There is this girl in my school she is a sweetheart that always smiles and has such a wonderful personality, but i've never actually gotten to talk to her the only time i did was when some random guy called her "mean" in a flirty way well i brought up the same points i just spoke of but she just smiled and acted shy as her usual self. Since then i see her from time to time in the halls or something and she just looks at me and smiles and never says anything. How can i tell if she likes me??
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Hi Gtrmn360,
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Many of the blogs on this website will answer questions you have about approaching women. For now, I highly recommend you start from this topic here:
There's This Girl I Really Like, How Do I Get Her?
- Franco
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Try getting to know her more. You say she's shy, so I'm pretty sure she doesn't give much info away about her personal life. Shy people in general are good at picking up on other people's feelings, so if you could just say Hi to her in the halls or talk to her in class, things should work out.
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Gtrmn360 said:
As far as you should be concerned, assume she likes you (I generally operate under this assumption, after-all, what is there to lose?). Hurry up and make your move because attraction has an expiration date (a short shelf life at that), and make sure to move fast. If you already know her, it should be super easy to stop her and chat her up. Try to get a simple date, get to know her, and start moving from there.
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Hi Gtrmn360,
Genereally, you can tell if she likes you from the way she looks at you.
Does she hold eye contact with you?
Does she stare up at you with puppy eyes or as if she wants to eat you?
If she only looks at you and then smile away, then you can assume she is being friendly as she is seeing a "common face".
But you shouldn't drag this any longer than you already have.
Make your move FAST, and be straight to the point.
Tell her that you think shes cute, and would like to get to know her more.
Remember, you DO NOT want to be on her friends list.
So do read up on some of the awesome blogs already on this website to avoid this happening.
Light
Genereally, you can tell if she likes you from the way she looks at you.
Does she hold eye contact with you?
Does she stare up at you with puppy eyes or as if she wants to eat you?
If she only looks at you and then smile away, then you can assume she is being friendly as she is seeing a "common face".
But you shouldn't drag this any longer than you already have.
Make your move FAST, and be straight to the point.
Tell her that you think shes cute, and would like to get to know her more.
Remember, you DO NOT want to be on her friends list.
So do read up on some of the awesome blogs already on this website to avoid this happening.
Light
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My main 'sign' that I've noticed is that they treat you differently than anyone else, especially if you haven't really any reason to be treated differently, this obviously is only applicable at work or in social circles.
EC is also a good one, as people generally only look at things they like, but sometimes even deliberately not looking at you can be both as sign of interest, and a sign that maybe your not moving quickly enough./auto-rejection/
Smiling is also good, but a genuine one where the corners of the eyes pinch up.
Proximity, also a good sign if she's hanging around you, or shows up where you are, even if she doesn't engage you is always good.
And another less obvious one is investment, if she's investing in what your doing then obviously she's go some interest in what your doing.
That being said interest is just that, it's upto you then to build comfort/rapport/attraction and you do that by some kind of Escalation (verbal or non verbal).
In your case, just start by saying 'hi'.
EC is also a good one, as people generally only look at things they like, but sometimes even deliberately not looking at you can be both as sign of interest, and a sign that maybe your not moving quickly enough./auto-rejection/
Smiling is also good, but a genuine one where the corners of the eyes pinch up.
Proximity, also a good sign if she's hanging around you, or shows up where you are, even if she doesn't engage you is always good.
And another less obvious one is investment, if she's investing in what your doing then obviously she's go some interest in what your doing.
That being said interest is just that, it's upto you then to build comfort/rapport/attraction and you do that by some kind of Escalation (verbal or non verbal).
In your case, just start by saying 'hi'.
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The way I know a girl is into me is simply by looking at her. No, not staring at her, not glancing at her.
Looking at Her!
More specifically through your peripheral vision (focusing on the side of your eyes to look at a girl).
If your around her and shes completely checking you out, she either likes you or is interested. If shes kinda glancing at you, then she recognizes YOU! Take that as a chance to go enchant her world by getting to know her, not by showboating and bragging.
If shes acts super sexy around you ie. is walking like a Victoria Secret model past you, is looking uber fine, is talking to other guys around you (preselection), then she is either looking for a boyfriend or is specifically targeting YOU!
I tend not to go off how shes acts ie. shy, confident, aloof, excited, because any of those could reflect how she feels today or she can be anyone of those and still not be interested in you or completetly interested in you (girls can have game of their own). You can't even go off how she changes when she meets you ie. was excited but now is shy, was aloof but now is excited, all this says is your making an impact, but douns't mean she likes you ( can mean your doing something right or wrong, she was excited but is now aloof, shes probably bored).
Another more direct way to do this is to simply go up to her and state your interst!
