So let's say you're a beginner and you're trying to figure out how" to do "what" and "what" to focus on "when". It'll be a pretty confusing ride and so I've made up a list of things I think people generally focus on that peaks their progress. Think of this as a way to categorise the advice you read. In no particular order:
1) So for me, the second biggest breakthrough came from reading the lay and field reports as I could see what a real life seduction process looks like and dump the imagery that TV has infected me with. Reading the reports and seeing what works, which you initially thought wouldn't, is a great way to see that girls are people who like talking just as much as the next guy. Its the unrealistic approaches we've gotta get rid of.
2) Fundamentals. Fundamentals. Fundamentals. The national anthem of the aspiring girls chase seductionist. These are used to CREATE attraction as they give the girls implications that you are a strong and sexual man. There's a lot to cover under fundamental and the fact that you have to spend time etching these things into your instincts in order for you to receive consistent result (and to get over the fear/guilt of incongruency) is usually where most of us get hung up.
3) Take rejections with a smile. These are learning points. One of the reasons rejections don't get to me is because I understand that girls reject guys who they feel they are incompatible with. If two incompatible people began dating then the resulting relationship would be toxic to both parties. So yes, rejections can be hard, especially if the girl (because of lack of experience or need of attention) causes a scene as she rejects you. But its a lot better than your other two options:
a) enter a loveless relationship that will slowly suck away the remainder of your soul's happiness
b) avoid girls altogether and live in fear of something harmless (rejection) for the rest of your life.
Rejection is a bucket of ice cream compared to those two.
4) Open......talk...number close....date......pull......physically escalate.....sex.
Moving forward is what separates the seductionists from the charmers. The charmers become bland because the girls realize that they're only good at being attractive. The seductionists give em..... shall we say....the full ride
Let it be known that moving forward from opening to sex is also a bit of a hump as guys do not know how to smoothly transition between stages without making it look awkward (I.e. You talk to her and then struggle to get her numbers because you asked her in a weird way).
5) Mindsets. So many illusions to break....so little time. There are many bitter pills to swallow when you arrive on GC and a lot of these pills are frowned upon by society. But you've gotta understand that just because the world TELLS you that its wrong, doesn't mean it is. they just do it because if the world was full of nothing but guys who knew how to sex girls up, the overpopulation crisis would be at an all time high and the power plays would cause problems on a worldwide scale (and other reasons I forgot to remember).
These 5 points are where I've noticed myself and others being stuck. I'd say that the beginner phase is you LEARNING the techniques to GET results and the intermediate phase would be you REFINING the skills you learned to IMPROVE your results and the advanced stage would be you CREATING skills (whether consciously or on autopilot) to PERFECT results.
And as you continue to grow in skill, you get ballsier in action as the "line to never cross" becomes clearer, so you begin to realize how close you can actually walk towards it.
But yeah....lemme know what you guys think and maybe add to the post if you've got some points
1) So for me, the second biggest breakthrough came from reading the lay and field reports as I could see what a real life seduction process looks like and dump the imagery that TV has infected me with. Reading the reports and seeing what works, which you initially thought wouldn't, is a great way to see that girls are people who like talking just as much as the next guy. Its the unrealistic approaches we've gotta get rid of.
2) Fundamentals. Fundamentals. Fundamentals. The national anthem of the aspiring girls chase seductionist. These are used to CREATE attraction as they give the girls implications that you are a strong and sexual man. There's a lot to cover under fundamental and the fact that you have to spend time etching these things into your instincts in order for you to receive consistent result (and to get over the fear/guilt of incongruency) is usually where most of us get hung up.
3) Take rejections with a smile. These are learning points. One of the reasons rejections don't get to me is because I understand that girls reject guys who they feel they are incompatible with. If two incompatible people began dating then the resulting relationship would be toxic to both parties. So yes, rejections can be hard, especially if the girl (because of lack of experience or need of attention) causes a scene as she rejects you. But its a lot better than your other two options:
a) enter a loveless relationship that will slowly suck away the remainder of your soul's happiness
b) avoid girls altogether and live in fear of something harmless (rejection) for the rest of your life.
Rejection is a bucket of ice cream compared to those two.
4) Open......talk...number close....date......pull......physically escalate.....sex.
Moving forward is what separates the seductionists from the charmers. The charmers become bland because the girls realize that they're only good at being attractive. The seductionists give em..... shall we say....the full ride
Let it be known that moving forward from opening to sex is also a bit of a hump as guys do not know how to smoothly transition between stages without making it look awkward (I.e. You talk to her and then struggle to get her numbers because you asked her in a weird way).
5) Mindsets. So many illusions to break....so little time. There are many bitter pills to swallow when you arrive on GC and a lot of these pills are frowned upon by society. But you've gotta understand that just because the world TELLS you that its wrong, doesn't mean it is. they just do it because if the world was full of nothing but guys who knew how to sex girls up, the overpopulation crisis would be at an all time high and the power plays would cause problems on a worldwide scale (and other reasons I forgot to remember).
These 5 points are where I've noticed myself and others being stuck. I'd say that the beginner phase is you LEARNING the techniques to GET results and the intermediate phase would be you REFINING the skills you learned to IMPROVE your results and the advanced stage would be you CREATING skills (whether consciously or on autopilot) to PERFECT results.
And as you continue to grow in skill, you get ballsier in action as the "line to never cross" becomes clearer, so you begin to realize how close you can actually walk towards it.
But yeah....lemme know what you guys think and maybe add to the post if you've got some points
