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@Teevster,
This is all awesome:
As far as I'm concerned, that probably puts a nail in the "Mediterranean girls are too cagey" theory.
Come to think of it, my playboy buddy who was in Barcelona was a pretty direct gamer & aggressive escalator -- lots of early touch, etc. Mediterranean playboys I've met usually have this same kind of style.
Girls there are just rejecting the over-direct, touchy, aggressive style ("Too playerish, I don't like").
Don't use that style and you won't trigger the knee-jerk resistance response.
Chase
This is all awesome:
Now, back to the "English speaking" tourist: so when a drunk British tourist (or American, Irish, Scottish—they are all the same to many of these "local" women) charges in with banter and direct lines… and/or sexual direct style or caveman escalation, it simply won't work. And here It is not just the default ASD (anti-slut defense) that kicks, which is higher in such environments due to local male behavior (France being the notable exception due to what I call "French Transcendental Feminism" - but that's a different story)—but also because their approach clashes with the social frame of the girls they hit on (in addition to these men often being annoyingly drunk). The way "flirting" is often understood in English-speaking contexts—cocky-funny, bantering, cheeky lines—just doesn’t translate well here. This also goes for Scandinavia, although totally uncomparable to southern Europe (Scandinavia it is all about being explicit - sexual prizing cranked up to 11 mixed with basic rapport).
If you want to succeed with these women, go indirect. Use DHV (demonstration of higher value), humor, social proof, verbal tools like NLP, or even my own style of game (I know it sounds like bragging - but sex talk works great on these, although with adjustements of course- yes all my pulls from Spain involved sex talk!), and boom—they are into you. And it is not that difficult really. Been to spain like 10 times, to different location.
PSS: Without disclosing too much personal info: one of my coachig clients lives in a major Spanish city and is rocking it. During none of our sessions did he ever complain about the local girls. He surely had some calibration issues that many normal guys would face, but he never considered them "harder" than elsewhere.
-Teevster
As far as I'm concerned, that probably puts a nail in the "Mediterranean girls are too cagey" theory.
Come to think of it, my playboy buddy who was in Barcelona was a pretty direct gamer & aggressive escalator -- lots of early touch, etc. Mediterranean playboys I've met usually have this same kind of style.
Girls there are just rejecting the over-direct, touchy, aggressive style ("Too playerish, I don't like").
Don't use that style and you won't trigger the knee-jerk resistance response.
Chase