Going out every night on the limited budget

[zeroman2]

Hi beginner here

I've been studying game for a year-and-a-half now. even though I made a lot of strives and a lot of progress it's not at the pace that I want. (By that I mean I still haven't gotten laid or been on dates).

Now my first year I was completely clueless and it was so much information to absorb. (Not to mention approach anxiety). So I tried to do it nice and slow so I can get used to it. Learn from my mistakes. Try to be better. I only went out once a week. And sometimes I go a whole month without going out. But despite all that I did learn a lot and gotten better with game.

I'm halfway through year 2 although I did learn a lot. I'm still nowhere where I need to be. So in order to improve my results even greater I know I have to go out every night.

The only problem is I don't have any money to be going out every night. That's why weekends are best for me. And the main reason I'm only going out once a week. I tried going to bars near me but they don't nearly attract As much females as the one that little farther away. (Mind you I don't have a car). I was thinking about doing day game but I feel doing that only attracts the females looking for a boyfriend. I don't want to be anyone's boyfriend right now.(unless the girl is special). I just want to get laid a few times before I even think about having a girlfriend.

Questions

1. How can I go out every night while saving money in a process? Are there cheaper ways?

2. Also are there any other extra tips you like to give me?

 

[Space]

Why not chime into the recently created night game topic? Featuring nextASF night game veteran Skills.

1. How can I go out every night while saving money in a process? Are there cheaper ways?

Don't worry about money! According to his answer to me describing my situation "hacking the system" by going the cheapest way you can, preferably free if your circumstances allow for it is the best way to gain lots of experience. Go cheap or free is the night game consensus.

2. Also are there any other extra tips you like to give me?

I wouldn't rule out girls from day game I like. Approach her if she is a Fuck Yes. You can sort out your relationship situation with her (friends with benefits) after you've slept with her. Don't decide for her what she wants especially if the two of you haven't yet met and it's all only in your head.

A cool introductory video showing the big picture: How To Get A Girlfriend - The Ultimate Guide For Landing A Hot Girlfriend. Don't let the title fool you.

 

[Carousel]

Going out every night is likely to burn you out in the longer run, even if you don't drink, especially if you get rejected quite a bit. I would be careful about this. Plenty of people have made huge progression with 2-3x a week. I would probably do 3x if I started over again now.

 

[Carousel]

I forgot to mention another drawback with going out every day doing night game. Unless you live in some very populous area or party resort, many of the days will be shitty. So this is diminishing returns in terms of cost, experience, sleep etc. Would be better to do daygame some of the days that have few people out at night.

 

[Velasco]

I second Carousel's recommendation on 2-3 nights per week. As opposed to going out every night. That's what I did as a rookie back in 2015. I would also look at your limitations as positives: not having a lot of money. and having to travel quite a ways to get to the good clubs/bars in the city. These limitations FORCES you to get creative if you want to get laid. Someone who doesn't live far away, can simply tell the girl that is attracted to him, "hey want to get shots somewhere else. I know a really good spot 2 minutes away!" Easy. So in order to get laid, your options are 1) either get her really attracted to you, in order to bring her back to your place 40 minutes away (Think about how much better your game will be when you do live closer to a city where all the action is), creatively get her to pull you back to her place 3) outdoor sex (which can lead to some very memorable stories you can tell future chicks....to sexually arouse them) 4) Advanced: Go to bars/clubs in your area known for having lots of PUAs. Befriend one of them (once your game is good) and then help wing him. If you guys pull together, you like his vibe/you guys mesh well, exchange numbers. After a couple nights going out to game with him (or if he asks) just be honest about your situation. And if he's cool with you bringing girls back to his place after. Know you'll feel a little more comfortable knowing at the back of your head, that you at least have a backup, if its super cold (weather not being conducive for outdoor sex, although I've done it lmao), or the girl has roommates that aren't cool with her bringing guys back home with her. Ok so that about covers logistics. Now the money issue, to save money: limit yourself to 2-3 drinks per night:

follow this alcohol regimen by Chase:

• No drinking for the first 15 minutes in a bar or nightclub. Instead, get the lay of the land, talk to people, figure out what the opportunities in the place are. If not good, leave.
• No more than one new drink every 45 minutes. Ideally, try to stretch that to 90 minutes. Nurse your drink. It's not a rush.
• 10 minute break between finishing one drink and ordering another one. Ideally, wander around the venue, meet people, chat up girls, see how things have changed as the night's progressed.
• Maximum three drinks in one night.

Not included in the list, but drink water in between drinks. Add a lime if you want to make it look more like a 'drink'. To save even more money, since you live far away from the spots. I would buy a liter of my favorite alcohol. Keep it in the frig. And a chaser. mix it in an empty water bottle, then head out and drink it on the way to the clubs, while listening to your favorite pump up music. By the time you get there, you should be finished with your drink, in a good mood from the music, and in a really good state before walking in to the venues.

