Hi, Brand New and need some pointers.

[jszen]

Hello. Just starting out (25) and I have six "natural" cold approaches under my belt and one number. The thing I need advice on is the fact that I live in small town America and finding the girls and not getting a local reputation is sort of a worry.

I have three towns around that have decent shopping that I can run into a couple worthwhile girls each, and one "big" city of 80,000 that has a decent vibe.(All the local summer events are going on right now temporally) The thing is...

If I have to spend on average an hour in travel per 1 or 2 cold approach how do I justify this time output or maximize the effort. And how do I it so I don't get a reputation as the guy who hangs around hitting on girls.

Would a 3-4 hour trip once every two weeks to a big city and knock out 15 - 20 approaches be a better idea? I guess I want the experience but explaining to someone interested that I live 3-4 hours away sounds off. (planning to move in a year or two btw)

Any guidance or advice would be appreciated thanks.

 

[ray_zorse]

I think once you gain some experience this should not be too much of an issue, since you will be trying to just integrate pickup (and generally being social) into your daily activities, check out this page: https://www.sashapua.com/how-to-defeat- ... y-forever/
You can talk to people around you anytime, it's only when you actually "go out to pick up" and bang out some number of approaches before going home... that you run into issues of burning yourself in a particular place, etc. If you integrate it into your day you're approaching at a much lower frequency (less noticeable) but consistently.

Having said that, when you're starting out it's absolutely necessary to set goals like I am going to approach 10 women and do XXX. So yes, your concern about burning yourself is a valid one. I remember one approach went a bit bad for me in a shopping centre, I was innocently asking which way she was going as I was going to walk with her for a bit, but how it came out sounded bad and I think she thought I was going to follow her to her car and do something bad... I was worried she might call security, well it didn't turn out to be a problem, but yes, it is wise to be cautious and at least initially, go somewhere you're pretty anonymous.

The other problem you have is a logistical one, say you pick up a girl who is raring to go right away... then where are you going to take her? Your car is a possibility. But I think it might take a bit of skill to pull this off. Generally she's not going to want to get undressed somewhere she doesn't feel secure against prying eyes. A hotel / rented room is another possibility. Again, it takes a fair bit of skill to pull this off (has worked for me before, but you will have to do a hard sell which takes balls).

Considering all this, I think as a reasonable compromise, you should go to the nearby towns. You say there are only a few attractive girls there. I think this couldn't possibly be true, wouldn't any town of more than say 1000 people have plenty of good looking girls in the right age bracket? I reckon if you go there for a whole day you'll see plenty of girls throughout the day. Maybe you haven't got a whole day free... but I think going for a long drive just to do an hour of cold approach isn't that useful.

You can of course take breaks (a few hours approaching... a break for lunch... a few hours approaching... a break to visit the library or do shopping... a few hours approaching... etc). What I used to do was to leave work around 2pm (either side of midday is a great time for approaching especially in good weather)... and do daygame in the downtown till about 6pm, then take a few hours off for dinner and then do nightgame until about 2am... you can read about it in my journal.

At the end of the day moving is going to to be the solution. I moved into the downtown for exactly that reason and was instantly surrounded by hot girls all the time. In fact since I'm in a relationship now, it's actually quite painful to leave the house, since there are so many hot women around. Ahh well it doesn't matter. Good luck

cheers, Ray