How to go from CUTE to SEXY

[normajean106]

This has been the last straw for me. I'm really tired of being viewed as "cute" and not "hot" or "sexy."

Most of you know what I mean by "cute," but for those who don't, I am referring to the adjective that describes an asexual *harmless* boy with no chance of hooking up with a girl whatsoever (note that this is not me at all).

This doesn't mean that I don't have a shot with girls at all, but I'm just really sick of having a slight majority of girls view me like this. It is demeaning and I've just had my fill of it.

Now I know that my vibe needs to change, but it's not that simple!



(Yeah it's an overused meme, but whatever this is how I feel right now.)

It took me years to develop confidence and wit, I didn't just grow my personality over night! Now to build a whole new vibe? That's like trying to reinvent childhood memories!

So I apologize if this comes off as a rant, but if anyone could possibly give me an example or a story of how they over came this, I would be very grateful.

 

[normajean106]

I've only, very recently, upgraded my body and put on a decent amount of muscle and cut lots of body fat AND go to a highly rated stylist and pay $40+tip for a haircut every few months, AND upgraded my fashion sense that u occasionally get hot and sexy from girls.

Radeng

I've already done this. I even have a well-trimmed beard. Yet girls still put me in the "aw-he's-like-a-cute-little-brother" category of cute rather than the "I-want-to-do-this-guy-right-now" category of cute.

I mean, the only thing I can think of that's causing this is my height (5'4"), but I would have to offset that with a really strong vibe.

 

[normajean106]

Ahh good man, I would reccomend staying in the gym and keeping building a more masculine body indefinitely as well as investing in elevator shoes if you don't already. Every guy should do this but esp short guys IMO.

Hmm so you are def needing a bit of an attitude change and I would say the first thing is not worrying about changing your personality and vibe nearly as much as your attitude. Believe deep down that you are hot shit and repeat it to yourself often. Read mr. charmings posts on here. He's got the attitude down.

Now, the way your attitude should change needs an action change and a idgaf method.

Pull the trigger fuck the results. Don't try to be different than you are, just stop caring about attracting women and their reactions. Pull the trigger, screen out the uninterested chicks, fuck the interested ones.

How? Touch girls more and try to close faster and more often.

Simple. Develop a thick skin. Your vibe will naturally change with this method as long as you don't let it get you down. This method requires lots of "rejection" or as good looking loser puts it, lots of "screening".

They view you as harmless because they don't think you'll make a move. Once you start making moves on them, they won't think that way anymore.

You don't have to act any different if you're already mildly charming. Just touch girls and ask them out early and often and cocky and confidently. The more you do it and the stronger belief that you have that "she's so lucky in asking her out" the less brotherly you'll come off.

Radeng

I think I get it now. Yeah I don't even know why I cared so much about reactions. They're not results so why bother.

Pull the trigger fuck the results. Don't try to be different than you are, just stop caring about attracting women and their reactions. Pull the trigger, screen out the uninterested chicks, fuck the interested ones.

I'll stick with this from here on out. Thanks for the tip.

 

[GeneralFap]

There MUST be something(s) you are doing wrong with your non-verbals that's making you come across as "Cute" and not "Sexy." Or maybe you are just overreacting? A lot of women find the artist Prince sexy, and that guy is like 5'3. You probably have the looks, now you just need the attitude.

 

[Eddy D]

Here's an quick thing you can do to change the situation. Any girl who calls you "cute" in a "he's like my little brother way" is comfortable around you, which us good. Next time a girl say

s you're cute look at her slowly yet mockingly with a quizzical look. Raise one eyebrow, look at her in a " oh, so thts wht u thnk" kinda way. Be absolutely calm and dont smile or you myt just b cute.

You can throw in a "You think so?" but dont wait for an answer, it's rhetorical. If she answers change the subject. And after that you work like hell to show her how you're not cute. You turn the sexy up. Start having more sexual convos, more touching, flirting the likes. Hope this helps.

 

[Bboy100]

Yeah...tbh, most girls use the term "cute" as a way of saying that you're sexually attractive. There are a few girls who I slept with on the first night I met them and they still called me "cute". Tbh, I don't think most girls use the term "hot" or "sexy" all that often in the first place.

This can apply to men too. Personally, I never call a girl "sexy". Just not a word I use often. Instead, I just stick with "cute" and "hot". And to me, those two words are synonyms.

It's all semantics dude. I wouldn't worry about this at all.

 

[normajean106]

Yeah...tbh, most girls use the term "cute" as a way of saying that you're sexually attractive. There are a few girls who I slept with on the first night I met them and they still called me "cute". Tbh, I don't think most girls use the term "hot" or "sexy" all that often in the first place.

This can apply to men too. Personally, I never call a girl "sexy". Just not a word I use often. Instead, I just stick with "cute" and "hot". And to me, those two words are synonyms.

It's all semantics dude. I wouldn't worry about this at all.

Yes you're probably right (as a novice I wouldn't quite know). However, its not being called cute that bothers me, its being treated like a cute little brother that kind of annoys me.

When a girl does this to me, she isn't taking me seriously as a potential lover. I'm basically being put in the friendzone even though I tried presenting myself as a lover. Its a fail pickup attempt, if you will.

What I'm trying to do to correct this is to tone down my friendliness (in terms of vibe), and I'm focusing on getting my devil-may-care attitude back to where it should be.

 

[Bboy100]

Ok, then you need to figure out why girls are treating you like this.

Do you look like a 12 year old boy? If so...grow some facial hair, get some better looking clothes, put on some muscle, improve your other fundamentals.
Do you behave in a goofy/low status way? If so, stop trying so hard to get people to like you, quit trying to be funny, stop vying for people's attention, look bored every once in a while, be a little bit of an asshole.

Some other reason?

...Just remember, it's a process. You won't fix it overnight. But as you get better at this stuff, people will naturally start to take you more seriously.

 

[disciple99]

Hey Man if girls are treating you like a kid brother then imo you must be doing some white knighting or nice guy stuff for her then you need be a bit of an asshole and i also would look into subtext like other playa mentioned
and if get a complimet as "NICE" then you need to become an asshole quick tip use a bit swearing early on in interactions
well i am a born asshole and i also dont like word nice or cute (i once picked up a fight with a guy after seeing girls commenting about me being nice to let them know in not a nice guy in 8th grade i never liked these words)
how do i know this i have lot of nice guy friends whom girls make them do work with silver tounge and they supplicate though i have warned them. to same gals i ask compliance they give me