Yesterday, I talked to a girl for about five minutes, and it was going well. This is a bad habit of mine, but I usually walk off before i ask for a number, etc. Does anyone recommend any psychological ideas or even books that deal with this avoidant behavior? I've made strides in my approaches the past few months but really want to take it to the next level and not wuss out anymore!
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You are afraid of the cringe. I used to do the same as I didn't want to "spoil" a nice interaction by trying to close. No more. Even if I can tell they have a boyfriend, I will try to close unless they have actually dropped it in the convo.
You don't need any books or deeper explanation!
You don't need any books or deeper explanation!
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@MOutlaw78,
Easiest way is to stop asking girls for their numbers.
Start asking them to hang out instead.
At that point, getting the number is simple:
www.girlschase.com
(and if for whatever reason you can't do that, then the solution is to set yourself a challenge where to every girl you approach, no matter how receptive or not she seems, you are going to tell her she seems cool and say you should hang out sometime and that you may not leave until you say that, even if you've got to stick with her and follow her around for an hour just to get yourself to say it)
Chase
Easiest way is to stop asking girls for their numbers.
Start asking them to hang out instead.
At that point, getting the number is simple:
How to Get a Phone Number from a Girl Every Time You Ask
One of the most glaring things missing from the content available on the blog here has been an authoritative article on how to get a phone number from a girl. I put up "Natural Number Swapping" sometime back, and that covers the basics; Ricardus has covered phone numbers somewhat in a couple of...
www.girlschase.com
(and if for whatever reason you can't do that, then the solution is to set yourself a challenge where to every girl you approach, no matter how receptive or not she seems, you are going to tell her she seems cool and say you should hang out sometime and that you may not leave until you say that, even if you've got to stick with her and follow her around for an hour just to get yourself to say it)
Chase