Girl at Counter- Unexpected Obstacles

[NotJamesBond]

So I'm a member of this boxing gym and there was a fight last night. Went to see it with a buddy. The girls at the counter, sisters (had to be) were smoking hot, of course. I mean serious 9s or 10s. One was kind of eyeing me and I was gonna straight up ask her out or pass a note on my way as we left. So the time came, but there were two customers in line and I actually was feeling sick and cold by this point (gas bubble....) so I kind of just said forget it and wanted to get out of there. Minor point, my buddy was discouraging the note but that wasn't gonna stop me lol...

Anyway, other than just nutting up through the sickness and cold, any suggestions on how I would handle this next time? Situations where:

1. She has her sister (her mom too...or even just another concession girl) with her
2. There's other customers in line

I remember reading about this on some of Chase's articles. You just kind of do it quickly to help her get back to business as soon as possible and not make a big deal about it. Even if there's no customers, there's still the other concession girl there.

If there's customers, do I just wait in line or could I skip it and slip the note real quick? "Thought you was cute. XXX-XXX-XXXX -Name"

Happy Thanksgiving, guys
-NJB

 

[Inbocca]

Usually giving her your number is a bad idea. You're almost better off doing nothing. Brief anecdote: I was helping a buddy with a statistics assignment and we went around asking female bartenders how many times per week they were asked for their number. The first question 90% of them asked was "Asked for my number or given their number?" Out of curiosity, I asked them for both. You would not believe how many dudes write their numbers on the check thinking they have a shot with these chicks. More often than not each bartender was given 5-10 numbers per night. My next question was how often they followed up on these numbers. Not a single one.

Girls got that mad abundance life. Unless you make an insane impression and she walks away thinking there's no way in hell she's gonna let you slip through her fingers, you're very unlikely to get a follow-up from her. Some girls might be different; they might be super nice and feel bad if they say they'll follow up and then don't, but those are rare.

So to deal with those situations:
1) As with approaching groups, acknowledge and engage the other girl but make it clear where your interests really lie. Unless you're trying to go for both girls' numbers, engaging the other one serves to fulfill the "friend factor" and ultimately make your girl more comfortable with you. I don't know how this would go for moms, but you definitely want her mom to be comfortable with your presence so something with the same goal should apply.
2) This might be a bit tricky to navigate but can work in your favor if you do it right. It helps if you've got a "don't give a fuck" attitude and aren't preoccupied with what everyone else thinks. I've had quite a few times where I was chatting up hired guns and they had other customers to tend to, but it was obvious they'd rather keep talking to me. If she's bypassing her job duties to talk to you, that's a form of investment. It might also be that she hates her job, but even still - livelihood is important even if it sucks, and if you're more important that says something. Just keep trying to talk to her and let her break the interaction off if she has to. Maybe her co-worker/sister will see she's talking to a guy she digs and deal with the line behind you for her - the workplace opposite of a cockblock. Chase is right, though, you do want to make it relatively quick and let her get back to her job, but you don't want to make it seem like you're doing it for the people behind you. Build up the interaction BAU, go for the number pull at a high point, and go about your day.

Happy Turkey Day to you as well.

 

[NotJamesBond]

Thanks, Inbocca. Makes perfect sense.

So it's start up a quick convo to get to a high point for the ask out/number pull, then get out of there?

Could I straight up ask what she's doing Xday if it seems like she's eyeing me or should I still proceed with the usual? I guess the convo we have can be quick regardless.

Good stuff, keep on keeping on
-NJB