Calls & Texts Girl ignores date request over text, but replies?

[Skjöldr]

Hey
So there is this girl whose number i got. She replied to my icebreaker text and then when i tried scheduling she went ghost. Few days later i sent her a ping text something like "Hey Name! Had a good weekend?" on monday. She replies saturday evening. I don't reply because i don't text on weekend nights. On sunday at noon I tell her i just got done with school course for now and back to work on Monday and that i made something cool on school. She said congratulations and asked what i had made. I showed her. Then i said "We should figure out a time to meet up, when are you free? And she just said "Ohhh that looks nice" disregarding my date request. I waited 4 hours and texted "I can't do Tuesday and Thursday ."

How else should i have proceeded? Ignored her?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@Peterdk234 dude! I'd have ignored her. To much effort and very little investment. You could have turned it around but it most definitely won't be worth it. There's a post by hector where he says if she's playing games you drop it. If she ignores a date request you continue as if nothing happened but you don't reward her by asking again, you look clueless.

You built a bit of rapport before asking again which is good you got some investment but she's still avoiding meeting you. If you were to send something I'd go for a ball in her court/parting shot message. Usually this would be to early for this (3 invites usually) but she's blatantly ignored it. So I'd drop her. Maybe hit her up again a few days or a week later but I wouldn't have replied the same day. I like how you ignored the bull shit but this is unlikely to work here.

 

[POB]

Hey
So there is this girl whose number i got. She replied to my icebreaker text and then when i tried scheduling she went ghost. Few days later i sent her a ping text something like "Hey Name! Had a good weekend?" on monday. She replies saturday evening. I don't reply because i don't text on weekend nights. On sunday at noon I tell her i just got done with school course for now and back to work on Monday and that i made something cool on school. She said congratulations and asked what i had made. I showed her. Then i said "We should figure out a time to meet up, when are you free? And she just said "Ohhh that looks nice" disregarding my date request. I waited 4 hours and texted "I can't do Tuesday and Thursday ."

How else should i have proceeded? Ignored her?

My take:
Saturday: that was mildly a booty call. You should have answered with something like: "Hey XXX, I was planning on going out with some friends to do Y, but nothing is set in stone yet. Let me know if you are up for something fun!"

Sunday: you missed her call to action and got back with a time waster. She does not want to know about your day, she wants you to take charge and set up a meet when she's feeling it. Remember: women take action based on their emotions at that moment.

"Ohhh that looks nice" is a 50% agreement to meet you. Proceed with "How about Wednesday at 7pm? There's this cool place who just reopened, I'd love to take you there." If she balks or flakes, move on.

I waited 4 hours and texted "I can't do Tuesday and Thursday ."
Move on, that last text made clear you cannot meet her...you bombed her, so she's prob a goner now.

***improve your texting. "Hey Name! Had a good weekend?" does not accomplish anything!
e.g. "Hey X, check out this banana sugar free ice cream recipe that someone sent me on whatsapp!!! (send the video). I know you love to train, so I thought you could use it on your diet" - Provides value and sparks an interesting short conversation primed to lead to a meet. Back and forth 2-3 times and ask her out.

 

[Skjöldr]

My take:
Saturday: that was a mildly booty call. You should have answered with something like: "Hey XXX, I was planning on going out with some friends to do Y, but nothing is set in stone yet. Let me know if you are up for something fun!"

Sunday: you missed her call to action and got back with a time waster. She does not want to know about your day, she wants you to take charge and set up a meet when she's feeling it. Remember: women take action based on their emotions at that moment.

"Ohhh that looks nice" is a 50% agreement to meet you. Proceed with "How about Wednesday at 7pm? There's this cool place who just reopened, I'd love to take you there." If she balks or flakes, move on.

I waited 4 hours and texted "I can't do Tuesday and Thursday ."
Move on, that last text made clear you cannot meet her...you bombed her, so she's prob a goner now.

***improve your texting. "Hey Name! Had a good weekend?" does not accomplish anything!
e.g. "Hey X, check out this banana sugar free ice cream recipe that someone sent me on whatsapp!!! (send the video). I know you love to train, so I thought you could use it on your diet" - Provides values and sparks an interesting short conversation primed to lead to a meet. Back and forth 2-3 times and ask her out.

I didn't wanna seem too available so i don't message girls on weekend nights. After her first text saturday evening, she sent three turtle emojis ("you're slow, hellooo??" I interpreted it as) 2 hours later, from 8 to 10. I figured she was hanging with her girlfriends or at a party and was like "lol let's text that guy i met last weekend". That's how i imagined it. If it was a booty call, it woulda been odd. We have never met besides our 3 minute intereaction on the street, so we are still almost strangers, and it would be scary for her to simply walk into my place saturday evening. But i won't deny the possibility that she messaged me from a point of horniness. It would just surprise me if she wanted to fuck. Could be wrong. To me she seems like a time waster. She haven't said yes or no to a date request so far. First time she went ghost for 6 days and this time she just jumped over it.

