Handing the "How do I know you're not a stalker/creep" shit test

[perpetualsun]

Hey Guys,

A lot of times when I am trying to move a girl or try to go somewhere, I get the "how do I know you're not a stalker, creep, etc" line. My respond recently has been to throw it back at them and try to reframe it, but I am wondering if it might be off-putting. It normally goes like:

Her: "How do I know you're not a stalker? (usually with a sly grin)

Me: "Why am I getting the feeling you want me to stalk you? So what do I get in return for stalking you? "

Her: Says something along the lines of "nothing, what do you mean hahaha"

Me: "(pausing for a second) I think I'm gonna have to reject your offer "

Does anyone have any inputs as to how this compares to other approaches?

 

[foggy]

I would reply by saying something along the lines of, "I could ask you the same question" or "I was just about to ask you the same thing." Make sure to smile and be warm. Change the subject quickly after and build some comfort with her

 

[Regal Tiger]

I've had good results to just say 'nope, not a stalker' and move on.

I don't think all questions like this are shit tests, some of them are just comfort questions that they feel like they have to ask. It always felt like women who have asked me that, do it on impulse, and then just go along with whatever we were about to do after I just say no. Kind of like token resistance.

If it's in text, I always add an 'lol' or 'haha' before though. I feel like it's less creepy that way, never tried without it though.

In person, I'll chuckle a little bit and say that no, I'm not a stalker.

 

[Richard]

Her: "How do I know you're not a stalker?"
Me: "Stalkers don't where Nikes. Scientifically proven."
Me: "I don't have the patience for it." ( I bet even you laughed reading this.)

Girls typically only ask this question if you're vibe is off in some way while you're talking to them; usually it means that you're not confident about her being willing to move with you, or comply and that lack of confidence and uncertainty is off-putting to women in particular. If that's the case (and be honest with yourself when you read this and think about it; are you displaying confidence when you try to get a girl to comply?) then all you need to do is be more confident about moving women so just go out and practice it as much as possible with all people.

If she's asking it as a comfort question because the neighborhood is bad, because she's had bad experiences, or whatever the case is then all you need to do is display genuity, comfort, and reassurance in your voice and it won't really matter what you say.

-Richard