Hey guys... a few of you might remember me from a post about acne, on which i tell about not having ever cold approached a woman, get laid or anything like that. I've gone into small streaks of nofap since then (i'm addicted to porn, i used to masturbate compulsevely to porn for several years when i was a teen so i should definitely get rid of it once and for all).
I have this big national exam coming up on november 5th that is required to join a public university in my country. It's pretty close, so i feel like if i fail on nofap again until then, i'll be wasting this year's only opportunity for me to join a university (i'm 23, about time), because nofap gives me mental sharpness and i really can't learn shit when fapping to porn. I think that i want med school, but i'm really not sure if i want to be a doctor. That's also why i'm aiming to get a long streak on nofap this time, to see if it gives me some mental clarity, since i always feel numb like a zombie while watching porn.
Even though the most important thing to my mind right now is to pass on this exam, i can't stand not approaching girls on the street anymore. If i don't, something in the back of my head keep me reminding me of it and it turns my studying sessions into quite unproductive ones.
I read Chase's article on time efficiency and that part about hard rules and doing the big things first seems really interesting. So i thought: well, first i will eat my breakfast and go compliment one or two girls before beginning to study, because that's what keeps bothering me the most. I had to go to the gym either way, so i thought in seizing the opportunity to approach a girl on the way. I told myself: no surfing through the web or any distracting things until i approach and study.
And well... it at least helped get me out there, but it's not enough.
I see a cute girl on the sidewalk standing still with her phone on her ears but not talking... i hesitate! Fuuuck, i hate myself so much at this moment. I arrive at the gym. The cute receptionist is talking to an older woman; no one else in on the gym. When i finish working out, there's only me and her. I go to the bathroom and say to myself: alright, i'll compliment her on something and ask her out, i don't mind any awkward vibe between us in case she rejects me. This girl, i never made small talk with her, just very little formal talk about gym payment and stuff... and i see her like 2x/week so i thought, why not?
So i'm walking to the exit towards her, i look at her when close, she looks back and instantly says a seemingly nervous ''bye!'' which disarms me and just makes me answer back with a calm ''bye''. At this point i'm devastated. I'm near home, and see this girl like 20 meters ahead of me walking in the same direction. She looks good from the back, so i think on running up to her and complimenting her. But then i get on my head and give up.
I just came back from a small walk with the intent of approaching some girl, came across no girl in my path... foot traffic near here is pretty bad.
Anyway, after this long and maybe unnecessary story, here's my question: Have any of you used Hard Rules successfully in the beginning, to get you out there approaching? I'll be out to approach tomorrow morning again, and at least one thing i can guarantee: i won't allow myself any leisure if i don't approach. Maybe if i start punishing myself i'll feel like doing it.
By the way, thanks to Drexel Scott for making me realize one thing: no matter how much i try to rationalize my approach anxiety when it shows up in the moment, it won't work for acting upon it. I just have to do it anyway, as terribly uncomfortable as it may be in the beginning... don't try to rationalize.
I have this big national exam coming up on november 5th that is required to join a public university in my country. It's pretty close, so i feel like if i fail on nofap again until then, i'll be wasting this year's only opportunity for me to join a university (i'm 23, about time), because nofap gives me mental sharpness and i really can't learn shit when fapping to porn. I think that i want med school, but i'm really not sure if i want to be a doctor. That's also why i'm aiming to get a long streak on nofap this time, to see if it gives me some mental clarity, since i always feel numb like a zombie while watching porn.
Even though the most important thing to my mind right now is to pass on this exam, i can't stand not approaching girls on the street anymore. If i don't, something in the back of my head keep me reminding me of it and it turns my studying sessions into quite unproductive ones.
I read Chase's article on time efficiency and that part about hard rules and doing the big things first seems really interesting. So i thought: well, first i will eat my breakfast and go compliment one or two girls before beginning to study, because that's what keeps bothering me the most. I had to go to the gym either way, so i thought in seizing the opportunity to approach a girl on the way. I told myself: no surfing through the web or any distracting things until i approach and study.
And well... it at least helped get me out there, but it's not enough.
I see a cute girl on the sidewalk standing still with her phone on her ears but not talking... i hesitate! Fuuuck, i hate myself so much at this moment. I arrive at the gym. The cute receptionist is talking to an older woman; no one else in on the gym. When i finish working out, there's only me and her. I go to the bathroom and say to myself: alright, i'll compliment her on something and ask her out, i don't mind any awkward vibe between us in case she rejects me. This girl, i never made small talk with her, just very little formal talk about gym payment and stuff... and i see her like 2x/week so i thought, why not?
So i'm walking to the exit towards her, i look at her when close, she looks back and instantly says a seemingly nervous ''bye!'' which disarms me and just makes me answer back with a calm ''bye''. At this point i'm devastated. I'm near home, and see this girl like 20 meters ahead of me walking in the same direction. She looks good from the back, so i think on running up to her and complimenting her. But then i get on my head and give up.
I just came back from a small walk with the intent of approaching some girl, came across no girl in my path... foot traffic near here is pretty bad.
Anyway, after this long and maybe unnecessary story, here's my question: Have any of you used Hard Rules successfully in the beginning, to get you out there approaching? I'll be out to approach tomorrow morning again, and at least one thing i can guarantee: i won't allow myself any leisure if i don't approach. Maybe if i start punishing myself i'll feel like doing it.
By the way, thanks to Drexel Scott for making me realize one thing: no matter how much i try to rationalize my approach anxiety when it shows up in the moment, it won't work for acting upon it. I just have to do it anyway, as terribly uncomfortable as it may be in the beginning... don't try to rationalize.
