How to become a sexual man

[Kvothe]

I realized that while I've become good at holding conversations, I don't think girls are slotting me into the lover role. At best, I end up in boyfriend territory, at worst, I end up in the platonic category. Also, this is only for girls who I talk to past the opener.

How can I become a more sexy man, the type of guy girls fantasize about sleeping with? I've read the "How to be a sexy man article", and I'm looking for more of a process that I can execute to help improve the pace of improvement.

At the moment, I've been focusing on three things at a time. The last three months have been focusing on approaching a lot, being touchy/physical, and becoming a better conversationalist. I feel that I've improved a lot on these three that I don't need to focus on them anymore. So now my focus is on: being sexual (either through behavior or conversation), and leading since I'm pretty awful at closing girls. Unfortunately, I'm not entirely sure how to improve the former, as it is a little vague.

Any help or advice on how to become a more sexy individual would be appreciated.

 

[Inbocca]

Kvothe,

Glad you're getting results from goal setting. Being sexy is a matter of mindset reinforced by actions. Your actions will be forced and hollow without the proper mindset, and your mindset will falter and revert without habitual retraining. Just for example, I've noticed that when I go through the physical process of a "sexy walk" but I'm in a bad mood or feeling really reserved, it comes off as very aggressive and unapproachable. When I put myself in a sexual state, feel open to everyone around me, and do the exact same walk, responses are a lot different.

The sexy man article you mentioned is just one of many. There are probably dozens (if not hundreds by now) of articles that are geared towards helping your shape your mindset and learn the actions of sexy men. Read these religiously and you'll get a better idea of where to start implementing new "micro-goals" to make the bigger goal less vague.

Having a seduction model or two also helps tremendously. If you know a guy who absolutely cleans up with women and oozes charisma and sexiness everywhere he goes, you can study his mannerisms and pick up a few things.

Otherwise, movies can be a great learning source too; I'd check this article series out if you haven't already. Studying actors can be good but they may not always get the best roles to study. Some people consider George Clooney a good seduction model, but in a movie like the Descendants he's very unsexy and almost comical. In other films, he's spot on. I'd advise looking for scenes and movies rather than actors, even though the actors are what you'll be studying when you watch them.

And like everything else, visualizing yourself where you want to be is extremely helpful. If you go out thinking "I'm going to try and be sexy today", you're likely to end up frustrated when you start doing the same things you always do. If you go out with the attitude that you are incredibly sexy and make an effort to do things congruent to that attitude, you'll get positive mental feedback and see results much quicker.

Cheers,
Inbocca

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Edge is your answer.

Edge is what arouses women.

There are 3 types of edge.

Sexual edge - you make sexual jokes, talk about sex, and she thinks that if you two were in a room alone you'd tear her clothes off. Think of the word "edge" here literally - you're always on the edge of doing something sexual. This is what we call "sexy." It's her knowing that you'd fuck her without a second thought if you got the opportunity.

Violence - are you a dangerous man? Could you hold your own in a fight? Do you not have a problem escalating issues to the physical level? This turns her on because it means you can protect her.

Rebellious edge - are you a loner? Do you do things or believe things that are contrary or even dangerous to society? Do you not have an issue having multiple girlfriends on the DL? Are you a criminal? Drug dealer? Revolutionary? Politically incorrect? Etc.

Any one or all of these make you sexier to women. The rest of attraction is more of a "that's pretty" attraction. Sometimes it's enough to get her wet, but it's these 3 qualities that drive women crazy.

Hector

 

[Rain]

If I was a woman I'd prefer the protection edge without the sexual edge, as opposed to the other way around. I don't understand why a woman would choose a guy who is sexual edge only. Not a complaint of course, I just can't see myself becoming the really rebellious or big fighter so it's just hard to get my head around it... and then possibly get insecure about it because I put way more importance on the protection/rebellious edge as those two are more likely to phyiscally escalate against a guy who only has sexual edge?

 

[Richard]

If I was a woman I'd prefer the protection edge without the sexual edge, as opposed to the other way around. I don't understand why a woman would choose a guy who is sexual edge only. Not a complaint of course, I just can't see myself becoming the really rebellious or big fighter so it's just hard to get my head around it... and then possibly get insecure about it because I put way more importance on the protection/rebellious edge as those two are more likely to phyiscally escalate against a guy who only has sexual edge?

Because your ability to give her pleasure supersedes everything else.

Also, keep in mind that when you're legitimately someone who can escalate things to a physical level, you find yourself almost never having to. Most guys who talk shit/escalate are testing you to get a reaction; if you back down they pounce, if you rise to the occasion they usually back away.

You're thinking too much like a man about this and not enough like a woman. Sexual pleasure supersedes all else.

 

[Snazzy]

in order to be god to women, they can't touch you that easily or you won't be god anymore. it's a conscious choice to befriend a woman. and a lot of the time it's useless, because most men that say they are friends with women are lying to themselves because they wanna smash and the bitch won't let them. it's bad man, but i got something so good for you that michelle obama should put it on top of the food pyramid, grade a top quality, high in nutritional value straight up motherfucking game. women want what they can't have. don't be so available. don't be nice, because at the end of the day, if your a dick you don't score points but you don't lose anything either. if anything, women want to change you more and chances are if you offend one person, that person you offended is sensitive, and sensitive people have a lot of enemies. so all those people will love you. and keep them chasing you. always.