Girl has a hot body, but she wears a mask, can't decide if I want her.

[Professor Oak]

This Friday I saw a girl working at a phone store. I didn't realise I want her when I saw her at first, but she was gone by the time I did. She wasn't wearing a mask that day.

Later my wish to have her disappeared, so I'm not sure if I want her or not. If I could take a look at her again , then I would have my answer and if it's a yes, I would approach her.

Today I saw her again in the same store, but she's wearing a mask and because I can't see her face, I can't figure out if I want her.

Any ideas on what to do in this situation?

Appreciate the help!

 

[mist]

How experienced are you?

Your actions will leave an impression on you.

Be cautious of any rationalization used not to approach.

 

[ulrich]

Go get her.
You’re a beginner, you should be firing first and aiming second at this stage.

 

[Professor Oak]

Go get her.
You’re a beginner, you should be firing first and aiming second at this stage.

But I do not know if I'm interested in her or not in the first place, that's the issue.

 

[Will_V]

But I do not know if I'm interested in her or not in the first place, that's the issue.

Too bad, just go.

 

[mist]

But I do not know if I'm interested in her or not in the first place, that's the issue.

It's not.

You're creating an issue for yourself.

I do it all the time.

Be cautious of any rationalization used not to approach.

How could you ever know if you're interested without approaching?

Furthermore when you're approaching someone you're interested in, how will you know you can do it? Especially know you can do it well?

Your actions will leave an impression on you.

(After what I've just been through I'd be happy for a nice body bad/plain face. It'd cleanse the spirit. haha. Now go approach women! They won't bite you or force you into marriage...usually)

 

[Professor Oak]

Too bad, just go.

I will not take a person I'm not interested in out on a date

 

[mist]

I will not take a person I'm not interested in out on a date

You won't be better for the girl you do have interest in then imo.

Plus you haven't approached her...

Have you approached anyone?

You might not be taking anyone on a date bro.

Your actions will leave an impression on you.

 

[Professor Oak]

You won't be better for the girl you do have interest in then imo.

Plus you haven't approached her...

Have you approached anyone?

You might not be taking anyone on a date bro.

Your actions will leave an impression on you.

1) I'm not gonna fuck any girl just so I can increase the chances to get with the girl I want when I meet her.

It's bad for my confidence, view of myself and my mental health.
2) Yes, I have approached women in the past.

 

[mist]

1) I'm not gonna fuck any girl just so I can increase the chances to get with the girl I want when I meet her.

It's bad for my confidence, view of myself and my mental health.
2) Yes, I have approached women in the past.

1) You don't have to. You don't even know if she's going to accept or reject you based off your approach, fundamentals, her mood, etc. Just approach even if it's only for momentum.

2) Approach more today. After awhile you learn that your approach doesn't mean anything. Any future projection you make means nothing. YOU DON'T KNOW. Approach and find out. Stop accepting any AA in your life.

3) You write in a combative and close-minded way which for men with experience makes you a waste of time. Not saying having arguments, points, and discussion is bad at all, but do pay mind to how you handle the people trying to help you and add perspective. I take no offense but I just wanted to let you know before your posts become redundant and or ghost towns.

(Also we actually made our accounts at a similar time too haha cheers man! How's it been going?)

 

[Will_V]

I will not take a person I'm not interested in out on a date

Seriously? So if you go and approach then you have to go on a date whether you like it or not?

Go and say hi, tell her to pull down her mask, and if you see Shrek ...

... too bad, that's your wife now.

 

[ulrich]

1) I'm not gonna fuck any girl just so I can increase the chances to get with the girl I want when I meet her.

It's bad for my confidence, view of myself and my mental health.
2) Yes, I have approached women in the past.

1) I don’t think you have so many chances of fucking her anyway.
Just go, say hi and see where it takes you.
She can’t force you do anything you don’t want.

It is actually good for your confidence and good for your momentum.