These are all temporary solutions of course. Until you find a job that pays you a decent enough salary that will allow you to afford living in a city where the actions at

 

[Skills]

I do like the idea of going out almost every night for couple of years but not every night, 3 times sweet spot.... here is sample of how went out for years:

Tuesday: ladies night
or
Wenesday: ladies night

then Thursday: college night

then: Saturday: popular night

now when i started working it change to:

Friday night: slow night

Saturday night: popular night

and sometimes Sunday: People in the industry (bar tenders, waiters etc... night)

here are some tips to save money, of course i don't drink or do drugs, that save a lot of money, drink at the car pre club(is drinking is your thing i am against drinking and drugs)........ Here are some other get in free tips:

1.- If you go to a club couple of times(minimum 3-5) and they recognize you, just go through a vip line or exit line, say hi how are you? shake the hands of doorman and hand on shoulder for compliance, then keep moving. Regulars usually don’t pay, which is the advantage of being a regular.

2.- Sometimes when clubs are merged (2-3 clubs put together) you can sneak in.

3.- Promoters, dj, staff, vip list. If you do not know them use facebook or social media to befriend.

4.- This works better alone.

5.- A group of vip people are getting in, you can pretend you are with that group.(playing stupid)

6.- Go before 12 usually free or half price.

7.- Most clubs have promotional cards for free or half price.

8.- Go out of your way and take the time and effort to befriend all Managers, bar tenders, bouncers, cashiers, staff, doorman. I do it twice when i get in and when i get out. Helps to know them by name too.

9.- New doorman and bouncers do monkey, see monkey do, so if they see you are getting in free from other doorman, they will let you in free next time, even if they quit.

10.- Saying that you know (name) someone that works there (hopefully you really do

 

[Mr.Rob]

I know its not for everyone but when I turned 21 I learned night game exclusively sober. Obviously its the best way to save money but.. if you can tough it out in the beginning the reward is you build rock solid confidence and ability to execute.

Just saying that option does exist w/ some powerful benefits to tightening your game.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Also you can totally get laid in daygame. In fact in many ways its easier. You just have to go for what you think isnt possible.

Plus u gotta think Sluts go shopping too ; )

 

[Cody Lyans]

Easy, don't drink. Get on guest lists online and get in early so you don't pay. And don't use a taxi, use busses underground etc. If you organize it right it won't cost you more than 5 bucks

 

[Watts]

1.- If you go to a club couple of times(minimum 3-5) and they recognize you, just go through a vip line or exit line, say hi how are you? shake the hands of doorman and hand on shoulder for compliance, then keep moving. Regulars usually don’t pay, which is the advantage of being a regular.

8.- Go out of your way and take the time and effort to befriend all Managers, bar tenders, bouncers, cashiers, staff, doorman. I do it twice when i get in and when i get out. Helps to know them by name too.

10.- Saying that you know (name) someone that works there (hopefully you really do

In this domain, it also helps to create notes in an app like Evernote (it's free with ads, but in my opinion worth the subscription).

Make a note with the name of the bar, can also embed it in an area i.e. "Downtown" etc.

And in that note put the position, name and description of those you meet, as well as details they shared with you, things you talked about, or if someone funny/interesting happened while you were there.

Bartender - Jim, short, goatee. Going to school to be an engineer. From the Mid-West. Girl got thrown out and you joked about it.

That way you have a reference for when you go back. It's especially good to do the first time you go somewhere, so you can kickstart things. In particular since you're trying to meet and remember details about many people at once.

But you'll also find it's very useful when you go somewhere and don't go back for a while, like with seasonal bars (only open in the summer etc.).

I do this with business contacts too, which is where I got the idea. The old school way was to write a few details about someone on the back of their business card.

 

[Chrance]

I second Carousel's recommendation on 2-3 nights per week. As opposed to going out every night. That's what I did as a rookie back in 2015.

Why do you say this? Did you get burnt out fast from going out every night, or experience bad health, or did it seem like way more than was necessary to improve, or something like that?

I know my first two years I didn’t go out nearly enough, only 1-2 times a week, due to Friday morning fatigue or being in a relationship, which slowed my improvement for sure; then once the relationship ended, 2-3 nights became every weekend and improvements occurred pretty fast to where I’m at now (end of third year)

So it would seem maybe if it were 4-5 times a week, improvements would happen even faster, but the hidden risk in my short experience is the rapid demotivation that creeps up, not including bad health and tunnel vision.

I think the number of sarges per week is interesting because of mystery’s 4X a week plan, to RSDs 30 day challenge, to 1-approach-a-day challenges. There’s definitely some variety. But in practice, 2-3 nights became the norm for me

Current example: in December I sarged about 4X a week (trying to incorporate day game lmao); now this month doing 3 nights feels like a psychological battle in that I can sense the burn-out building up so maybe it’s time to just chill out and stick to Friday and Saturday. Next month I’ll likely bounce back and go out more

 

[Carousel]

Doing TRE reduces the chance of burnout as you are not constantly pinging micro-traumas rooted in tension.

 

[Chrance]

Doing TRE reduces the chance of burnout as you are not constantly pinging micro-traumas rooted in tension.

Yesterday I did a TRE exercise for the first time, following this guy:

It was one of the most bizarre experiences I've had