Girls with medium interest

[zeroman2]

Hi beginner here

So one of the things I'm trying to work on is my conversational skills.

But I realized today that I'm pretty good at conversations when it comes to girls that are outgoing and/ or they are highly interested in me. I deep dive, the conversation goes where I wanted to go, etc.

When it comes to girls with low interest I do little. Mainly because I don't want to put all my efforts into a girl that shows little to no interest and get nothing in return.

But my biggest struggle is the girl's that shows medium interest. Because they can go either way. Sometimes I deep dive and trying to have a conversation. it works but most often it doesn't. But when it does work the conversation doesn't flow as well like the ones with high interest.

Question
What can I do to make the conversation flow better with girls showing medium interest?

 

[Marcellus]

I get what you mean but you might as well show more interest and put in a bit more effort. I mean if you do they might reciprocate and you can make something happen, if not you just move on and find another girl! And that's a win win for you either way

 

[Derek da man]

Read up, or research, reading girls body langue as this gives you more clues as to why she's only a bit interested. Is she interested and a bit shy? or maybe she's not interested and being polite? Reading her body language tells you if you should persist or move on. If you can't read her body langue then probably best to try and polarize her so she is or isn't interested.

There's an excellent article on Girls Chase about using a Traffic Light System, there are also some good articles on there about polarizing and reading body language but there's also plenty of YouTube videos too although some are more about the presenters ego than much use. A really good book is Undercover Sex Signals - Leil Lowndes but you'll need to search that out in second hand shops or auction sites etc. It's very practical which suits my learning style.

Once you understand why she's showing medium interest you can either stop wasting your time as she's not interested which is why the conversation isn't flowing, or you can put some work into opening her up a little by providing a more appropriate conversational environment and then things can flow. The environment you provide varies with each girl, some love banter, some hate it. Some like a serious conversation, some want it a little lighter. Give the wrong environment and it feels awkward, give the right environment and things become very natural.

One other thing; try look at your listening skills. I'm not saying they are not good, it's just a thought as you said

the conversation goes where I wanted to go, etc.

Are you moving subjects too fast, has she got more to say on something, does she feel like she is an equal participant in the conversation with you listening to her answers before moving along? I like to let the conversation pause or hang for a second or 2 before moving on. At an early stage of interaction just day dreaming into the room, when things have moved along a little this is good for looking into her eyes. This pause in the conversation gives me thinking time and also builds the tension between us which can be quite electric if timed well. It can also put a certain pressure on her, some girls will want to fill the space and so will talk or open up, some girls will clam up so the length of pause needs to be used with care.

This is really about calibrating to her as in individual so can vary but as you've mentioned it as a common theme you wanted ideas for so it may be worth thinking about.