But yeah i have wondered if her texting me saturday evening was a mild booty call. It just seems low value to be available on instant notice on a weekend night.

 

[Velasco]

It just seems low value to be available on instant notice on a weekend night.

That's why he included the bit about, "planning on going out with some friends"

We have never met besides our 3 minute intereaction on the street, so we are still almost strangers, and it would be scary for her to simply walk into my place saturday evening

Ya that's also why he said "mild". So she might not be up for coming straight over to your place. But she may be open to the idea of you leading her to your/her place from somewhere else.

So in an ideal world this is how it would play out.

To his "Let me know if you are up for something fun!" if she WAS interested in hooking up, she'd reply something along the lines of "what did you have in mind?"

You'd text, "where u at?" Her: X location. You: oh I'm like super close by from there. I'll text u when I'm finished up here, so we can meet up later" (just assume she wants to meet). Then actually head over to that area lol. And when u get there, text, "Done. U still at X location?" Her: Yeah/no I'm in Y). You: cool be there in a bit". Meet. What were you doing? "Just catching up with some friends etc" Then lead and escalate to your/her place.

 

[Mr STIF]

Hey
So there is this girl whose number i got. She replied to my icebreaker text and then when i tried scheduling she went ghost. Few days later i sent her a ping text something like "Hey Name! Had a good weekend?" on monday. She replies saturday evening. I don't reply because i don't text on weekend nights. On sunday at noon I tell her i just got done with school course for now and back to work on Monday and that i made something cool on school. She said congratulations and asked what i had made. I showed her. Then i said "We should figure out a time to meet up, when are you free? And she just said "Ohhh that looks nice" disregarding my date request. I waited 4 hours and texted "I can't do Tuesday and Thursday ."

How else should i have proceeded? Ignored her?

When she asks you to show her what you made. I thought you would have used that to seed the pull, making it look like an excuse to meet up with her.

F: so, show me what you made at school?
M: nope
M: Its not something you can see now, we'll have to meet up for you to see it.
F: I wonder what that might be?
M: I can only describe it.. It's big though lol
F: whew! It might be worth it though lol
M: dirty mind haha
F: You started it
M: And we must celebrate it
M: I'm a little busy, these days, but I don't mind if we could grab drinks sometime this week?
F: ok.. When?
M: what's your schedule like, this week?
F: I'm free on Tuesday's and fridays.
M: I prefer Friday evening, very free for me.
F: alright.
M: I'll call your line, dear. G2g.

That's just how best I figured I would have transitioned to the pull. Seed something and let her fall into it making it look like something random.

 

[Skills]

Hey
So there is this girl whose number i got. She replied to my icebreaker text and then when i tried scheduling she went ghost. Few days later i sent her a ping text something like "Hey Name! Had a good weekend?" on monday. She replies saturday evening. I don't reply because i don't text on weekend nights. On sunday at noon I tell her i just got done with school course for now and back to work on Monday and that i made something cool on school. She said congratulations and asked what i had made. I showed her. Then i said "We should figure out a time to meet up, when are you free? And she just said "Ohhh that looks nice" disregarding my date request. I waited 4 hours and texted "I can't do Tuesday and Thursday ."

How else should i have proceeded? Ignored her?

Texting has to have a goal in mind, to dhv, test the waters and flirt or sexualize... Saturday she was ready to go, you not replying was a total mistake unless you were doing another girl and you couldn't text back, I hate when this happens, you have a small window of opportunity with women... nobody cares about your school project unless is something that will be conductive to the seduction like a 50 speed vibrator, but I digress, soft close to taste waters then, close....when she said congratulations, you do a soft close we should celebrate over a bottle of wine, soft close. Then her reaction then adjust then hard close... but is always a we convo that conversational thread of a school project is weak.... Definitely don't ignore her, turn it around...

 

[Skjöldr]

So i should be ready on standby to fuck her whenever she drops me a message? I was out swimming that evening haha, but i guess i could have tried to pull.

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I used the principles from this article. Chase says to not be instantly available. I did the same thing recently (redhead LR) where she messaged after 4 weeks of NC "Hey can we meet again soon? Sorry for not replying, there's just been alot of stuff at home" then i messaged her "Hey Name! Long time no see Hope it wasn't too serious, what was it about?" And she said "Long story haha but it's fine now so i wondered if you wanted to meet soon )" and then we start planning for friday and within a few hours and 3-4 texts she disappears and i hit her up Thursday saying "Hello? *Laugh emoji*" and she messages me at night saying she cant do friday because she has family stuff and has to cancel and i say "Ah okay, let me know when else you have time and we'll try again" and then i went no contact until she reaches out.

