Special Girl How to move on when you still see her everyday

[Spyce D]

Basically, I got oneities on a girl that I initially felt that would result in lay ( cuz of how we were vibing , like she playing romantic songs when we both were listening to music via earphones ) but for some reason ... Shit happened right at the peak of things .

Now , even though things are normal and I might still try to lay her but I also want to able to move on if things don't go my way .

But , cuz we both study in the same institute ( it's quite small like 50-70 students) so , I would still be meeting her everyday . ( Still do ) .

By the way ,.she actually helped me to realise the major flaws in my seduction skills and myself . So , thank you 'K' .

 

[Rakehell]

Living an active lifestyle where you’re meeting new girls, and working toward the things you want to accomplish.

Heavy emphasis on meeting different girls and bringing them into your life.

Oneitis before you’ve done anything is alot different from oneitis for a girl you’ve already slept with.

Oneitis for a girl you haven’t done anything with stems from idealizing her traits and fantasizing about what it’d be like to get with her.

A lack of closure over the situation due to not leading it forward strongly enough and getting a definitive answer over whether or not things will lead anywhere (not being rejected officially).

In addition to not having concrete options with other girls you can direct your attention toward. A lack of prospects that you are “dating”.

It leads to a lot of rumination and fantasizing over something that isn’t based in objective reality.

 

[Chad Tyrone]

Now , even though things are normal and I might still try to lay her but I also want to able to move on if things don't go my way .

You should be outcome independent with every girl you meet.

If you are totally done with her but are still stuck trying to move things forward even when things don't seem to be going anywhere, then let her go this way.

On girls you've dropped but still keep running into ,you can be aloof with them.Feel free to greet them when you cross paths or greet them back when they greet you ...don't harbor bitter feelings just because it didn't go anywhere.

Basically ''leave'' them gracefully but invest zero energy in moving things further with them like Chase puts it in the article I linked above.

This will also help on that note.

Anyways, you can always persist and see if you can turn things around.Sometimes things work out .Sometimes they don't.Don't worry about that ...you'll be learning in the process of what times to persist and when not to.It comes with time.

Chad Tyrone

 

[Spyce D]

Oneitis for a girl you haven’t done anything with stems from idealizing her traits and fantasizing about what it’d be like to get with her.

Yes . She had been really sweet to me and actually helped me in clearing the exam . So , how could my heart resist .

lack of closure over the situation due to not leading it forward strongly enough and getting a definitive answer over whether or not things will lead anywhere (not being rejected officially).

Yeah . As , I only worked on my social circle since September ( never had one before) so ... I was very cautious while navigating the waters ... And that lead me to not lead the women ... I wanted .... Strongly .

Like , I would make implicit remarks , do kino and stuff but it all meant nothing cuz I never cleared my intentions . .

 

[Spyce D]

Basically ''leave'' them gracefully but invest zero energy in moving things further with them like Chase puts it in the article I linked above.

This will also help on that note.

1. If she’s awkward around you but it isn’t malicious, just be neutral. Do not go out of your way to engage her in conversation. Don’t try to be friendly. Don’t be a pal. Just give her a smile and a nod and some bare minimum conversation, and move on. Don’t ask her anything other than the smallest of small talk: how’s your day going, how’s that ankle you injured, you ace that test? Keep it to one question maximum (or none at all), and keep your questions short. She should have the distinct feel just from talking to you that you’ve pushed her to the side and aren’t much dealing with her, even if you aren’t outright hostile with her. She’s just kind of a non-factor to you.

It seems like I did the right thing till 11th December . Talking about the above snippet from @Chase .

She was being a bit awkward or say a fake polite around me ... And sometimes would just stare at me ( even though, she used to have a big smile ...when she saw me ... Generally) but she wasn't like that with her friends, tho. ( So ,.it all being due to exams doesn't seem well withe) .

But ,.after the exams ... Magically... She herself has been initiating conversations . Hell ! Even texted me asking about my result and so.

When you're meeting new women, the mentality you want is not, "How do I get this girl?" but rather, "Let's see if this girl is one that I get." This removes a lot of pressure and allows you to behave much more naturally around her.

This is a much better mindset to have in this situation. Cuz , we both are in same class now .

And , mind you ... I do have preselection ... ( But ,.she is yet to see it ) So , it's not like I am only talking to one chick ( cuz I am not ) ... Its just more about how she made me feel ( wrote like a total simp ) .

 

[theReason]

By the way ,.she actually helped me to realise the major flaws in my seduction skills and myself . So , thank you 'K' .

Just focus on this benefit, because it is a real benefit.

Where necessary (if she is exceptionally warm, or exceptionally hostile, for instance), pour some sexual energy into your interactions with her, and she will give you positive vibes in return.

Orbiter status is not as good as sex, but it’s infinitely better than being on a woman’s bad side.

But you should be looking to other women for your sexual needs.

 

[Spyce D]

she is exceptionally warm,

She is

 

[theReason]

Yeah, when she is exhibiting exceptionally warm behavior around you, feel free to pour some sexual energy into the interaction (I explain what I mean by that here) and enjoy the good vibes she gives you in return.

But don’t expect to have sex with this girl. Find other girls for sex.

And when she’s being cold to you, follow Chase’s protocol.

 

[YS.]

Living an active lifestyle where you’re meeting new girls, and working toward the things you want to accomplish.

Heavy emphasis on meeting different girls and bringing them into your life.

Oneitis before you’ve done anything is alot different from oneitis for a girl you’ve already slept with.

Oneitis for a girl you haven’t done anything with stems from idealizing her traits and fantasizing about what it’d be like to get with her.

A lack of closure over the situation due to not leading it forward strongly enough and getting a definitive answer over whether or not things will lead anywhere (not being rejected officially).

In addition to not having concrete options with other girls you can direct your attention toward. A lack of prospects that you are “dating”.

It leads to a lot of rumination and fantasizing over something that isn’t based in objective reality.

This is an incredible post.

 

[Rakehell]

Yeah . As , I only worked on my social circle since September ( never had one before) so ... I was very cautious while navigating the waters ... And that lead me to not lead the women ... I wanted .... Strongly .

My experience with social circle has taught me that yes, you don’t want to rock the boat too much and do things that’d look bad on you.

But the fear of reputation damage is a bit overblown and most of the time the things you do won’t have any effect in a long standing negative way, as long as you are not doing anything very uncalibrated.

Flirting, kino, conversation, etc, all help in the moment but don’t do much in terms of solidifying the kinds of relationships that you want.

You will remember these tactics because it is you deliberately doing them to get something that you want. But for her they will just feel good in the moment and become forgotten if not translated into a long standing impression or memory of you (taking her out, having her do things with you outside of that).

Think of it like eating a snack or candy versus a meal at a restaurant. You may not be able to remember a snack you ate last monday, but if you went to a restaurant you can vividly remember what you ordered.

Feeding her candy in the beginning may cause her to idealize the situation and fantasize in the same way as you. Because these actions have the potential to lead somewhere.

But if it does not lead anywhere (something that you have to proactively do), she will forget all the candy you are feeding her within time because she will stop associating it with it leading to something.

Some girls you can feed candy and they will have oneitis in the same way as you for an extended period of time, but this goes away when they are fed a meal by someone else.

Being in a seducers mindset (deploying tactics to overcome obstacles), causes us to remember and put more emphasis on small actions.

But these actions are not remembered as strongly, if at all, by the ones we use these tactics on. The feelings they get from your tactics have to be solidified by events (i.e asking them out, getting their number, taking them out, sleeping with them).