How do you open a girl which you suddenly notice?

[SkillBuilder]

I'm kinda new to the game. I've seen all kinds of approaches described here on the site, but one. What do you do when a girl suddenly pops up in your view? Situation like you suddenly notice a girl and she's very close to you. Like you are walking out a shop and then you suddenly notice a girl entering it. Or you are walking past a building and suddenly a girl leaves it.

 

[BMD]

Hey man,

I find that, as the team have mentioned, situational openers often work quite smoothly. So say you're in line for coffee, you could say something like "so many good choices, which drink takes your fancy?". The more you do this you'll be able to come up with these openers on autopilot pretty much.

Or if you're really stuck for ideas a simple "hey, what are you up to?" can sometimes work.

 

[Kvothe]

For me, I feel that being decisive is the best thing you can be. Internally, being decisive and going for the open as soon as you notice the girl stops your brain from "overthinking". On the outside, it stops a girl from noticing you and seeing that you're kind of following her, which if she notices may get judged as "creepy". IMO better creepy than not approaching though. This is what I've been working on a lot recently. I'm still having trouble with it, but it's getting better.

One tip that I use that helps a lot is the 5 second rule. Essentially, if I see a girl I like, then I have 5 seconds to talk to her, or I allow myself to feel waves of shit. It requires a decent amount of willpower if you're alone, but the rewards are great. So much less regret in life.

Hope it helps,
Kvothe

 

[foggy]

"whoa whoa whoa! hold on a second young lady"

 

[Average]

Something situational. Usually I have low expectations for girls I notice late, but I approach em anyway just so I can squeeze whatever learning juice I can drink from them.

You'll get better at adapting to change over time.