If your view of yourself is going to be damaged by saying hi to a not so attractive female, then it means that your ego is hyper-inflated.
The more reason to get out of your head and start being social right away.

I talk with a lot of people everyday… beautiful girls, powerful men, waiters, children, old women, unattractive women, ugly dudes, stupid dudes… that’s what charismatic people do.

 

[Professor Oak]

1) You don't have to. You don't even know if she's going to accept or reject you based off your approach, fundamentals, her mood, etc. Just approach even if it's only for momentum.

2) Approach more today. After awhile you learn that your approach doesn't mean anything. Any future projection you make means nothing. YOU DON'T KNOW. Approach and find out. Stop accepting any AA in your life.

3) You write in a combative and close-minded way which for men with experience makes you a waste of time. Not saying having arguments, points, and discussion is bad at all, but do pay mind to how you handle the people trying to help you and add perspective. I take no offense but I just wanted to let you know before your posts become redundant and or ghost towns.

(Also we actually made our accounts at a similar time too haha cheers man! How's it been going?)

3) I'm not trying to be combative and I appreciate the help, but I feel like some of the guys misinterpreted the situation here and I felt the need to clarify so they would understand.

2) I do not have approach anxiety, what I have is the not knowing if I want to fuck her because she has a mask covering her face, and I won't approach women I don't wanna fuck.

1)If I approach, I approach to get the number and get her on a date. I don't want to take her number and then not invite her on a date because it will hurt her feelings and I don't want to hurt anybody.

 

[Professor Oak]

1) I don’t think you have so many chances of fucking her anyway.

What makes you say that?

 

[Rain]

Perhaps you could take @Will_V suggestion above, maybe you could approach and at some point say "Can I see your mask?" and then if she gives it to you just have a look at it briefly and you'll also get your answer about her face.

 

[Warped Mindless]

Lots of mental masturbation on your part @Professor Oak

You don’t know if your interested enough to approach but you are interested enough to make a forum post about her…?

Then you say you don’t have AA? Lol, get out of here.

All of this would be solved if you just did what normal people do and go be social. Go talk to her.

 

[Professor Oak]

Perhaps you could take @Will_V "Can I see your mask?" and then if she gives it to you just have a look at it briefly and you'll also get your answer about her face.

Good, now we are getting somewhere.

Wouldn't it come off as creepy if I ask to look at her mask, though?

I mean it is just your regular one-time use
mask, nothing special about it.

Furthermore, I can see the outer side of the mask, so if I ask to see the mask, she's gonna think I want to see the side of the mask that she is breathing into. Isn't this a sure way to get branded as a creep?

 

[Rain]

Furthermore, I can see the outer side of the mask, so if I ask to see the mask, she's gonna think I want to see the side of the mask that she is breathing into.

That's the idea, so she take the mask fully off and you can look at it with your hands. While at the same time, seeing her face.
But you have a point . If its a standard mask maybe it might be peculiar.
Haven't tried it, some other members could say if they think it would be creepy or not.

If I remember correctly, somewhere on this forum, someone wrote that he, and also the woman he approached, they both moved their masks down temporarily to reveal each others faces during the interaction.. I think he suggested it during the interaction. I don't have a link you could maybe try searching for it.

 

[ulrich]

What makes you say that?

Your mentality reeks of beginner.

The fact that you “don’t want to hurt her” and that you fear you may end up in an unintended date is outing you as someone who doesn’t have enough social experience to handle akward situations.
Hence, you need to experience those situations where things don’t go 100% your way so you learn how to defuse/escape them and learn it’s not a big deal.

 

[Professor Oak]

Your mentality reeks of beginner.

The fact that you “don’t want to hurt her” and that you fear you may end up in an unintended date is outing you as someone don’t have enough social experience to handle akward situations.
Hence, you need to experience those situations were things don’t go 100% your way so you learn how to defuse/escape them and learn it’s not a big deal.

I don't see the connection between not wanting to hurt women and experience.

And I don't fear ending up in an unintended date because I won't invite somebody I'm not interested in no matter what.