Girl I almost escalated to sex with wants to meet for pizza and then leave from the restaurant

[ChefDan]

Met a girl at a ski resort where I teach the kids she nannies. Had a good first date, got her to come back to my house, and we made out within 10 minutes and spent the time making out, kissing her body, biting her, sucking on her nipples, and biting her breasts. Tried taking off her shirt but didn't know how to escalate when I encountered resistance. Seeing her once a week, and texting back and forth, things have been good. She even got mad at me over text and I brushed it off and she complemented me later on with my interactions with the kids and the kids parents and grandparents who came out to watch.

After finally setting up a date, I tell her to meet at my place and we'll go to a restaurant together. My plan was to kiss her the moment she entered my house and take her to bed and get her to cum with the adapted missionary position. At the last minute, she tells me she'll meet me at the restaurant and she's going to leave from there to go to work. This pissed me off because I am not in this relationship to get pizza and hear her talk just to watch her leave.

Should I call/text her to tell her to pick me up tomorrow morning before our lunch because my mom is using the car? Should I meet her there and tell her we'll get takeout, and eat at my house? I want to have sex with her on this date to keep her and show her I'm a lover and not a boyfriend. I can't do that if we have pizza over a table and she leaves afterwards. This date is in 12 hours. Any suggestions?

 

[ChefDan]

I knew I wouldn't be able to fall asleep until I was confident in my plan of action tomorrow. This is what I plan to text her tomorrow morning:

Look Claudia, you're a really cool person. I'm really happy being with you but I'd much rather spend our precious time together someplace private. If you are low on time, instead of pizza, we'd best meet at my house. I don't know what tomorrow brings, but I do know that if we don't get together now, we probably will never get together because that's just how things usually end up. So, I guess, what I'm asking is... do you want me or not?

Should I also tell her I have pizza at home?

 

[BigPapa]

depends on the vibe you transmitted her senor . If you sent the boyfriend vibe she will treat you like a potential boyfriend , which means she will postpone sex till you are invested properly

if you send her a text like that you will just shoot your self in the foot .
Stop whining and go for the pizza , escalate sexually there and then pull her to your home and try to make the conversion

 

[Fuck This]

Do you have an excuse for why you "have to be home"? Sounds like you are young.

Pretty sure she is dodging having sex with you and you haven't given her enough reason to feel at ease to do it. I think you are stuck with the pizza date and she knows what you are trying to pull off....

If you had another woman as an option you wouldn't wonder about whether to go eat pizza. But don't blow it off. That will torpedo your chances 100%.

 

[abond0082]

First of all REMEMBER I AM A BEGINNER, so take my advice with 99 bags of salt.

I personally think you should meet for pizza, and just go with her plan during the date be non chalant, cool, just a casual conversation, express sexual intent, touch but you have to show it is ok if she doesnt want to come home and the rest will be determined by time and luck.

Hopefully, some of the more experinced girlchase coaches will reply to you. Dont take anything from me unless someone with more experince could tell you what to do?

This hookup culture suks.

 

[ChefDan]

Update: I decided to meet the girl at the restaurant. I texted her an hour before that I'd see her there after she said she would meet me and leave from there the night before. I'm out of high school still living at home while working and my mom needed the car so she dropped me off at the restaurant at the same time as my date and we walked in together. I should note this girl is 5 years older than I but in school. As we ordered, I bantered with the girl taking my order and teased her and made her laugh. This cashier asked if I wanted a pizza too after I told her the pizza I wanted (she meant to ask if I wanted a drink too) and I grinned and said "yes, I would also like a pizza " We sat down and I gave my date my jacket and I told her to scoot over. We sat right by each and I touched her knees and shoulders and thighs a throughout our lunch. I rested against her leg the entire time.

The date went well. I chase framed and gave her commands. "Is this your go-to spot to seduce boys like me?" She laughed a lot and I saw her staring when I walked away to put our dishes away. After telling her I was full quite early on and having her feed me a bite of her pizza, I told her to give me a ride home and she obliged. I made sure to get us out of the restaurant as quickly as possible.

I gave her directions to my house and I made a joke that she was trying to abduct me with the doors locked. She mentioned her dad was an actual Green Beret and I said I'd take her entire family on. The ride was pleasant and she giggled when I gave her directions - "go straight but not straight through that car in front of us." She parked in front of my house and I kissed her immediately. I told her to come inside just for 15 minutes. I held her hand across a puddle and she followed me inside. She played with my dog and I took her head and kissed her again. I led her upstairs to a bed I wanted to fuck her on and grabbed her butt and kissed her. She kept trying to turn her face away after a few kisses on the lips every time but I would always be able to get her to kiss me back when I found her lips again after kissing and biting her neck. I got her to sit down on the bed, and I told her to snuggle up. She hesitated for a moment but snuggled up and we made out again. I pulled her on top of me on the bed and we made out but she kept trying to leave and I kept telling her to stay longer. I said "this will be the last time we'll be together!" and she smiled "we'll see each other again!" I would have tried more stuff but I didn't want to cross any lines pulling down her pants or putting my hand down her pants. I did notice that when I ran my finger up and down her leg and touched her thighs and butt she breathed more heavily.

