Getting Started with Cold Approach with "Mixed Bag" of Social Skills

[The Emerald Archer]

Hello Gentlemen,

This marks my first post on The Boards and I am stoked to be a part of this community. I have nothing but positive praise for you guys on these forums and admire everyone's ambitions to improve their social/sex lives and overall well-being. A brief background of myself:

I am 23 years old and am in undergrad for civil engineering. I live at home with my parents and have commuted to school for the past 5 school years. I am also in a Fraternity and have been a member since last spring. As far as hobbies go, I am a competitive Olympic Weightlifter with 2 competitions under my belt and have another one coming up in August.

Anyways, I have minimal experience with cold approach specifically and am not all that experienced with sex(only had one one-night stand with a girl from the bar days after my 22nd birthday). Thing is, I seem to have a mixed bag of overall social skills and some specific skills with girls, and this leaves me perplexed as to how I should approach my first year of cold approach. I have experience talking to girls (small handful of cold approaches at night and social circle), getting phone numbers and texting, been on a few dates, pretty good fundamentals overall,etc. I have also had experience being a part of various social circles and I would say my conversational ability overall is above-average (this is what others have told me).

With all this being said, how should I approach my first-year of seduction/cold approach given this "mixed bag" of a social background and skills? I'm not currently looking for an LTR, just to collect as many lays as possible with as many different girls as possible to build a good foundation of experience and reference points.

Thanks guys, any feedback is much appreciated.

 

[ray_zorse]

Welcome! Thanks for the great introduction, you have a lot going for you, such as being in a frat, being a weightlifter and so on. It sounds like you will do really well with the ladies if you make a few tweaks to your game -- stuff like moving faster, using more touch and better eye contact, compliance building (e.g. talk to a girl for a few mins and then move her to a couch or another room of the party). But, this isn't easy and requires a shitload of practice. IMO the only reasonable way to get this amount of practice is through daygame (nightgame is another option if that is what you prefer, but bear in mind that bitch shields are on full alert and also girls never go to clubs alone). So you must set a goal of talking to say 30-50 girls per week, if you do this you can become a badass in less than a year. Have goals each time you go out e.g. today I will practice banter... today I will practice moving girls... etc. If this is too much to tackle right now then do the newbie assignment first off.
Ray

 

[The Emerald Archer]

Thanks for the feedback Ray. My main focus now is to get into a routine of going out to practice and getting past my hesitation and approach anxiety. I can do decently well once I'm in conversation with a girl, but getting there is a bit of a struggle for me now.

I plan to do both a mixture of day and night game, but am currently leaning towards day game. I agree with your suggested target of approaches weekly, but with my schedule now I'll have to build up to it. Was thinking of starting off with 20 or so a week, then ramping that up every week til I get to 30+.

Currently, I have about 4 days per week to dedicate to approaching. I've been working full-time at an internship and will continue to work there through the summer, and I train 4 days per week for about 2.5 hrs. Was thinking of going through the journeyman diagnostic over the next month to build a base and go from there.