Hi, I'm new. Guess I'll start by making a journal.

[KnownUniverse]

39. Unemployed. Tall. 30% bodyfat. Poorly educated. Trying put myself out there as often as possible. Heading out tonight and feeling nervous. Had some success here and there over the last year but i struggle with consistency. I would like to consistently feel and behave a certain way but my neurotic brain has me bouncing all over the place--some days im really grounded and full of masculine energy while other times i feel weak and constantly on the backfoot getting ignored and rejected by every woman i open.

Will see how things go...

 

[KnownUniverse]

not much happened on saturday night. Everywhere was kind of dead due to the easter long weekend i think. I opened a couple of sets here and there. Used my palm read opener where i pretend to read her future. I use this on the hot bratty chicks that will likely ignore me or give me bad reactions to a standard opener. They all want to know their future so it's an easy way to get them engaged from the get go but it does feel a bit cheesy like doing magic tricks so it's not ideal it's more of a last resort.

The first venue i went to had about 30 people in it which is nothing. I opened a 2 set of teenaged girls that approached the bar. they were about 18 or 19. I told the girl closest to me i can read her future if she shows me her hands and she jumps at me excitedly. Her friend also starts jumping at me to do her next. As i read her palm lines I do a bit of digging about them and find out they are in a group of 8 girls so i was probably not gonna get far with them. And the bartender was harassing me to make my order i think he was trying to cockblock because he can see im talking to the girls and he's yelling at me for my order. what a f-wit. I turn to him and say i've already ordered but i should've just ignored him. then the other girls wants me to read her palms and i tell her to wait while i pay for my drink and she says never mind and walks off.

i ditched that venue because it didnt seem to be picking up and i walked to another. On the way i greet an older woman and she is very receptive. She is in her 50s with a good physique. She had a real nice face and body but she was too old for me. I invited her to the next venue anyway and we went to bar and got a drink together. I felt embarrassed being seen with her because of her age. We were holding hands but she wasnt dtf so after the first drink i walked her "home" and then i went to another venue which was also dead.

This last venue had about 30 people. I opened a few hotties in their 20s and early 30s. Got close dancing with one from England. The tension with her faded after a bit especially when she took me to her friend group and i started talking to her friends so she ended up walking off and the friend i was left talking with was there with her boyfriend. My mind gets very erratic in social situations I'm a bit like George Clooney in the movie Burn After Reading which comes across as quite emasculate so that's another thing I need to work on-being calm and steady when socializing with women which leads me to my next issue:

I find solo night game to be much harder than with a wing. Mainly because I feel tense and vulnerable opening random women and groups like I'm going into battle all by myself. When I'm with a wingman or two I'm way more confident and comfortable. I do the exact same things I do solo, but I’m more relaxed, comfortable, and energetic when I’m with a few friends, which improves my sets—even if those friends don’t game. Just the feeling of having “allies” with me boosts my mood. That said, they can also sabotage me by saying stupid things, and since they don’t study game, they often just stand there watching while I do all the talking. Still, I’ve found it’s better than going solo.

So I think my end goal is to get better calibrated and skilled at conversing with women for longer periods then i'll start going with an experienced wingman. I also want my game to be better so i'm not the only guy in the group not pulling.

 

[KnownUniverse]

Thursday night went to the city, was going to hit a club but by the time I got there it was 10pm and my last bus home is 12am so didn’t want pay entry for only 2hrs. Instead I did a bunch of street approaches.

first approach took place at the bus stop near my house, two young Asian girls are sitting there talking and I greet them like a friendly old man as I sit down “hello!” I say with a big smile. They look at me like I’m a psycho and go back to their conversation. Mind you it’s like 8pm at night in a big city. A few seconds later I turn and say “you’re from Vietnam?” The one closest to me lights up and says “yes how do you know?” I say “you from ho chi Minh?” She says “no smaller region”. We ended up chatting for like 5-10 minutes until the bus came, she is only 21 and arrived in the country a month ago bless her heart. The bus arrived and we parted ways.

I get to the city and as I walk to the tram stop I ping random hotties on my way “hey” or “excuse me” I say but none of them stop. A couple slow down and giggle at me as I talk to them but they keep walking so I move on.
I get on the tram that takes me to the venue and a hot Asian babe passes me I say “excuse me” to get her attention but she doesn’t notice me so I walk over to her and open her properly “hey are you from Philippines?” She says “no Vietnam” then I proceed to tell her where I’m going for the night and invite her to join she says maybe later which is a polite decline. Notably I didn’t draw any attention to myself when opening her on crowded public transport usually every one would turn their heads and it would make me panic causing me to eject but lately I’ve been much better at “stealth approaching”, everyone around just assumes we know each other. If I can continue to cultivate my stealth approach ability that will help a lot with AA.

I get off the tram and walk to the venue. It’s too early there’s no one there it’s only 930pm so I walk to the shop for some gum. I get to the shop and notice a hot young blonde browsing the isles. I circle around to intercept her and open her as she passes me “how long you in town for?” she stops slightly shocked “huh?” I repeat “how long you in town for?” She responds “1 week” then I respond “there’s an event tonight you should come check it out” then she says “what kind of event?”. Damn, I actually didn’t have a good answer so I confess it’s just a nightclub that goes off on Thursdays. She doesn’t seem keen then some elderly homeless man gatecrashes the set and she walks off. I follow her for a bit and tell her I’m not with that dude and she laughs and says it’s ok but she has to go find her friend so I say goodbye and leave.

Now it’s like 10pm at night and I’m walking to the venue. I stop at McDonald’s and get a green tea then continue on my way. I then stop at a bench to finish it (don’t wanna stand outside the club drinking it in front of security like a weirdo). I ping a woman as she passes but she ignores me. Now I need to pee so I start walking to a public toilet and on my way I pass a real hottie so I open with “can I give you some advice on the outfit…” this peaks her interest so she stops to listen and says “ok” so I just start making stuff up on the spot then I transition to asking her to join me at the nightclub but she says she’s too tired and talks about her current situation that she’s in town visiting family etc… she actually had this amazingly charming British accent as well it was making me crush hard I couldn’t think of anything to say so I start throwing Hail Marys suggesting random things for us to do tonight but she’s not interested in anything so we part ways and I decide to skip the club because it’s now like 1030 and my last bus home is 12am so go to the grocery store instead. I open a couple of other girls but they only stop very briefly to talk before rushing off.

on the bus home there’s a hot babe in my vicinity who keeps looking my general direction but I couldn’t muster the strength to ping her. I couldn’t be bothered trying to game her on a whisper quiet bus full of people listening that would require a ton of energy to maintain a calm demeanour and not embarrass myself.

so overall no luck but it was still a productive night. I should’ve tried to number close more but I guess I’m more focused on improving my focus and composure at the moment.

 

[average_daygamer]

Fair play doing solo night game! I do that too. It's bleak. I couldn't work out which country you are in, I thought the UK from the words you use but reading further on, it looks like maybe east Asia with a big expat community. If you were in London, I would offer to wing.

 

[KnownUniverse]

Fair play doing solo night game! I do that too. It's bleak. I couldn't work out which country you are in, I thought the UK from the words you use but reading further on, it looks like maybe east Asia with a big expat community. If you were in London, I would offer to wing.

Not quite London but yes one of the commonwealth nations. They all have a large Asian demographic now that’s why I open a lot of them.