 

[POB]

So i should be ready on standby to fuck her whenever she drops me a message? I was out swimming that evening haha, but i guess i could have tried to pull.

Hahah, of course not. But as Skills said, you only have a small window with women. Friday and Saturday evenings is when chicks want to have fun, so they mess around with their "leads" to see if one of them sparks her interest. That's why she ghosted you prior, but sent a message out of nowhere on Saturday. This is standard chick behavior, you gotta start to pay attention to that. Check Velasco's reply, he nailed it down perfectly!

I did the same thing recently (redhead LR) where she messaged after 4 weeks of NC "Hey can we meet again soon? Sorry for not replying, there's just been alot of stuff at home" then i messaged her "Hey Name! Long time no see Hope it wasn't too serious, what was it about?" And she said "Long story haha but it's fine now so i wondered if you wanted to meet soon )" and then we start planning for friday and within a few hours and 3-4 texts she disappears and i hit her up Thursday saying "Hello? *Laugh emoji*" and she messages me at night saying she cant do friday because she has family stuff and has to cancel and i say "Ah okay, let me know when else you have time and we'll try again" and then i went no contact until she reaches out.

This is a classic case of messy chick. Most young chicks are like that: they have messy lives. She was probably looking to have some fun with you away from her problems (and you fucked her, which proves that). But with cases like that, in the future, don't make plans. Ask her out right there!!!

"Long story haha but it's fine now so i wondered if you wanted to meet soon )"

This means: I want you to ask me out now!

Her: "Long story haha but it's fine now so i wondered if you wanted to meet soon
You: That sounds like fun
You: Look, I do have to work until XX hours, but after that I can meet you for a quick coffee. There's this place called YY which is really cool, I was thinking around XX hour.
Her: "Today?"
You: "Yeah, of course today. Just tell me if it sounds cool."

Now tell me how is that "too available". As always, context matters...she reached out, you are rewarding making time to meet her. Now it's her turn to agree an show up...you did your part.

Remember: Time is always our enemy...more time passes, more shit can get in her way and prevent it from happening.

EDIT: if you haven't fucked them twice, you pretty much have to be available when they are "feeling it". Once you've fucked her 2 times, you do whatever the fuck you want (ignore her booty calls, reply 2-3 days later, answer with short texts...not optimal, but now she's "yours", so she'll probably come back for more...but until then, you ARE the chaser).

 

[Skjöldr]

Hahah, of course not. But as Skills said, you only have a small window with women. Friday and Saturday evenings is when chicks want to have fun, so they mess around with their "leads" to see if one of them sparks her interest. That's why she ghosted you prior, but sent a message out of nowhere on Saturday. This is standard chick behavior, you gotta start to pay attention to that. Check Velasco's reply, he nailed it down perfectly!



This is a classic case of messy chick. Most young chicks are like that: they have messy lives. She was probably looking to have some fun with you away from her problems (and you fucked her, which proves that). But with that cases like that, in the future, don't make plans. Ask her out right there!!!

"Long story haha but it's fine now so i wondered if you wanted to meet soon )"

This means: I want you to ask me out now!

Her: "Long story haha but it's fine now so i wondered if you wanted to meet soon
You: That sounds like fun
You: Look, I do have to work until XX hours, but after that I can meet you for a quick coffee. There's this place called YY which is really cool, I was thinking around XX hour.
Her: "Today?"
You: "Yeah, of course today. Just tell me if it sounds cool."

Now tell me how is that "too available". As always, context matters...she reached out, you are rewarding making time to meet her. Now it's her turn to agree an show up...you did your part.

Remember: Time is always our enemy...more time passes, more shit can get in her way and prevent it from happening.

EDIT: if you haven't fucked them twice, you pretty much have to be available when they are "feeling it". Once you've fucked her 2 times, you do whatever the fuck you want (ignore her booty calls, reply 2-3 days later, answer with short texts...not optimal, but now she's "yours", so she'll probably come back for more...but until then, you ARE the chaser).

I already had a date the day she messaged me and next i could do was Friday, but i will keep all this in mind for the future

The girl that texted me saturday evening is 18. So i don't think she goes to bars and clubs. Maybe horny texted me from her place or just with some friends somewhere.

 

[POB]

The girl that texted me saturday evening is 18. So i don't think she goes to bars and clubs. Maybe horny texted me from her place or just with some friends somewhere.

Yeah, she has a very messy schedule for sure.
Girls that young don't know what they want after 15 minutes of wanting it...fucking pain in the ass.

18 or not, it does not matter the age, but her personality...I'm always amazed of what those 18yos are doing when nobody (they know) is looking their way LOL...if she wants, she'll find a way to go wherever you suggest (In the past I got chicks that age asking me to take them to strip-clubs and whorehouses so they could get a glimpse of that scene LOL).