An example:
You
stopping her, hand on shoulder or stomach) "Hey, do you mind if you walk me to clase?" (sexy eye contact and smile)
Her: "Umm... no, i don't know you (laugh)!" or "Sure!" *either ones fine but one shows confusion while the other shows enthusiasm*
You: Relax, I was merely playing. (pause, stare deeply into her eyes, still smiling) Actually, I thought you were cute and wanted to say hello. I'm *Insert Name*.
What this does is it breaks the ice, gets her to laugh (positive emotion, tension breaker), gets her intrigued, lets you know if shes interested and vice versa, breaks touch barrier, and opens for you to easily move her (investment). If she goes along the lines of "...ok" then shes not interested or its never happened to her before. I haven't had this happen before, but I realize it could, so its something you have to learn to respond too.
In all, if you think she likes you, then go find out!
With best intentions,
Luke
Looking at Her!
More specifically through your peripheral vision (focusing on the side of your eyes to look at a girl).
If your around her and shes completely checking you out, she either likes you or is interested. If shes kinda glancing at you, then she recognizes YOU! Take that as a chance to go enchant her world by getting to know her, not by showboating and bragging.
If shes acts super sexy around you ie. is walking like a Victoria Secret model past you, is looking uber fine, is talking to other guys around you (preselection), then she is either looking for a boyfriend or is specifically targeting YOU!
I tend not to go off how shes acts ie. shy, confident, aloof, excited, because any of those could reflect how she feels today or she can be anyone of those and still not be interested in you or completetly interested in you (girls can have game of their own). You can't even go off how she changes when she meets you ie. was excited but now is shy, was aloof but now is excited, all this says is your making an impact, but douns't mean she likes you ( can mean your doing something right or wrong, she was excited but is now aloof, shes probably bored).
Another more direct way to do this is to simply go up to her and state your interst!
An example:
You
stopping her, hand on shoulder or stomach) "Hey, do you mind if you walk me to clase?" (sexy eye contact and smile)Her: "Umm... no, i don't know you (laugh)!" or "Sure!" *either ones fine but one shows confusion while the other shows enthusiasm*
You: Relax, I was merely playing. (pause, stare deeply into her eyes, still smiling) Actually, I thought you were cute and wanted to say hello. I'm *Insert Name*.
What this does is it breaks the ice, gets her to laugh (positive emotion, tension breaker), gets her intrigued, lets you know if shes interested and vice versa, breaks touch barrier, and opens for you to easily move her (investment). If she goes along the lines of "...ok" then shes not interested or its never happened to her before. I haven't had this happen before, but I realize it could, so its something you have to learn to respond too.
In all, if you think she likes you, then go find out!
With best intentions,
Luke
Needing advise!
Okay there is this girl at my high school that i like alot and almost everytime i see her she looks at me and smiles but ive tried to talk to her just by speaking in the hallway to see if i could strike up a conversation but she just speaks a bit and walks on! And to complicate matters more her father is a teacher at my school and he doesn't like me at all! but i would like to think that maybe she does!
Please help!
Okay there is this girl at my high school that i like alot and almost everytime i see her she looks at me and smiles but ive tried to talk to her just by speaking in the hallway to see if i could strike up a conversation but she just speaks a bit and walks on! And to complicate matters more her father is a teacher at my school and he doesn't like me at all! but i would like to think that maybe she does!
Please help!
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Re: Needing advise!
Some girls do smile at you in high school and just being friendly. Hmm maybe she has class and walks on? She can't seem to be in a conversation with a stranger in school especially if her friends are around. They will think she's weird or a lot for that matter.
Checkout your surroundings, and talk to her accordingly. Then see where you can go from there, closing on her number or out on a lunch or evening dinner.
Zac
Gtrmn360 said:
Some girls do smile at you in high school and just being friendly. Hmm maybe she has class and walks on? She can't seem to be in a conversation with a stranger in school especially if her friends are around. They will think she's weird or a lot for that matter.
Checkout your surroundings, and talk to her accordingly. Then see where you can go from there, closing on her number or out on a lunch or evening dinner.
Zac
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Re: Needing advise!
Moved the new topic from "Field Reports" to "Beginners," and merged with the old topic on the same subject.
Gtrmn360, if you're going to ask about the same thing, please pick up where you left off with the same topic, and review the advice others had for you. There's some good advice there, and if you read it you probably wouldn't need to post the same thing again.
Chase
Moved the new topic from "Field Reports" to "Beginners," and merged with the old topic on the same subject.
Gtrmn360, if you're going to ask about the same thing, please pick up where you left off with the same topic, and review the advice others had for you. There's some good advice there, and if you read it you probably wouldn't need to post the same thing again.
Chase