Gym

[TheRuralJuror]

Hey there!
Well as you can tell by the subject this has to do with "gym game". I go to the gym 5 days a week. Or at least try to. There's a women there who goes 5 days a week also. Now she seems older, if I had to guess about mid to late 20s. Now this is the part that "hurts". Ive been seeing this girl everyday for about 4 or 5 months and have not said a WORD TO HER. She has a body, as with most of the girls that works out obviously, face is alright, and most of the guys look at her.. which makes me laugh lol.. but anyway... I've been seeing this girl for 4 to 5 months and said nothing. We basically leave the gym at the same time, which at times looks alittle creepy on my part. but I can't seem to say anything.. She goes to her car and I go to mine. She doesn't give me any strong ioi by the way. Now the thing is I don't know anything about her (obviously). She's probably not single, I'll be shocked if she was! She works out by herself, has headphones in etc. Now my question is how would I go about starting a conversation with her? Or Is it too late, because I've let many months go by? (My God!) I feel I'm doomed because of the time that has passed. Although it's my fault. But what would you do? Any thoughts on What should I do?
P.s mind you I go to the gym about 5 5:30 in the morning. So this is all happening "first thing" in the morning.
Thanks, TheRuralJuror

 

[Fuck This]

On the way out, Not on the gym floor, Say "I've seen you every morning I've been here. I'm RJ." and shake her hand. She should reply with her name.

The next conversation point is to find some commonalities..."So you headed to school or work? " Deep dive off of that.."Oh great, I go to the basketball games there." or "I have a friend who works for that company" She is probably in a hurry to get home and ready for work and class. Don't hold her back. But if you find she hooks, get her number to "Talk when we don't have somewhere else to be"

If she doesn't lap up your attention like a starved puppy, part with a sincere expression that you like talking to her. "Jenny, I'm glad I got to know you. I'm sure I'll see you around the Gym." Then get going. The next time you see her, greet her by name and go on doing your workout...after the workout maybe ping here about what you talked about earlier.

When she is responding to you warmly by saying "Hey RJ!" You can ask her more about her day, and work off of those details. Then determine if she is worth asking out.

Seriously though those guys at the gym, gaming girls on the floor piss me off. Be a gentleman and be friendly and accept if she is not interested.

 

[TheRuralJuror]

Hey TwoRocky, I'll give it a try Monday! But let me ask you.. is there anyway I could do it while "on the floor"? Cause we don't always go inside the gym at the same time. And in order for that to happen I'd have to wait for her, follow her etc... which can be creepy..so I was wondering is there a way I could do it while we're working out?

 

[Marcellus]

TRj,

Give this a read

https://www.girlschase.com/content/gym-pickup-dos-donts-and-how-meet-girls-gym

-M

 

[TheRuralJuror]

@TwoRocky
Hey! Sorry for the late reply, I've been busy! Anyway, last week I wanna say on Tuesday or Wednesday, I finally "approached her". It was on our way out like you said, and we both walked to our cars. At first I wasn't gonna say anything, but idk what happened and I finally opened my mouth. I had no idea what to say! Mind you, the convo was only for like 1 minute. Went something like this:

Me: Hey, can I ask you something?
Her: *looks at me before getting in her car*
Me: *at my car* " do you go to the gym everyday? Like on the weekends"?"
Her: no, only every weekday.
Me: oh okay. Because I see you everyday, and I was just wondering if you went everyday, including weekends. What are you, very into fitness?" (I don't know what the hell I was thinking here! I realized I screwed up!)
Her: *little chuckle* *i don't remember what she said, I was just killing myself for what I just said" haha
And we basically said goodbye. I had to leave because I had to go to work. got in my car, happy I said something, pissed I choose the wrong words! And I didn't get her name! WHYYYY!
And that was it. Never spoke to her again. It's been like 5, 6 days. I don't even know where to start or pick back up in this case, so suggestions would be GREATLY APPRECIATED.
I still see her everyday, and today she came to the gym with a guy. I'm gonna assume that's her brother, because thy look alike.. but I'm gonna prepare for the worse! Haha
So yeah, any suggestions anybody? Haha

@Marcellus
Hey! I gave that article a read, so thank you for that!
At least I can honestly say I've never attempted the "don'ts"!

 

[Fuck This]

Well for one thing you GOTTA introduce yourself, and get her name.

Be to the point.

Don't try to justify your questions.

Once you have her name, "Hey Jenny where you off to next?" If she replies she is "going home the screw her boyfriend" well then you know she's not available....

 

[TheRuralJuror]

@TwoRocky

I will try to introduce myself! Just gotta figure out a way to do it. Try to Strike up another conversation perhaps!
Maybe knock over her water bottle "by accident ". Haha

 

[Fuck This]

@TwoRocky

I will try to introduce myself! Just gotta figure out a way to do it. Try to Strike up another conversation perhaps!
Maybe knock over her water bottle "by accident ". Haha

It is a much more attractive feature to simply walk up and say "Hello, I'm RJ. I didn't catch your name." "Jenny, it's nice to meet you." and then do your thing, Working out or heading to your car, or whatever. You show her that you are willing to take a little time out of what you are doing to acknowledge her existence. When you have done this with 25, 50, 100 women you will begin to see the variation in their responses and indications of interest. Pretty soon they are engaging you. This is called developing a social circle.

When you can walk into the gym and the trainer on the floor greets you by name and the guy between sets on the squat rack says "Hey RJ! " the new girl at the gym automatically thinks"Who is this guy, if he knows everyone here, then I should get to know him!"

Ever notice a public figure like a politician as they walk by a crowd? They greet people along the way with a wave, with a nod, by name. People WANT to be known and recognized. Shine the light on others and you will be amazed how much gets reflected back on you.

 

[Ryan0802]

Stumbled on this for some tips for myself; figured I'd throw in my 2-cents:

A lot of my day game during the week has been in the gym. My typical approach.
-Make sure she has looked at me first (typically I do this unless she's about to leave)
-Do your normal exercise
-When you're both resting after a couple sets or if one of you are about to leave I say: "Hey, I noticed you over here and thought you were cute. I'm Ryan." ....she responds with her name... "So ____, I've got to ask, are you single?" - if she is I get the number and go from there.

Treadmill area, I'll start running next to her till she slows down... then once she notices me I'll laugh and say "I hate cardio.. but I thought you were cute and wanted to catch your name.." - they find it endearing and charming. Then similar process to above.

Typically works if they're single. Just don't lose track of who you've approached and a few weeks later approach the same girl twice - it's easier to do than you think