Anyways, we finally agreed she really did have to leave as she's extremely busy with nannying and had to pick up groceries and her kids from school. Back downstairs I kissed her while she was getting her boots on and then back at the front of the house I kissed her again before I opened up the front door for her. I held her and asked her schedule this week and she said she would text me it. I noticed she was smiling and giggling every time I kissed her. She never frowned or anything. I think she appreciated me persisting in kissing her and grabbing her. Even when I opened up the door, I kissed her again. She even thought she would see me at the ski resort for her kids lessons this week and next week. When I told her this would be the last week, she was surprised (probably thinking she'll have more times to see me on non-dates.) Anyways, if I can get this girl out when she barely has time, she wants to fit me into her schedule no matter how busy she is.

I want to hang out with her during an evening and go back to her house and sleep with her. If we ever have more time on a date, I'm sure I can make it happen. I still wish I could have fucked her right then and there in those 15 minutes at my house but she kept resisting and I wasn't going to tell her to put off her livelihood when she was already going to be late anyway. I won't text her until I see her in person in two days with the kids she nannies. I want to tell her "let's watch a movie at your place this Friday night." She'll be working but I know for a fact she gets home 9ish or a little later. I want to sleep with her at her place and stay the night. Any feedback or helpful thoughts to get with her again as soon as possible this week (preferably at her place late in the evening) would be appreciated. Any tips on escalating faster? Maybe putting her hand on my boner or rubbing her vagina through her pants?

Thanks for all the advice, lads, especially, Gus

 

[Fuck This]

Does she live alone? Or at least in a private bedroom? If so your Friday night late date might be doable.

Does your ski resort have night skiing? That's a panty dropper.

are your parents going to be ok with you not coming home overnight? Can you pick her up from her nannying job and give her a ride to her home? maybe a short date-like stop for ice cream/coffee/liquor store. You gotta propose something more than JUST a movie...

As for your escalating it really is more of an issue of having the logistics and time. Make sure you have the time to do a proper bit of foreplay, give her multiple orgasms and multiple rounds of sex. In your situation you described, time was not available for that.

 

[ChefDan]

Does she live alone? Or at least in a private bedroom? If so your Friday night late date might be doable.

Does your ski resort have night skiing? That's a panty dropper.

are your parents going to be ok with you not coming home overnight? Can you pick her up from her nannying job and give her a ride to her home? maybe a short date-like stop for ice cream/coffee/liquor store. You gotta propose something more than JUST a movie...

As for your escalating it really is more of an issue of having the logistics and time. Make sure you have the time to do a proper bit of foreplay, give her multiple orgasms and multiple rounds of sex. In your situation you described, time was not available for that.

Yes, she lives alone, which is why it would be perfect. How should I go about suggesting this? Tell her we should get ice cream by her place after she's off Friday night? Would you say in-text or in-person would be better? She lives half an hour away from me.

The ski resort does have night skiing but I think it closes when she gets done with her duties (9ish).

My parents would definitely give me some trouble if I stayed overnight. I don't really care all that too much considering the sexual benefits versus the parental drawbacks. She drives to her job but theoretically I could pick her up if I theoretically dropped her off to begin with. Should I suggest this to her?

Thanks for the helpful advice. Logistics is always a problem.

 

[Fuck This]

It is much easier to invite her to your home than to invite yourself to hers.

text her "hey Jess, Friday night I'm going to be out and about around in Jess-town. I can meet you later that night. I'm aready thinking of the choocolate dipped softserve they have at the Jesstown DQ..."

 

[BigPapa]

You also need to take into consideration that maybe she is not that experienced with men , so basically you are facing now the lmr rather than exactly before doing the proper business

just play along as long as you have fun with her and keep talking with other girls , some girls take longer time till you crack them ( the inexperienced ones )

 

[Tony D]

You're doing fine. She doesn't want to be seen as a slut, and it's in her best interest to make you work for the prize... her pussy.

Depending on the quality of the girl, I'll usually give her three "dates." After this I might just genuinely think she has sexual hangups, and just straight up ask her. Is she a virgin? Does she have sexual trauma? Is she insecure about her body? Don't do any dumb shit like getting up to check your email, lol.

If you're really desperate to get laid, she will sense it. When you let go of that outcome, but facilitate it (getting her alone with you and playing) biology will eventually do it's job.

As far as wanting to be a player, it's a tough call. If you communicate that directly, she might be down... but she might get pissed. There's no formula other than experience.