.

What is flirting? What is it defined as? I've read post after post from this site and even 4-5 others.
The craziest part! I've been told I'm a good flirt. Usually I wouldn't care about understanding why, especially if I'm getting the result without forcing anything, but I think I might be over-flirting or doing it too early in the interaction.

Girls seem to really enjoy walking away from me mid sentence after a warm opening with a strut basically screaming to come chase them. I don't chase, and then they'll repeat the same thing over and over. Say hi, talk for 20 seconds, walk away i.e. at school, at an art gallery. I'm giving it my all to not go cold and keep a "No worries, she's just a silly girl" which brings me here today to the this post.

What are your thoughts?
 

Skid

Tool-Bearing Hominid
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"behave as though sexually attracted to someone, but playfully rather than with serious intentions." - Google

It's playful conversation with a girl you are attracted too. Like imagine when someone plays a pratical joke on you and they laugh at your expense its fun and playful - flirting is when this is done with someone you are attracted too.

Your comment on the under 18 post "old enough" with smirk - that's flirting.

I suggest you read chases article on the flirty girl : https://www.girlschase.com/content/paradox-flirty-girl .

Basically it says that if a girl is confident enough to flirt with you then it can mean she views you as socially below her - she will flirt with you because its fun but has no genuine interest in you. The way find out whether girls are genuinely interested in you is asking compliance - asking her to do something that moves you towards intimacy / getting closer. If a girl is genuinely interested in you she will be excited/nervous (maybe flirty if she is confident and experienced) and she will certainly not walk away from you if you are talking to her because she respects you as a man.If she is interested she will be thrilled to meet you for coffee a flirty girl will make up a lame excuse or avoid meeting you. These girls you describe smiling and walking away are flirty girls.

Skid
 
you miss 100% of the shots you don't take

OldSelf

Space Monkey
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Skid,

I've noticed is that the girls who do it are usually young and immature and getting tons of attention from guys - hence, the flirty girl.

Thank you :) Seriously!
 
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