Got Rejected With Phonecall

[authenticSelf]

Met a girl at a dance. Turned out she and I had met 3 months before and I did not make a move. She introduced herself. After thinking for a bit, it all came back and I was being my flirty self. I went cocky-funny and said "you get to dance with me, lucky you". She wasn't pleased. I laughed.

She says she doesn't accept Friend requests on Facebook. I tease her about having a habit of stalking her exes and that it was a weakness. She seemes uneasy and uncomfortable.

Asked for her number "text me your number". It was so natural that not giving her number out would have taken major guts. She texts me her name.

When I text the next day, No Response. I also left her a voicemail essentially saying "we should get tea/coffee sometime". No Response. After 24 hours, I text "??" and she calls me saying "You were very forward and I am not romantically interested in you". Quick fail here, which is good.

But don't know what happened there. Looks like I misinterpreted her interest/niceness as flirting. Maybe she already has a bf. Or got turned off by my cocky line or overall game. Maybe I didn't evaluate her enough

 

[M_Ronin]

Dude, you kept creeping her out. She was trying to communicate she was not interested and you kept pushing forward. It's ok as we all learn. But next time try to make them flirt with you, chase you etc.

 

[authenticSelf]

Dude, you kept creeping her out. She was trying to communicate she was not interested and you kept pushing forward. It's ok as we all learn. But next time try to make them flirt with you, chase you etc.

"You kept creeping her out" is not very helpful. This is a major fear for me which leads to no action or passivity. Also, I often get seen as a nice guy. So I'm learning to push and I might be miscalibrated. I don't know how to make them chase. I think girls just wont in a short amount of time during cold approach

 

[M_Ronin]

"You kept creeping her out" is not very helpful. This is a major fear for me which leads to no action or passivity. Also, I often get seen as a nice guy. So I'm learning to push and I might be miscalibrated. I don't know how to make them chase. I think girls just wont in a short amount of time during cold approach

Dude don't worry. I was in the same boat. I get you. I get you very very well. That's why this was something you had to experience imo. Sometimes we go completely other way to find the balance. What you did over text, I've done in person so don' worry.

Try redirecting your effort into making them flirt back as well. 2 step forwards 1 step back?

 

[authenticSelf]

Thanks man @M_Ronin

 

[DarkKnight]

Honestly, I find her to be awfully nice to be this direct to you.

 

[Starboy]

It's ok man it happens. Sometimes we try too hard to get girls who are not into us. I've certainly done that too. We don't pay attention to the signals and vibe the girl is giving off in the moment. If she's not giving you much positive attention ,but more importantly compliance to you then she's a lost cause. Also girls will give out their number to guys they don't like to get it out the way. It's happened to a friend of mine who I heard through someone else that girl didn't like him at all. Keep trying. Better than to do nothing.